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My kids were horrible about not sleeping at night. Finally I read a book called "Crying Baby, Sleepless Night" which did help. One rule it gave was NEVER EVER turn on a light when you go into deal with the baby. DON'T TALK to the baby during the night, but just do what you have to and get the baby to go back to sleep, etc. There were many other good ideas, which I hadn't followed.
I wish I'd had NANNY 911 back then, because I needed it.
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JOSHKELLAR
11/29/07 3:34 P
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| It sounds like you have a lot going on. I agree that the 2y/o needs special attention. It sounds like when he is doing innapropriate things to get attention he gets negative attention (which to him is at least something). It sounds like when you gave him positive attention he statted acting better. It is ok for yout 8 week old to cry, obviously if there is a need (food, dirty diaper, sleep) this needs to be addressed but babies cry, thats what they do. Your 2 year old is at an age where he is quickly becoming more independent and needs boundaries. There is a great method for helping yourself keep cool as well as providing these boundaries for him. Google "1-2-3 magic" for the book or send me a message if you are interested in more information. I can run through the basic with you. Blessings!
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i have a almost 3 yr old (january) and a 1 year old (turned one in october) and let me say that i feel ya! my oldest actually didnt get bad until the little one started moving around and touching things...and it has been HELL since! today he put a pillow on the little one's head and then sat on it...the older one is always throwing toys at the little one and knocking him down...its very very very rare that i see them playing together nice! the little one is starting to fight back tho. i try to give attention to the older one as much as i can, and if im working extra that week or im sick, my mom usually takes him and only him for a little while.
my son is almost 3 and is just now doing the potty training. i've been trying on and off since he turned 2 and he would scream and he just wasnt getting it...a friend of mine said just wait and he will let u know when hes ready...one day i was doing my hair for work and my oldest said, mommy i have to pee...so i took his diaper off of him and he got on the potty and went pee! i was soooooo excited! i let him do things his way, he will not use the potty we got him he will only use "the big toilet" if u make him use his little potty he will just use the bathroom in his pants, he has even stood infront of me and said "look im peeing on your floor" because i was trying to make him use his little potty (advice from the wonderful mother inlaw!) if the big toilet works for him then thats what we will do. he picks out his own underwear too. getting him to poop in the toilet was the worst problem, but he did it (he wont if your standing there though)
hope my rambling helped! im bored at work! :)
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ROSALIE68
11/24/07 10:04 P
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wow i have a 20m old and i dont know how u do it. i have such a hard time keeping up with him. hes doing all of it for attention. he prob thinks the new baby is taking u away. my 6 year old was like that when this one was born. although im sure its not near the level yours have gone too b/c he ia older. but he would ask y i always did things with the baby. and for a while he didnt understand that babies need so much attention. its so hard. i really wish i could tell u something to make him realize that. my 20m old is also takin his diapers off. the other day we went in his room in the morning and he was sleeping in his bed naked.lol. what a monkey. i try to put him on the potty too. its prob not so good to start anything else new for a little while with yours b/c he already went through the changes with the new baby. and i can bet thats y he was getting up at night. maybe a onsie will help keep the diaper on? or any one peice that he cant get his hands into?? good luck i hope it all calms down for u soon. no advice for the new baby. they sleep when they want. had trouble with my own sleeping through.
rosalie
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ANGELOFURDREAMS
11/22/07 12:52 P
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| Oh i know it will pas, but i want it sooner then later. i've myself 5 childrens, but the three other kids are a lil oder and don't do stuff like that.
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| This too will pass. God Bless you from a mother of 4..
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ANGELOFURDREAMS
11/21/07 12:43 P
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Hello Ladies,
thank you for your respons. I'm so glad to know, my son is not the only one, who does that, with the diaper. Maybe i should try to tape his diaper to. sounds so funny lol.
I try to spend some one on one time with him, which was really nice and he didn't act up. But the thing is, that the lil one constantly screems, not that much any more, but still. The older one want's also more atention from his daddy. Unfortunately he works from 5 pm to 2 am and sleeps till noon, because he can't go right away to sleep. He loves his daddy so much and he try's to spend time whenever he can, but it's not enough.
Yesterday i just had enough and let the older one running around without diaper. I was supprised, that no excident happend. I keep trying to potty train him. That would be so nice, if he would go to the bathroom and especially saving money.
thank you for your support ladies, i really appriciate it.
anja
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JUNKDRAWER
11/21/07 12:04 A
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I'd have to ditto the advice to make sure your older child gets some one on one time. He's been used to it his whole life and just had his world shaken up a bit. Acting out is getting your attention, even if it is in a bad way. I find that a little extra attention can go a long way (although not perfect).
Sleep will come, it just takes time.
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PARENTWIFE
11/20/07 7:27 P
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I am so sorry that I cant help you. I have to boys, 4 and 2 that absolutely do everything they can to annoy me. From the 4 yr old not going to the toilet, cutting his little brothers hair, and even cutting up his futon in his room. This is all in the last few days. Right now I am trying to figure out how to get them to stop jumping on couch. I have also tried to punish them in many different ways.
Now for your boy not sleeping. I am not sure there is a perfect way for him to fall asleep. Maybe he doesnt want to sleep at night. Some babys take longer to get on a good schedule.
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I have a 3 1/2 year old and 15 month old boys. The older started acting out when I was pregnant. He is slightly better now, but still wants to be the center of attention. If he isn't part of it, he is starting to act out. I never had the diaper problem, but I know a freind did. She ended up putting them on backwards so he couldn't get them off. Then I think resorted to duct tape around. Try and give the older one some time when the baby is taking a nap. Just you and him together. Crayons, crafts, puzzles for little ones, or even just cars and trucks on the floor. Make a tent with blankets over furniture and have a secret hideout just the 2 of you. Try to tell him or show him pictures of when he was a baby that you had to do all of this stuff for him too.
Mine was acting up last Friday and Saturday. Screaming, demanding...... And finally I asked him WHY are you screaming at me, kicking, not listening..... he finally said "I am upset that daddy hasn't been coming home" (daddy has been working MEGA hours, 10-12 + hours x 6 days) So I called him and told him he better get home and spend some time with him. Even when he was home all day Sunday he didn't want to be by him much.
Hope it gets better, I am right there with you.
Beckie
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ANGELOFURDREAMS
11/20/07 1:23 P
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Hello Ladies,
i have a 23 month old son and a 8 weeks old son. Ever since my youngest son was born the older one is acting crazy. He used to be such a nice boy and we never had drouble with him. The first weeks he didn't wanna sleep. He got up at 5 am and went to sleep at 12 am without a nap. But we got that back in order. Then he started screeming without reason and that with a high pitchy voice. That hurts my ears. Since two weeks he does something new. He takes off all his cloth including diaper and smeers it around. I told him in a good way, i yelled, i spanked his fingers nothing helps. I don't know why he does it and i don't know any more what to do with this boy. I also tried the potty training, but he doesn't want to.
Now my 8 weeks old son, doens't sleep through the night. What could i do with him? I changed rooms, bouncer, bed, moses basket, stroller etc. He just doesn't wanna sleep through and i'm bumbed out.
Does anyone have suggestions? I would really appriciate it.
anja
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