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Good for you! Pull-ups are the safe way to do so. My daughter wouldn't train when she had pull-ups on but my nephews did great with them.
When your daughter starts pre-school the first few days the teachers don't usually mind if you send them in pull-ups while they adjust to things some. Talk to the teacher and go from there. Maybe she will be far enough and confident enough it won't be needed but it is an idea so you are aware!!!
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HAPPIESTMOM
6/4/08 10:28 P
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| yeah I guess it would depend on the age. when I potty trained the three kids they had all just turned 2. I am sure a 3 year old would have more understanding of the "holding it" concept. I was anxious to get out of diapers and trained right away.
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Hi!
My daughter turns 3 in September too. We started potty-training at the beginning of May (she was showing some interest - saying that diapers are for her baby brother). She does need to be trained by Sept 1st so that she can go to preschool again. We actually did a vacation just 2 weeks ago where she was in the car for 3.5 hrs. We put a pull-up on her but she held it the whole time. I used pull-ups a fair amount though - I don't want to be stuck inside and I don't mind if it takes a little longer to train =)
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HAPPIESTMOM
6/3/08 8:09 P
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| Absolutely not. That will just make for a frustrating time for both you and your child. Only potty train during a time where you know you can spend most of your time at home where the child is comfortable and you have easy access to the potty!
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| Should I start training before a vacation? We will be in the car for hours, should I even try?
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HAPPIESTMOM
6/2/08 7:40 A
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| When I did potty training I had a chart with stickers and every time they had a success they put a sticker up and when they had ten stickers I had a prize box (for my son is was a box full of matchbox cars and the girls had jewelry and hair things) and they could pick one thing from the box. When I first started it was after 5 stickers then as they got better I increased the amount. I never took the underwear off no matter how many accidents (except naptime and bedtime) and I had all three kids trained in less than a week.
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Sounds a little silly but make a chart and place stickers on it when child has sat on potty, when did something, and so on. This helps when more than one person is working with the child to master the skill as the chart is right there so everyone knows when child was last in to try. Also, it helps to mark down accidents as well because then you see all the info in one place and see how much improvements are going on. I might not have explained this well but I think you get the idea.
Good luck!
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CASHLESSNCR
5/26/08 2:35 P
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We're just in the first stages of trying to potty train our 3.5 yo, after a few mis-starts. He's very headstrong, very busy, and every milestone has had a very long lead-up time and quick mastery. He'll be headed to preschool in the fall where they don't accept diapers. Right now I'm enticing him to the potty with a potty bag, suggested by a friend who used the technique sucessfully with her son. It is a drawstring bag with lots of little Goodies in it. It is deep enough that he can't see into it, and very tantalizing for him. If he sits on his potty for 10 minutes, he can choose something from the bag. After a few days, he now asks if he can sit so that he can choose something. He hasn't done anything the the potty yet. He has gotten off and then wet his pants or diapers immediately after putting them back on.
I'm not sure how we'll get the consistancy in, though. I work full time during the week and DH looks after ds during the day while trying to sneak in his work and other errands during the day. Is anyone else in a similar situation?
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There is no magical age that potty training happens. My oldest son was 3 years old while my daughter was just over a year when she started bringing us clean diapers when hers were wet. She trained by 15 months. My youngest son is now 30 months and was using the potty regularly until about a week ago when he decided it was much more fun to pee on everything in site...
My point is, don't get stressed about it, your son will do things on his own time and will be trained when he is ready. And, don't worry about what other people think, as a mother, you will have enough other things (valid things) to worry about.
Keep your chin up, it will happen eventually.
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| I tried my son at 2 and he really was just interested with the potty seat not actually going potty...so i did potty train him at 3....with my daughter i potty trained her at 2 by putting real underwear on her after using pull ups and she had maybe 2-3 accidents and now she 3 and will be 4 in aug. and has been fully potty trained for about a year and half. You will know when there are ready but you do have to introduce it to them first. Just dont be pushy....With my experiene and other parents have told me, that boys seem harder then girls to potty train.
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Everyone is offering such great stories on this!
I know my daughter will let me know when she's ready. She has with everything else! So I think it's true, just think of how you broke your child of bottles, pacifiers, the crib... and you'll just know how they are going to be. Whether it will be their choice, or if they'll need the boot-camp! :)
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IMPRINCESSGOOFY
5/23/08 9:58 P
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after DS turned 3 we entered... Potty Boot Camp. We talked it up for a week prior. the night before we started, the diaper fairy came and took all his diapers and left big boys pants. he thought this was the greatest thing ever!! we used reward rockets (from a teachers store) and a treasure chest full of $1 store toys. peepee got a rocket taped to the wall in the bathroom. poop got a rocket with poopy written on it and a trasure from the chest. this worked great for our son. every child is going to do it on their schedule when they are ready.
my neice is 3 months younger than my son and it took her a year longer to even start potty training. she is stubborn and doesn't want to do it. (they are currently 4 and will be 4 in august.)
