This was my friend's first grandchild, so after the baby was stillborn her daughter and her young husband broke up and he went into the military. Later she remarried and had two healthy children. The poor doctor sat and cried with all of them in the delivery room, because he had had no idea the baby had the chord around her neck. It is just a sad happening that no one could change.
MECHE99 11/19/07 11:06 P
Thank you, that is what I told my husband, to just leave my DIL be she will come around when she finds out how much she needs the family again. Thank you regarding my daugther, the baby did not have the cord around her neck, actually she came out perfectly well, just moment she was out her heart stopped and she stopped breathing. I feel for your friend, I know how hard it must be for them. Do they have other children? My daughter has other children and this has helped them cope during this hard time. Take care.
MECHE99 11/19/07 11:03 P
I understand it is weird, but he ordered it because we have an Avon account and he does all the ordering, like mentioned there was no ill intention. I do see a point, that it does seem out of content, but I have faith in my husband and I am aware of things that are ordered and done. But it person has there own way of thinking. I truly feel there is no need to be offended, if you knew my DIL, she has gone with my husband and asked his opinion of intimate apparell when they have gone shopping. So, that is why I cannot understand why she is making a big deal of the whole situation. She asked for something and now she is acting as if she is the victim. Sorry you feel the way you do.
JIBBIE49 11/19/07 12:23 P
Just let the situation with your DIL get over. I'm sure she was shocked to find out that he really bought the g-string (I guess that is today's thong). But, as for your daughter losing her baby, that is very sad. My friend's daughter's baby was stillborn with the chord around her neck and was a perfect baby, so they had a hard time dealing with it. Those things are just the risk we take with having children. I have 5 and worried so much with each one, but nothing can change what is.
LUANN_IN_PA 11/19/07 12:11 P
If my father in law ordered me g-strings, I would be offended.
I think that is inappropriate (even if she mentioned she wanted them....)
And why YOU okay with your husband ordering something so intimate for your daughter in law??? I would not be, and neither would my friends (I asked a bunch at a gathering this morning).
Sorry.. but it still weirds me out.
MECHE99 11/19/07 9:41 A
No, he is not my kids father. But he order them upon my daughter-in-law request, not my daughter. The one who lost the baby was my daughter. They were ordered before everything happened with the death of my granddaughter. My daughter-in-law and my husband were looking at a catalog and she told him she liked those, we know that they are financially strut and need somethings, so my husband ordered it for her. Now, my husband and daughter-in-law have always gotten along, and she has bought lingerie in front of him asking his opinion. I never thought anything wrong, for she was asking what she thought of it as a point of view for a man to impress my son. One thing, we have always been very open, my husband and her would tell me what they did and bought and show me, I am confident that nothing is happening. I just found it strange that my daughter-in-law all of a sudden is asking like this. I confronted her and she will not say anything, my husband has tried calling her and she will not speak to him, he'd like to clear up what ever the misunderstanding is.
LUANN_IN_PA 11/19/07 8:29 A
Such as shame that everyone cannot get along... I feel badly about the whole situation.
I agree with your daughter though. She is a married adult.. and your HUSBAND sent her g-strings after her baby's funeral?!?!? That would weird me out in a BIG way.
Is your husband her father?
MECHE99 11/18/07 10:35 P
Hi Everyone,
Well I have not been around for a while, been going through some sad times, just lost my granddaughter who was just born, doctor's do not know why. I am dealing pretty good with the loss right now, and my daughter and son-in-law are doing much better. So, I have been out of the loop and not taking care of myself, but to top all of this, my daughter in law is acting stupid right now. My husband order for her some g-strings that she wanted, and now she claims that she never told him and feels that my husband is disrespecting her, we tried to talk to her and clarify what is going on but she refuses to speak with us, at least my husband. This is tearing me apart for my family has always been united, now with the holidays coming around she decides to act out. I tried speaking to her and have no communication from her, I have no idea what to do. My husband comes by but it is not the same, considering my husband and her were best of friends.
