At a complete loss about my 4 yr old and the potty

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At a complete loss about my 4 yr old and the potty

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22BUDDY
4/27/08 5:51 P

Well it does seem to be a special case and that you have tried the common things such as treats and such. I have potty trained about ten children and once they were old enough and I knew they had proper control of their urinary muscles I made sure they understood it wasn't an option not to go in their pants which I am sure you have done also.
You need to be stern at his age and if he starts having accidents really make him understand the ramifications of not being able to go to school.
The thing that worked best with me was finding the thing they liked best. However this was usually with younger children so not sure if it will help you.
The last one loved elmo so every time she went potty we called elmo. You need two people to act as elmo so you never call and elmo is unavailable if you know what I mean. It could be anything. A super hero or even a movie star. The process worked with the last four I potty trained without a single accident.
Not sure why but it did.
The key with potty training is consistency with your actions. Whatever you say you will do you must do each and every time.
Good luck and I know it is stressful but he will feel your tension so make a plan and stick with it and try not to let the stress get you to down.

THECOLSON4
4/27/08 3:51 P

He knows what he's supposed to do. He does it sometimes on his own. If I remind him to go, he'll go (when he's not being stubborn LOL). But when we try not reminding him, he doesn't go on his own.
I know he knows when he he has to go. The problem is, he just doesn't care if he goes in his pants or not.
It doesn't matter if he's wearing regular underwear or boxers. It hasn't worked giving him rewards or treats. It hasn't worked punishing him.
His three year old sister loves wearing her big girl panties, but it doesn't seem to bother him that his little sister uses the potty and he doesn't.
They kicked him out of preschool because of it and he loved school, but that didn't help motivate him.
Now he's supposed to start Kindergarten in the fall and I'm at my wits end. They can't be a babysitter and remind him every hour or two to go.
I'm really stressed out by it and don't know what to do anymore. Any suggestions?

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