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1,406 7/22/13 5:22 P
Echoing other posts, if you are not exercising, that's the ticket to feeling really good about yourself. Thirty minutes of cardio and ten minutes of strength five days a week: not only will you feel more fit, but I guarantee others will notice!
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1,275 7/22/13 1:29 P
If you've recently lost a lot of weight, it could just be your brain taking some time to catch up to where your body actually is. I'm in this weird confusing body-image place at the moment (though it doesn't actually bother me much) where most of the time I feel really happy with what I've accomplished and think I look great, but then other times I'll see myself in a mirror and hardly recognize myself (so skinny) and other times I'll see a tummy roll through a swimsuit and think OMG where did that come from I must have gained 30 pounds overnight. It is a very strange feeling. If that's what's going on with you, I'd guess the only thing that'll cure it is time.
I agree with everyone who suggested strength training. When I was at my lowest weight, I looked fantastic because I was toned and strong. However, I was still 5kg - 10kg away from what would be considered my "ideal weight". This was because of all the lean muscle I was carrying.
Perhaps you feel flabby and that's why you don't feel good about yourself. I read that a woman can add 30% of her body weight in muscle, but look thinner! I loved being able to lift and push heavy weights like the men did, but I never looked bulky.
I've suffered from Body Dysmorphia since I was a girl. I understand completely.
You are at a healthy weight, and since you are asking "what's wrong with me?" I'm guessing you already know that you are in fact not overweight.
First...I would talk about it with your doctor. That being said, doctors are often ill-equipped for dealing with issues like this. So, be prepared for little or no help from them. I've felt frustration often when it comes to the lack of training doctors have when it comes to these sorts of things.
Second...If I were you, I'd ask myself what it is exactly that I'm seeing that makes me think I'm fat. In my case, I see my thighs and I groan. They truly disgust me. When I see old pictures of myself, when I was thinner, I see my thighs and I think they weren't so bad, but back when the photo was taken, I thought my thighs were horrifying.
So, locate what it is that you think is horrible. Make a list if you have to.
Third...Ask yourself what you idea of "healthy" or "thin" is. Those might be two different things. If you have an image in your mind of those words, ask yourself where those images came from. Often we carry around moments in our lives that cement unreal expectations into our consciousness. You need to confront those images. You need to question them.
Lastly...as someone said before, it might just be an issue of body composition. Being more muscular might help you feel better about yourself. Obsessing about a number on a scale can often be overcome by building muscle and FEELING healthy. So, work on strength training.
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419 7/14/13 11:11 P
I agree with LADYSTARWIND...
Although you are seeing what you want on the scale, you are obviously not seeing what you want in the mirror. You might be at an ideal weight, but you may be "skinny fat" versus "fit". A little strength training can go a long way to tone things up and make you feel a lot more confident about yourself, how you look, and how your clothes fit. I know it did for me! Skinny fat is worth Googling if you don't know what I'm talking about. It's not a bad thing, so don't take it as an insult.
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1,649 7/13/13 9:10 P
You didn't really mention what you do for exercise....
If you aren't into strength training, that might be "the ticket" you need to feel good about yourself. Don't look at it as a way to lose more weight--which you don't need to do!!---but if you are working to tone yourself up, you might be surprised at your results. try doing measurements before you start...and after about 2 months of a moderate strength training program....
Take care of yourself! I suspect you already have the eating healthy part right (or you would actually be overweight!) so just focus on being fit.... patti
You've already gotten a lot of great advice, so I'll just add one thought.
I can relate to how you feel. I'm in my healthy weight range but I still have a belly that bulges and arms that jiggle a bit. In other words, there are parts of me I'd like to change.
Ultimately, though, as your other posters have said, this is me. I don't think it's bad to try to work on these areas, but in the end, I also have to find a way to love what I currently see.
Does that make sense?
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21,129 7/13/13 4:35 A
We are our own worst critics. Flaws we see in ourselves, no one else sees. You know when you look in your car's side mirror, the sign says objects are larger than they really are ? Okay, that's what happens when women look into a mirror. They tend to think they too are bigger then they really are.
Too many of us compare ourselves to the models in magazines. We wonder why aren't we as thin ? Why aren't our stomachs as flat ? Well, because that isn't reality. Those photos are manipulated to make these women look perfect. NO ONE is perfect. Stop beating up on yourself because you don't look a certain way.
As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Start appreciating all the wonderful things about your body and stop the negative self talk. That's what's ruining your self esteem.
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22,035 7/13/13 1:06 A
First of all, your current weight is 'ideal' for your height.
Just because you FEEL fat, doesn't mean you are! Some people have issues with body image, a form of Body Dysmorphia. Some suffer from Depression and see themselves in a way that isn't reality. Some people lose a lot of weight and end up in a healthy range, but their mind leads them to believe that they are still overweight.
I would be inclined to have a talk with your Dr about how you feel. He/she might be able to reassure you that you are indeed a healthy weight, but if need be, ask for a referral to a therapist who will be able to help you.
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