develop good work habits and learn not to procrastinate.
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Live by the Ten Commandments. They were excellent advice when given, and they have endured for a reason. Have a personal relationship with God, respect people, always do your best at whatever you do, take responsibility for your actions.
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As KJ posted another question within this thread regarding kids and entitlement, I will answer it now.
Yes I find that children of all ages think they are entitled to the following:
1. To have the best of everything 2 Receive allowance 3. Be rude to all that surround them especially their elders 4 Call adults by their first name (for kids under 16) 5 To get what they want, when they want and for their parents to pay for it 6 To stay at home and not work 7 To have their parents drive them to school 8 To not be held accountable for their actions 9 To not say please or thank you 10 Use computers, PDAs etc instead of their brains and converse with others the old fashioned way!
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The things that seem so important when you are young are almost forgotten when you are older. So, do not stress over those things, but spend that energy on loving yourself.
I think that the sense of entitlement that a lot of people have today pretty much started (took root) with some of the baby boomers (who were the apples of their parents' eyes after WWII, leading some of them to be spoiled and end up having feelings of entitlement). I think that the problem has grown exponentially since that time. Parent are responsible for their kids having these feelings of entitlement because they either pass them on directly or they spoil their kids, making them feel entitled. Today's youth (certainly not all, because there are some good kids out there, but definitely most) has an overall shockingly huge sense of entitlement, much greater than previous generations. I wonder what their kids will be like, because the problem seems to grow with every generation.
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Be yourself, stick with the winners, get an education, be kind, believe that you are lovable, cultivate good health habits, stay physically active, read-all kinds of books-meditate, love your parents, enjoy your family, go to church. There's more, but this is a good start.
Get up out of bed, get off the computer and get a job so that you can support yourself instead of thinking your parents should support you for as long as they live. Trust me, they aren't going to be able (or they're just going to get tired of your lazy, entitled, ways and kick you out) to support you for as long as YOU live and you're going to seriously regret it when they cannot or will not support you anymore and you have no job skills and no real work experience. No, you're not coming to live with me when that happens and I'm also not going to give you any money.
(for college attendees): Your degree in _____________ that you are working on when you aren't partying isn't going to get you a job.
The world doesn't revolve around you.
Lose the entitled attitude.
Stop being so unpleasant to be around. You've burned a lot of bridges.
What you think is important (your friends, phone, computer games, partying, Facebook, etc.) is actually ridiculous.
I'd like to share some of these with people my own age!!!
In particular though -- when you are talking with someone, FOCUS ON THAT PERSON. Don't look around the room to see who else is listening, don't watch the TV at the bar, and for heaven's sake, DON'T look at your phone to see who's texting/messaging you while your companion is talking! And please remember -- NOBODY wants to see that stupid cat video you made. They took time out of their schedule to be with you; now BE with them, not the internet.
Reminds me of every picture we have of one of our daughters when she was around 13 or 14 and Avril Lavigne had just made a splash. Both hands up, forefingers and pinkies extended -- Love signal if I remember, made especially popular by Avril.
The only things I would say to young people now is try and find a career not a job, your life will be more positive that way.
Be Careful and Mindful of what you do because a lot of things can't be taken back once you do it. (social media stupids, what you say to others etc...)
Wait until after University before getting serious with SO's & don't have children before you can take care of them. Your parents and family members aren't your fall back defacto parents when you decide your children are too much work & you want to go party!
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Embrace the moment. Be in the moment. Don't spend all your time wishing you were doing something else. If you decide to go to that party instead of studying for the exam, go for it wholeheartedly and have fun! If you decide to study, do your best, forget the party - there will be others.
But I also support the idea of being good to your body - I wish our mortality didn't wait so long to creep up and smack us in the face, I would like to give my younger self a good talking to about that :)
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Take good care of your body. It's the only one you're going to get.
Even when you don't think you have it put something in a savings that you are not to touch till retirement. never spend you change, put it in a jar everyday........you will know when you need it .....make sure it something important.
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Take care of your health while you are young. I waited too long to get there and now there are many age related issues with me, that makes life difficult for me now.
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A few of these made me chuckle: "If she takes her purse, she isn't coming back" - LOL!
Control your temper - it's an ugly head that roars Open a door for someone now and then Tell your parents you love them - while you can Dance like no one's watching Love what you do and yes, when your a guest in someone's home, turn your cell phone off. Don't post what you want to say on Facebook - It may never be seen, and some conversations should not be on social media
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I turn 50 in a couple of months and I don't consider myself old but I do have advice:
1. Never lick metal in the winter
2. If she takes her purse, she isn't coming back
3. If you cannot say anything nice, don't say anything at all
4. When you leave home to strike out on your own, don't go back...it will get tough but persevere as it will make you who you are down the road!
