Ask your hubby if he loves you. If says yes then ask him if he wants you to live a long and healthy life??
AIDEN6 3/11/08 10:14 P
I buy healthy food, while my Husband is looking for sweat food, and then he screams at our kid not to eat it. I don't know what to do with him!!
DALTON04 3/10/08 8:59 P
my husband gets me when he prays on my weakness for not wanting to cook, so at dinnertime, right around when the last kid I babysit is going to leave, he starts asking if we can just have (insert fastfood place's name here). He will say things like "then you don't have to cook" or "then you can spend more time with us, because you won't be upstairs in the kitchen. Nevermind that it hurts my diet, because most days, I have my whole mealplan settled on for the day, so if I was planning on a lower calorie dinner, I may have bumped up my lunch or breakfast to stay within my range, then he throws wanting a high calorie dinner at me. But I will say, I have gotten better, because I give in, but I either insist we all eat Subway (again, I am trying to stick to only eating "fast food" 1 time a week with my kids, and only "goodies" on the weekends for snacks, rest of the time its healthy snacks), so either we all eat subway (which my oldest son actually prefers if we go get food) or I will pick it up for myself, and usually because he prefers it, my oldest son. Its just frustrating when he trys to play on my weaknesses, in order to get the junk food he wants to eat, and in the process isn't just hurting himself, but my dietplan, and the example I am trying to set for the kids.
LOSETHEJIGGLE 3/10/08 1:39 P
I hear ya. I just posted about this in one of my teams. I'm a binge eater, mainly carbs. I went to clean my kichen. We were gone all day yesterday, so late Sat. night hubby picked up some stuff for the kids' school lunches & left the bags sitting on the counter. I go to put them away this morning along with the apples and bananas I bought that day. What do I see? I'm not kidding--9 boxes of different crackers, 4 boxes of cookies, & a box of poptarts. Are you kidding me?!! That's why I never send him to the store.
BRIDGESKJH 3/10/08 9:14 A
I can't take my hubby to the grocery store. While I am buying fruit and vegetables he is over in the candy aisle getting packs of Snickers candy bars! It's so frustrating!
DALTON04 3/9/08 10:24 P
When I first found sparkpeople in June 2006, my husband and I started together. at the time I weighed 203 pounds, and my husband weighed 285. Well, in the following six months, I lost 50 pounds, and my husband lost 45 pounds. Niether of us were at our final goals, but kind of took the holidays off so to speak. Well, then 2007 started, and I maintained all year instead of loosing the remaining 24 pounds i wanted to loose, because my husband was no longer motivated to do the diet. So now, in 2008, I made a big pledge to finish my weight loss, and I had an additional 13 pounds to loose that I had gained in 2007. So now, I have lost 17 pounds, but it has been a struggle, because again, after about 3 weeks my husband gave up. The worse part though? He has been "disabled" since 2006 from a back injury from a car accident. He has had 5 back surgeries, which have left him dibilitated, and he spends most of each day lying down due to his pain. Since then (he is 6"2, and currently weighs 250) he has developed High cholesterol and High BP, and is taking medication for both. I am worried because he pretty much refuses to eat better. And I also think if he lost weight, he would no longer need the medications for cholesterol or HBP, and it may help his back a little too. I need suggestions on how to motivate him, which in turn will help me on my diet, because I won't have him enabling me as easily. Yes, we all have our bad days, and there are days he doesn't need to enable me to eat something bad, I do the enabling sometimes too, but I just want him to be healthy too!!! Plus, I want to set a good example for our children!!!!
ZENCANDY 3/7/08 4:38 P
My husband is a total hog, he admits it (and refers to himself as a hog). But, guess what? He's 6 ft and 165 lbs.. and struggles to stay that heavy! I lost 50 lbs while still catering to his dietary needs.. which was a LOT more than me at any weight LOL.
What I did was, buy a lean cuisine pizza (or make my own little personal pizza) whenever he wanted to order one in.. that way, I was still having "pizza" and wasn't tempted by his.. I chose to go for the lean cuisine or make my own so I could have more for my calorie count!
