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| Do any of you know what web site you could get the paper work for a will? Maybe some info on how to go about getting a certified one? I know that a lawyer could help you do these services but they are so expensive. Is there a way around that route?
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TALLYSMARIPOSA
3/4/08 10:36 A
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| I recently started putting some ideas on paper as to what will be included in my will, but have not signed anything yet. My family and I will be moving to Honduras next year and that's what really got me to thinking about the need for a will. I'm not planning on dying, but who does and I have to be certain that my daughters will be taken care of. It was quite depressing when I was coming up with the things to be included in my will and I think that's why I put it away and have not went forward with it.
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| no, but know we should soon. I have been thinking a lot about it lately. Need to get more info so we can get that done.
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| Absolutely and we have placed our assets in a trust so they will pass easily to our 2 nieces one day.
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I don't have a will but everyone says I should since I have a minor child. I think the only thing I want to make sure of in my will is too designate an executive of her money if something should happen to me before she is of age to control the funds. Sadly, I do not trust her father to spend the funds wisely and on her. I was told he would get automatic custody if something happens to me.
So looks like that is the next major step in my journey, peace of mind.
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THEMOTIVATOR1
3/1/08 4:34 P
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| ....And so my mom had a joint checking account with my younger divorced former sister. According to one of the cards she gave my mom she had a tremdous bond with mom. My mom sold the new camper my dad bought for $10,000 and the sister told my mom that if the money was not given to me that i wwas going to put her in a nursing home. According to bank statements the money was withdrawn and I don't know where it went. It was shortly after my dad died that a family meeting was made. We discussed what roles we could be of assistance to take care of mom. The sister said that dad's grave needed a marker and she wasn't about to let mom pay for it herself. Afterwards there were locks put on the garage and my dad's tool boxes. Some thing strange was going on. I found out later that it was done to keep me from taking anything. The day my mom had a heart attach was May 5 2001. I had taken a few kids to a local carnival and when I got back I got the news. I showered and went to the hospital and was told my moms was revived but unconcious. My brother was choosen to be in charge. The sister, in the meantime was taking things from the house and took things out of safe deposit box. Sunday we all met at the hospital and after the visit we decide to go to mom's house. It was a short distance away so I walked and the sister was there and unlocked the door. I went and found some pictures and was going through themwith my wife and kids when the sister mentioned that the other sister didn't know it but mom had taken that sister off the joint checking account and that my mom's freind would "straight her @#$ out" making sure she didn't get anything. It was kinda funny talking with my mom's friend about this because she said she told my sister that she was not there to striaghten anbody out but to pay respect to my mom. On Monday my mom died and the funeral services were set. A few of the women were going to put together a lucheon after services but I told them I would pick up the tab at a local all you can eat resrurant. I didn't know the cost or where I was going to get the money, but it didn't matter. I had thanked everyone for sharing there time, sorrow, and especially their tears with the family. The sister showed up late as though she didn't want to be confronted. The wills my mom and dad made up were missing. The box I put them in was moved to an upstairs bedroom and found later. We could not find the new will my mom said she was going to have made. Though my brother was in charge he did'nt get any cooperation from the sisters. My mom was still at the funeral home waiting to be buried. There was one plot left at the cemetary but a monument had to be moved which cost a lot of money. It was 30 days before mom was buried. The monument stayed and a double burial was made, my mom came out on top. So what was the hold up you might ask. Well the sisters had the money but did not come forward or make plans at the funeral home. They both had about $30,000 from my mom and dad's estate but were too greedy to step forward. My brother turned over everything to my brother inlaw. Before we were to meet at mom's house to start the painful work of cleaning out the house the sisters made trips over there and helped themselves to more items. I had seperated a lot of mostly papers, cards, and letters my mom and dad had saved. When my brother inlaw put this "garbage" out to the curb I put it in my truck and sorted through it later. I seperated every thing and put the stuff into envelopes. Reading through some of it is how I found about different things. My former sisters were the last one's to get their envelope. My nephews who were beneficiary of the wills split the money with my other brothers and me, something they did not have to do. Unlike my former sisters, I am not into materialistic items, just a few pictures will do and fond happy memories
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THEMOTIVATOR1
3/1/08 9:56 A
