If you get a divorce from your husband the authorities are not going to take your son away from you, but they might require you to have joint custody. I wouldn't be surprised if you husband finds another woman and she won't want him to be bothered with your adopted son, so I wouldn't worry about this if I were you. There are lots of women out there looking for men, so your husband will find someone and he probably WON'T control her. Since your son came from Russia at such an early age, he is an AMERICAN, so I wouldn't make an issue out of it to other people because that will hurt him most; more than your getting a divorce. You are very pretty and it is wonderful that you have lost so much weight. Keep it up for your health, as that needs to be your concern for the sake of your son.
LINDIEJ2 11/14/07 6:34 P
Hi I am a adoptive mom of an adorable little boy from Russian, we adopted him 8 years ago at 19 mos old. He has some special needs but has made great progress. My husband and I are having problems in our marriage that began when I lost 137lbs Living with him is like living in a penitentiary and having a constant dark could hang over me my son is aware of the conflict in spite of my best efforts to keep it from him, I love my husband, but I am not in love with him anymore I really don't want my son to be from a broken home twice in one lifetime but as selfish as it sounds, I don't want to live like this either This issue is made more complicated by the fact my mother in law informed me that If I left social services could take my child from me for being a single mom in a wheelchair and suggested that if I left, I need to give custody to my husband and in laws HELL WILL FREEZE OVER FRIST anyway one out that has divorced after adoption and the children faired well. Thanks Lindie