When cooking a meal.. if it was a vegetarian dish, I would add meat to his portion.. - I also made extra portions for him, he could have 2 or 3 helpings to my one helping.. I also made extras for him.. like filling biscuits that would be substituted on my plate by a slice of whole grain bread, or something like that.
I wanted to change myself, my body.. and I didn't feel that I had a need to change him in the process. He was happy to try my more experimental healthy meals LOL.. and was supportive in the way of eating his midnight nutty buddys out of my sight.. but, enjoying healthy snacks along side me..
I did feel at times like he was trying to sabotage me, by bringing ice cream and little debbie and chips to snack on in front of me.. but he wasn't. I was just more aware and that was a big temptation. He agreed not to do that anymore. But, about meals.. maybe you should just buy your replacement or substitute to have ready the next time he wants to order that Super Supreme Stuffed Crust with Honey BBQ Wings (my personal favorite LOL)
RBRASHER 3/7/08 12:43 A
We are fortunate enough to live a good 30-45 minutes from the nearest delivery place. Delivery is not an issue for us. If I were you, I'd simply schedule in a day per week when the two of you are going to get take out or go out to eat. It'll save you money and calories.
SCORBITT 3/6/08 6:07 P
I feel you. Its really hard at my house because my husband weighs 145 and is 6' tall! He has to eat like 3000 cal a day. Its really hard to watch him eat all the time and know that I've already had my limit.
And to top it all off every time I get something out of the fridge he says "are you sure that's on your diet" Like I'm incapable of adding up calories to tell if I've had enough. Then I just want to eat more because that's my first reaction when people corner me. Grrrrr. Husbands can be annoying.
THELADYMEREDITH 2/27/08 3:24 P
I think what did it for my husband was realizing what we were teaching our kids and the example we were setting for them. Because of the foods I am eating, our son has started to eat vegetables and they (the family) don't complain about the whole wheat pasta anymore...it is about being a positive role model for your children so that they learn the right way to eat and don't have to deal with health issues and the teasing by their peers that comes with being overweight! For those who are not parents, it's really about being healthy and preventing illnesses caused by deficiencies and/or obesity!!!
ANETRIA1 2/27/08 1:11 P
Thanks for the advise its good to know after a while that the husband can eventually catch on. I was feeling pressure at home sometimes trying to eat healthy when he and the kids are eating the meals plates looking good. I just have to remember that I am changing my lifesyle and that this is going to make a healthier person in the long run.
THELADYMEREDITH 2/27/08 11:11 A
I had issues with my hubby for the first few weeks. But he would cook macaroni and cheese or something equally fatty. After a while, he started to follow my lead though. It's funny...a couple days ago he made baked chicken breast cut up in healthy choice spaghetti sauce and whole wheat linguine! Kinda blew my mind! It takes some getting used to for anyone, but if the man cares he will learn eventually!
MIMI_SDF 2/27/08 7:51 A
I'm not sure who is in charge of meals at your house, but when my husband wants to eat out, order in, or have something unhealthy, I just say no. He could eat it alone, but he never does. He just eats whatever I give him.
ATHENSMOMOF3 2/26/08 3:19 P
New here but you can definitely still eat the pizza - thin crust is better, veggie is better, etc. Just look up what you can have and log it in. I had a slice of pizza on Saturday at a basketball party - cheese thick crust papa john's - around 300 calories. To balance it out I had a salad (mixed greens with light italian dressing) when I got home.
Chinese is more problematic. Lots and lots of calories, most of them empty (white rice, sauce, fried in oil, etc). You can still have a tiny amount, just log it in.
When put in these situations I think it helps to plan those calories into your day. So figure out what you can have and then tell DH you are willing to order whatever you can justify calorie wise.
I have also heard many chinese restaurants will do steamed veggies and chicken with the sauce on the side and brown rice, which is obviously more healthy.
Good luck and remember this is a lifestyle not a diet so you have to fit these things in. Just write everything down and stay within your calorie limits and you will do great!
LUANN_IN_PA 2/26/08 2:33 P
You can eat it... just watch your portions and log everything in. You could still stay within range with pizza and Chinese....
MDGLPN 2/26/08 1:13 P
My husband is driving me nuts. Usually we don't eat out, but for some ungodly reason since I started here at S.P. he keeps wanting to order pizza or chinese and stuff. AAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!
