I have four kids and with the last two I used the book "The No Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. Her plan is not a quick solution but in the long run I got a lot of benefit out of it. She offers lots of tips that you can combine to create a routine that you use every time you put her to bed. I would say that at this stage it wouldn't matter if she stayed up to wait for you, but in a while, when she's used to the routine, someone else might be able to use the same routine and she'll be so used to going to sleep afterwards she might just drop off without you there... Anyway, good luck ! I know how hard it is.
Routine is impossible right now. I work part time at a pizza place and so some days I'm home in the evenings and other days I'm home at 8 and others not until midnight. Both my husband and mil are at a loss of what to do with her when I'm not there. I say "do this and then put her to bad at this o clock." but when I het home they invariably have her on there lap either playing or crying saying, "she just doesn't sleep without you here." I swear...
Also, crying isn't really an option for the afore mentioned working, cranky husband. And I once tried something similar to that plan and in 10 minutes she cried so hard that she threw up. So no.
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Routine is SOOOO important! And the longer you wait to establish her own sleep independence, the harder it will be. More often than not, it will only take a few days for kids to get the drift that things are changing..... the timer really helps. The first night you may have to go in 7 or 8 times, the next, 5 or six....(ten minute intervals at minimum. crying for ten minutes is not going to be harmful in any way for your baby :-)..... you get the idea.
But I know so many parents who have to rock their kids to sleep EVERY NIGHT! Fix it early and you will thank yourself. It will be a rough few days, but think of it this way: would you take a rough couple days transitioning over sleepless months ahead?!?!?!
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Set up a bedtime routine and stick to it.
Time in the swing (30 mins) Story Time Bedtime (In crib)
At first she WILL cry and you NEED to leave her there. Set a timer for 10-15 mins and do not go in till the alarm goes off. She will probably be asleep before then.
I know this sounds terrible but it does work and it is more traumatic for you than the baby. I did this with both my kids and it worked like a charm
I have a 4 month old daughter who ever since she was a newborn has preferred sleeping with us or in her infant swing. I know that having a babe sleep flat and in a place where she can stretch is healthy, but she cries whenever we put her in her crib, and she's getting too big and space-hog-ish for our bed.
She has fallen asleep in her crib before, but only after some crying and reassuring and only if she falls asleep holding on to either me or my husband. We can't do this every night because my husband has to wake up at 5:00 am every day and we live in a one room apartment. So in the past when we've tried to get her more used to sleeping in her crib, we usually just give up and take her to bed with us so my husband can get some sleep. Problematic.
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