Advise and support needed, please (and thank you)

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3/31/12 1:04 P

(((((HUGS))))) to all of you. A loss is hard. Going through something myself (a loss) I keep reminding myself that it does get easier. Take time to greive and be nice to yourself. At this time you need to be your own best friend. I lean on Jesus............just can't do this alone.

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3/31/12 9:23 A

I agree with ELENGIL. I'm going through a breakup myself and finding it very hard to stay on track with things.

I'm dialing everything back - minimizing committments, reducing my to do list to ONLY critical things (and most things aren't as critical as we think) and just trying to simplify so I have time and space to cry or write, read, lie down for a while, or just zone out.

I'm also not eating enough or eating junky foods but at the same time trying to not go completely berserk with either. I have a lot of healthy food bars around, most of them involving chocolate as well, and most times I end up eating those. Not ideal, but some of them do have greens, veggies and fruit in them, and have a satisfying candy bar-ish taste to them.

I also have chocolate shakes with chocolate protein powder. At least these things address both the desire for chocolate and a bit of decent nutrition without having to really get involved with cooking or deciding what to eat. I can't even manage to put a sandwich together at the moment.

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3/31/12 12:58 A

I would say: let yourself grieve. This is a major upheaval in your life, major changes/loss. Let yourself grieve over it and not push too hard to do anything that you aren't feeling like.

One thing that can help your feelings, though, is going for walks. Nothing strenuous, just getting moving a little and into some fresh air (if the weather is good). Maybe in a park, or at the beach: some calm setting you enjoy to let yourself reconnect with who you are and let your head clear.

Continue to eat healthy, but don't force yourself to eat if you aren't hungry. Let yourself work through this.

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3/31/12 12:45 A

I find myself going through a major life change. My relationship of twelve years is ending and I am a mess. When I experience stress, it makes it very difficult for me to eat anything. By not eating I am losing focus and hurting the progress that I have made on my lifestyle change journey, ex: no energy to exercise, no motivation to exercise.....this is an unhealthy cycle. Any input is welcome.........................