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| Where there is a will there is a way. I found out how that saying came about. My oldest sister ( I have 2 former sisters and you will learn why) went to college, studied over seas, got married, had 2 children, then made the mistake of moving from Michigan to California. in her 20's she had diagnosed with breast cancer. She went in for treatment and the cancer went into remission. So between the distances came letters, phone calls, and occasional visit between my sisters family and my parents. My parents named my oldest sister as excutor of the will. My sister appreciated that with a card she sent my mom. During the stay in California my sister became a very good social worker, after her death they named a park after her. She had neglected to have follow up check ups and the cancer came back. After services her remains were flown back to Michigan for burial. So my mom and dad made up new wills. Because my brothers and sisters no longer belonged to their church we were each left on dollar. After their deaths the estate was to be sold and the proceeds given to my sisters 2 children. My dad died Dec. 10 1999. I was stunned. When my dad had a heart attack earlier in the day he was treated at the hoospital and when i called while at work he was doing just fine, so well that the were going to put up in a private room. I was riding my 10 speed bike from work when my wife drove up and told me my father died. I have no faith in this hospital when it comes to treating heart patients because everyone I knew who had one and went there never came out alive. My mom and dad had an old spaniel dog. My mom had me drive her to the vet to have the dog put to sleep to be buried with my dad, that was his request. We went into a room the nurse came in a procceed to give the dog a shot. I walked out with a really empty feeling. A lady was sitting on the floor cring because she had to have her sick dog put to sleep. I explained what was being done and she cried harder. I drove my mom home in my dad's Dodge Ram p/u. My mom made some phone calls and invited a long distance friend to stay at her house. The house was a mess with papers erey where so I picked them up and put them in a box behind the couch. Included was my dad's will that my mom asked if i wanted to read and I said no. She mentioned that she did not like the will and was going to make a new one. I left the house and went home. It was at the funeral home that my former brother inlaw started talking about my dad's possessions, while my dad layed about 10 feet away. I was stunned and told him it was not a good time to talk about it. The need for greed remains a mystery to me. More later.........
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Well we have one but now that the girls are grown we have to revise it and just have not done it yet. I need to also talk to my youngest daughter about my grandson and if she will take him and the dogs..
Hope everyones weekend is a good one!
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| Not yet but we really need to get one done. We've picked our child's gaurdians but we need to get everything formally done. It is difficult to face our own mortality but must be done.
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| I have been thinking about it, but I don't know where to start...
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LUCYGODDESS
2/29/08 7:32 A
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| Husband & got wills & don't just think about your kids. Think about pets too. Talk to someone in advance that would agree to take your pet. We don't need to overlook them. Our vets agreed to take ours to keep personally...they live close to us and are friends & they have a dog who is friends with our dog. They were able to advise us that sometimes dogs get overlooked & when someone dies, unless you've talked to & designated someone, they could end up at a shelter. You should also designate this person who takes your animal to have about 10 or 12 thousand dollars to upkeep the animal for it's life. This is all put in the will too. And in our will we put our dog "Lacy or whatever animal we may have at the time."
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| My husband and I haven't quite agreed yet on who would get the kids. We've been 'discussing' it for the last 5 years. I think we're close, but with everything else going on it's hard making it a priority. I know we need to just get it done.
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JACKJACK91
2/28/08 6:35 P
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Thanks for the information! Alot of money hahaha I wish lol. Have a great nite!
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ATHENSMOMOF3
2/28/08 12:06 P
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Yes and everyone with children needs one, if only to choose the guardian of your children. You can get forms online and most states have a section of their Code (written laws) which has FORM simple wills and trusts that are approved by the state.
If you have a complex situation (lots of money, stepchildren, etc.)or need help setting up a trust you may want to consult a lawyer but most folks would be fine just with a simple will, especially in "the meantime" while they are getting around to a more complex estate plan.
Holographic wills (handwritten wills) are fine in most states if entirely in your handwriting and some require witnessing but again this would be a temporary solution and you must check to see what is required in your state before going this route
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JACKJACK91
2/27/08 1:40 P
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Thanks for planting the thought. I really do need to get one for myself and my husband, we have children and would want them to be taken care of in case of our demise.
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THEMOTIVATOR1
2/26/08 7:38 P
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| I could spend days writing on this subject. My mom and dad had wills and after my dad died my mom said she was going to make up a new one... Gotta go but this story might help you plan ahead of time when making a will
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