Thank you for your help and insight into this matter. It is hard, but we are both working on it. Me not taking it too hard when it does happen and him trying to do it as often.
Hopefully we can continue down this path.
TIDEMAMA 1/21/08 8:44 A
coming from a family of yellers i understand where your hubby is coming from and i also see your point as well . it is a hard thing to change but it CAN be changed ...talking to others as i would like to be talked to has helped me a lot . afterall i may be a yeller but i do not like to be yelled at - go figure ! praying the situation changes for both of us . God bless you !
DIXIEANN 1/17/08 2:29 P
I completely understand. My husband can be the same way. I've tried to impart to him that something that is yelled, even with good intentions, doesn't come across as good or nice. DH comes from a very loud family. They all are yelling all the time. My DH has gotten better over the years. But that's b/c we live 2 hours away from his family and are around mine more. My family is very quiet and reserved. Now he can tell a difference when we go visit his family and it gets on his nerves too! I still have to remind him every once and a while that different is just that, different, not weird! And that's not something we want to our kids to learn, calling other people who are different wierdos and such.
Hang in there and maybe it will get better. I don't think it ever completely stops, it's too ingrained. But it can get better, if he will try. Just show through your actions that you don't have to be that way to get your message across. Your kids will pick up on that eventually too.
Good luck!
VALPO1997 1/17/08 8:45 A
Does anyone live with someone that consistently yells/critics everything? Can you tell me what you have done to make them stop?
Note: Talk to them about the behavior or how it effects me/kids or doing back to them have all been tried and failed.
I've explained to him that he is hard on all of us. It is not directed only at me, it is equal to the children too and it worries me that they will have issues when the get older. Please don't think that he mentally abuses us like calling us stupid or fat or anything that attacks our self esteme, but all the time yelling. He says it is normal in his family and that my family is weird. I explain that we are different than his family, but that does not make us weird or unloving or caring towards each other.