5. Do not text with others in the room -- it is seriously rude and what could be so important that it takes time from the people you are with at the moment.
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I saw a young guy going in to work yesterday at the wholesale club. We only spoke pleasantries in passing, but I think he has a bright future. Why?
1. He parked at the far end of the parking lot, leaving closer spaces for the customers.
2. As he was walking toward the door (not even on the clock yet!) he was rounding up shopping carts that had been left in the parking lot.
As soon as you're old enough, get a job. Learn to save money and budget. You will learn very quickly why your parents tell you "no" all the damm time.
Like OM2 said, the world doesn't owe you anything. In fact, all your parents need to provide is food, clothing, and a place to sleep. Everything else is a luxury. Stop acting like they're so horrible if they don't get you this, that, and the other thing. You don't pay the bills.
School is for learning. It is not a dating connection. If your crush doesn't like like you back, move on. You are too young to be worried about a relationship right now. Finish school, then you'll have more time to have a relationship.
The girls on 16 and Pregnant or Teen Mom or whatever, are NOT cool. They are struggling. Yes, babies are cute, but they are not dolls. They are a HUGE responsibility. If you can't take care of yourself, what the helllll makes you think you can take care of a little, helpless human baby? Please, do your best to PROTECT yourself and your partner, if you choose to be sexually active. (I understand that sometimes stuff happens. Props to kids that do well dealing with the consequences...still, prevent having kids too early.)
LEARN PROPER NUTRITION AND PORTION CONTROL NOW. The habits you form now will follow you into adulthood.
Young men and women, when you are old enough to be in a committed relationship, treat your partner the way you want to be treated. Respect them the way you want them to show you respect. Women be the kind of woman you want your daughter to be and the kind of woman you want your son to end up with. Men, similarly, be the kind of man you want your son to be and the kind of man you want your daughter to be with.
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Not that I'm at the "old and wise" stage by any means but I will share the one thing that is constant in my life...
My advice is to always keep perspective. If you're in the US, your life has the potential to be great...period. Not that it can't be anywhere else...but there are so many options and opportunities here...spiritually, physically, and financially.
Perspective to me means having that inner voice that helps you realize that things are far better than they could be.
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Do what you need to maintain good health when you are young! It is so much harder to do it when you are older.
I don't want to come down heavy, all I can do is repeat what's been written here by others. One doesn't realize what the world is really like until they have had so many experiences. We all believe that we're so smart...that our intelligence is more than that of anyone else in this world. If you are fortunate to live long enough, you'll come to realize that nothing in this world is new and nothing that you do is so special that you come with better privileges. Do your best and respect the feelings of others.
Keep on keeping on....we need you to grow up, take your place in society and make us proud.
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Be mindful of how you treat others-friends,family, classmates. Years from now, people may not remember every detail of their past, but most will remember those who were either really nice or really mean to them. Decide which category you'd rather be placed in.
Do not get suckered into credit cards when you turn 18!! Or get ONE to start a credit history, but don't be stupid with it. If you can't afford to pay for it with your debit card, you can't afford to pay for it with a credit card. I wish I would have listened to that one!!!!
*It's pretty dumb to keep making the same mistake over and over again and then act surprised when you get the same negative result.
*People WILL judge you, whether you think they should or not. That repeated gossip, revealing outfit, posting on Facebook, or tattoo....ALL of them leave an impression.
*He isn't nearly as cool as you think he is--he puts on his pants the same way everyone else does. If he's too good looking, he might think a little too highly of himself. Of course, he's still pleasant to look at!!!!
*Start learning how to spend wisely and SAVE when you're young---it makes life a lot easier when you control your money, instead of the other way around.
*You get what you allow (and give) - if you allow people to disrespect and mistreat you, that's exactly what you will get. The same goes if you dish it out---karma really is a b**ch.
*Your parents do not sit around thinking up ways to make your life miserable....believe me, they have better things to do.
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the world doesn't owe you anything.
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Know that people really do judge you based on their first impression - too many tattoos, piercings, sagging pants, too tight clothing for your body size, untidiness/uncleanliness, too revealing clothing, multi-colored hair, etc. - and you usually don't get a second chance. While you may not care what other people think of you, remember that one day you'll need a job and some things can't be undone.
Everything you put "out there" is out there forever and you don't get do overs. Same thing with suggestive email addresses. Believe me, people notice!
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Please listen to people who tell you how important eating nutritiously is.
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get off the computer/cell/tablet and get outside!
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you don't know everything. Seriously. NOBODY DOES
the world does not revolve around you. And life will continue even if you have to be without your cell phone for 30 minutes
yes, it CAN happen to YOU.
being pleasant (or at least civil) doesn't cost any more than being rude, and you never know when you might need something from that person you were rude to.
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