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TIGGERBETH
5/22/08 3:19 P
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| I have an 8 year old and a 2 year old both boys. My 8 year old potty trained himself basically by the time he was 2. My 2 year old is just now starting to get interested in the potty chair. He has actually went to the bathroom a couple of times. He follows both me and my husband into the bathroom when we go and sometimes he wants to sit on his too. It is all about when they are ready to do it and it is not something you can force.
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ANGELA1983
5/22/08 1:56 P
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I also agree with other members, every child is different and what is good for one may not be good for the other. I know that boys take longer to potty train and they usually start later too than girls.
At the same time a lot depends on your determination and patience. Potty training is not an easy process and it may tike from a few days to a few months. Good luck to you and a lot of patience your way!
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IAMADOLL is right consistancy is so very important no matter what age of child working with to potty train.
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I have a 13 & 12 year old boys and 18 month twins. Both of my older boys were broke by the time they were 2. I just made it a fun time. I would give them stickers,or certain other things they liked for just going to the potty for me. Potty time was the only time I would let them have these things.I would clap,smile and say things like you are my big boy now and be very happy about what they had done. I am going to stat mt twins when they turn 20 months old or so.
I also babyset for a 2 1/2 year old the mother told me that he just would no go to the potty that she had done everything but after the first week he was broke by me doing these same kinds of things with him.
You can not try today and do nothing tommorrow. You must stay with it everyday all day.
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| My daughter will be three in September, as well. I get a lot of grief from my non-parenting friends about how she wears diapers still. Obviously they have a lot of experience with potty-training, right? ;) Anyway... my daughter was slow to give up her bottles (15mo!) and one day just decided she wanted a sippy instead! Same with her pacifier... one day, she just didn't want it. The same has happened with her crib vs. big girl bed. When the time is right for her, I know she'll want to use the potty and that will be that. Definitely am not going to pressure her!
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| Hey they are on there way! Good for them! Thank you for sharing such a cute story with us! I just love hearing the cute stories that kids do!
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| Your right about something just clicking. I have 2yo old twin girls. They have been very resistant to the whole potty thing. Yesterday I was putting away laundry when one DD came up to me and said "I pee all myself". I looked at her(naked from the waist down) and said what? She walked me to her potty and showed me her pee pee. I didn't ask her to sit on it or anything. To top that off as I was doing the "pee pee" dance in celebration, the other twin came up and said "I go pee pee too". She dropped her diaper and just peed in the potty just like that. AMAZING!!!!
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DAWN91476
5/21/08 10:26 A
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When my daughter was being potty trained, we were all stressed out. She didn't care if she was wet or dirty. I bought big girl underwear for her thinking that maybe that would encourage her, but it didn't . When she was almost 4, it was like a light bulb went off and she never had another accident. She only wet the bed twice after that and that was it.
I decided with our little boy that I was not going to pressure him the way I had our daughter. It has went a lot better. He is not stressed and neither are we. I said he would do it when he was ready.
He is 3 1/2 years old and has few accidents. Peeing is not a big deal at all, it's getting him to poop in the potty all of the time that is the problem. He is getting there slowly though. Some nights are accident free and other you would think that the Hoover Dam had broke.
I found that with my son, that if I don't let him drink after 6:30 p.m. that he does much better not wetting the bed. With his sister it was nothing past 7:00 p.m. I guess it's just the difference in their bladder size that makes the difference.
I learned a long time ago to listen to your instincts and not worry about everyone else's opinion. You know your child better than they do.
Good Luck :)
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| Try your best to ignore them ebonylharris! If you try to force your kids to use the potty they can get real anxious about it. Just offer it as an option. Sometimes we'd have one of our kids sit on their little potty while Mommy or Daddy used the big potty. You don't even have to "use" the potty, just sit on it and get to flush it. Most kids really like the flushing part even if they haven't done anything. And lots of times the kids just start one day- almost out of nowhere. There's nothin, nothin, nothin, and wham! Overnight fully potty trained! (That's they easy kind) or you get like my son and you just work and work and work at it until they're ready. He potty trained for 3 YEARS!! Yikes! We started when he was 2, but he really didn't "take" until right after his 5th birthday. Some kids are just slower! Don't fret- your son will do just fine!
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EBONYLHARRIS
5/20/08 2:37 P
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| My son is will be two in september and everyone is telling me he should be potty trained as well. I purchased a ton of products and he does not want to use them. What should I do?
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Deffinately a good start!
Just thought I'd share this funny story with you but my 10 year old would be mortified if he knew I did. He hated to sit on the potty and just refused to do so. He watched his older brother and said that was not how big boys did it. So, I had to get a little step stood thing and he had to go standing up. The funny part is though that even when doing #2 he refused to actually completely sit down but more squat over the toilet. My battle with his potty training was over in a single day as soon as I realized it was the actual sitting on the potty that he wasn't going for.
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MICHAELA2780
5/19/08 10:33 P
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My son will be 3 in July and knows exactly what to do on the potty, he just doesn't want to. Yesterday we celebrated a milestone. He peed NEXT to the potty, which is much better than in the living room in front of the TV. He's just recently started "pretending" to use the potty. He sits on it (in his diaper) and after a minute, hits the handle so he can hear "Yay, you did it!" over and over again. But we are definitely not pushing him. We ask him everyday if he wants to sit on the potty or use the potty. Most of the time, he says no, but every once in a while, he will at least sit on it.
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KANDICESCHULTZ
5/19/08 10:08 P
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| My son is 21 months and he likes to sit on the toilet. He will not go however. One time I he asked to potty and he really had to go. Once he got on the toilet his entire body stiffened and he started screaming NO! He jumped off the seat before I could catch him and he peed all over the bathtub and the floor. Apparently that was less scary that going in the toilet. He still likes to sit on the toilet but only after he has made a wet diaper. I guess he will train in time.
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| My son didn't become truly potty trained until he was 5. He had some issues with urinary reflux and had a couple of bad catheters that made him shy away from toilet areas and activities. We got a lot of funny stares when we would say he wasn't potty trained at four and a half years, but our dr's assured us everything was completely normal. He ended up training with our daughter when she turned 3. The good news is that we've had no accidents at all for either of them. Just one day they decided to use the "big kid" potty and that was that!
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| Deffinately hear you! Good luck!
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ANNMARIE_3299
5/16/08 9:29 P
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| Potty training is a power struggle in my home. I found with my son, the more I wanted him to go, the more it was a game to him to use the bathroom in his diaper. He finally learned at about 3 y.o. My daughter has pretty much gone the same route. They are both very headstrong and independent. It drives me nuts.
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USAUKWOODS
5/15/08 1:40 P
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| My daughter showed interest at 18 months and now is 26 months and is just starting to get the hang of using the toilet. My son was trained at 20 months and it only took him a week to be dry day and night. So every child is different. I found both of my kids liked the idea of being like older kids they know and wearing underpants, using the potty, etc. So perhaps if he has older cousins or playmates that he sees doing it he may show interest otherwise I would wait until he says he is ready.
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There is no magic age and trust me pushing the issue will only make it worse! My husband gets after our 4 year old girl so and it drives me nuts. She has a lot of difficulty though as she has had many bladder infections and he doesn't get that it makes it so hard for her. I have never had a bladder infection either so I had to get a lot of info on it before I understood the reasoning behind her having no desire to use the bathroom. Not only does it hurt badly I guess but because she has been having so much trouble with it the dr informed me that she probably is confused and doesn't really know when she does have to as bladder infections can make it seem like you always need to go. The dr stated that it is going to take her longer to master this because of the fact that she is prone to bladder infections. I have to be so careful - no bubble baths, no fluffy toilet paper, and so on and so on. I even stick with the same detergent every time I was clothes now as to make sure her panties don't cause problems. I am a little surprised by the infections frequency but dr explains that it is sort of a domino effect and her habits have changed because of the infections (she was almost completely accident free for many months before the first infection!)and that all of it sort of feeds into it. I make sure to keep flushable wipes on hand at all times and it seems to really help as no infections lately but she still doesn't seem to have a handle yet on knowing when she needs to go until it is too late. She does try to run to the bathroom but usually just doesn't quite make it. My husband's getting after her has caused more than one dissagreement in our house but I just can't stand back and listen to it as I just don't think he realizes how unfair he is being. Our two year old boy is potty trained and he compares the two which drives me nuts.
Just remember each child is different and don't stress them out over it as it does play into their self esteem.
Good luck!
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PHILLY3974
5/11/08 10:04 P
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My son started to go on the potty 2wks before his 3rd b-day and then he had to get surgery on his penis because his peepee hole wasnt big enough to pass the urine. Two days after the surgery he was going like a champ. I did use fruit loops or cheerios in the toilet to make more fun for him to go in the potty. My daughter will be 2 in a few weeks and has just recently showed some interest but im not going to push her.
Potty training takes time, I would not rush it and let him decide when he is ready. Good luck.
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JUNKDRAWER
5/11/08 7:53 P
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There is nothing wrong with starting to "show and tell" about potty getting a potty seat or toilet ring, just to practice if curiosity is there, but I agree with the others, it's not good to push or make a huge deal over it.
With my bullheaded first born that just made him push back and resist more---It definitely had to be his idea. He was a very big 3 yo and didn't fit any of the diapers anymore, and pull ups were as worthless as diapers when it came to encouraging toilet use so we eventually just went to underwear and dealt with the accidents, feeling the wet definitely made a difference. It took quite a bit longer for #2 training but he did hold it for a good part of the day and ask for a diaper just to poop, which we allowed because it was much better than him getting painfully constipated or scared from pooping.
Also, he didn't fit the potty seats properly, so we did a toilet ring, and then discovered that he liked "daddy-peeing" better. Whatever works!!!
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DEBINATOR1
5/10/08 1:03 P
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| I started to take my children to the potty with me, so that they could start getting the concept of "potty time." My daughter was potty trained at 18 months and both of my sons by the time they turned two. Of course there were accidents, but that comes with the territory. I never fussed them for accidents, I believe that makes a child's self esteem lower. I used a water gun and dawn dish liquid believe it or not to help train my boys...they loved making bubbles in the potty! (my husband worked odd late hours, so hence the water gun, since mommy didn't have boy parts) Just remember that every child is different, and that how much time you have is also a key role. Good Luck!
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| DON'T LET ANYONE RUSH YOU OR YOUR CHILD. MY MOM TOLD ME TO START MY DAUGHTER AT TWO AND I DID NOT HAVE ANY LUCK LIKE MY FIRST DAUGHTER WHO PICKED IT UP RIGHT AWAY, SO MY HUSBAND AND I DECIDED TO LET KYLLE LET US KNOW WHEN SHE'S READY. A COUPLE OF MONTHS AGO, SHE STARTED GOING #2 IN THE TOILED AND SHE JUST TURNED 4 YESTERDAY AND SO FAR SHE'S BEEN DOING GREAT. YOU JUST CAN'T RUSH THESE THINGS. HOPE THIS HELPS
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MOMASANGELS
5/8/08 4:10 P
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| my mom had my brother take his son the the bathroom when he went. it mad it easier for him. when he went to the potty on his own he gave him encouragement and when he he didnt he did not make a big deal out of it
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OGESINGRAM04
5/8/08 3:30 P
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| My son will be 3 in Aug and I am having the exact same dilemma. It is nice to know I am not alone. Some days he is psyched about the potty and other days he wants nothing to do with it and is very resistant. I am not pushing the issue with him because I don't want to scare him away from it. My peditrician said that 3 1/2 may be the best time for him since he really isn't showing much interest now. Let me know how it goes!
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HIDDENLILLY
5/8/08 2:55 P
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Don't stress. Everyone here is right. It should concern you if your child has shown no interest in the potty by age 4. Potty training takes time and will only begin when the child is ready. We have been at it for 6 months with my daughter. She goes sometimes but not all the time.
Where I live boys are different. Potty training begins with a tree in the woods hunting or fishing with dad or paw-paw.
The bigger deal you make out of your child not going to the potty the more scared the child will be to go. Just relax. Totally normal.
Forever I Remain,
Hiddenlilly
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| Totally agree, every child is different. My son was 3 1/2 also and he just decided one day he was done wearing diapers.
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HEATHERBRIE1
5/8/08 6:31 A
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| Exactly - every child is different and they all have their own time table. My daughter is 4 and she still has an occasional accident and is unable to make it all night. You as their parent know your childs vibe - do not let someone compare apples to oranges.
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ELITERUNNER
5/7/08 6:31 P
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| IMO, he is not too young to potty train. But, if he is not ready, he is not ready. Has he given you an indication that he wants to use the potty? My oldest son was about 3 1/2 before he was completely potty trained. My second son was about 2 1/2. My third son is now 2 1/2 and has some interest but not a lot. I my experience there is less stress on both parties when the child is ready. I'd be telling 'everyone' that your son will be trained when he is ready.
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| My son is gonna be three in september. Everyone keeps asking me if he is potty trained. Should he be potty trained already. I think he's still to young. Any help would be appreciated.
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