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GONNABE135
11/22/07 8:17 A
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| This isn't about the bookfair it's about STEALING. I don't want to offend anyone but I feel this is very, very serious. My daughter was sneaky and knew it was wrong. She went into her fathers wallet with the intention to take money that she had not earned and that did not belong to her. That night she continued with 5 lies until finally spilling the truth about what happend. I appreciate the replys. I'm still grounding her for a month and she's grounded from tv, phone and computer for another week. My husband and I ended up having an officer come over that night to give her a good talking to about stealing. I feel like we made the best choice and she will think twice about taking something that doesn't belong to her again. Stealing is stealing and I'd rather make sure she is well aware of how wrong it is now instead of down the road.
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 I agree! You are in fact condoning her taking the money out of your purse if you don't discipline her sufficiently. If you don't, you will have a much worse problem with her when she's 14,15,16 years old. It never hurts to be a little strict but it does hurt to be permissive to your children. It's them you are harming by it. They never learn respect for others belongings which could escalate into a far worse problem, even going into trouble with society and the law. You were right to be shocked..
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LUANN_IN_PA
11/19/07 8:36 A
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But it IS a BIG issue!
The point is NOT that $30 isn't a great amount to spend on books... the point is that the child STOLE the money out of dad's wallet.
OP - You are wise to nip this behavior in the bud...
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 I hope you resolved this problem with your daughter and didn't make a big issue of it. Book Fairs at school are important and $30 isn't a great amount to spend on books now days. When I was in school in the 50's/60's we had "Scholastic Reader" and ordered books from it. I often recall my father giving me $3 to order books, so with inflation, that is $30 today. Maybe you needed to talk to her and understand how other kids all have money to buy books. It is am important issue to them.
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| Sorry if this offends you but I think a good old fashioned spanking would do wonders. Then in addition, some restriction of something she loves to do or better yet, some restitution such as chores around the house until she paid off her stolen money. This is the base of her character and as such needs strong discipline from you as this can only escalate with her teen years unless nipped in the bud. I consider this to be a huge problem if unchecked. It wasn't change or a dollar or so but $30 needs immediate attention.
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hi,
i remember when my cildren did this, although she was younger than your daughter.
i agree that you need to sit her down and explain to her this is not acceptable, and explain why you are punishing her. i persoanlly believe that two punishments for one thing is too much, as she only commited one crime, but that is a persoanl belief. i also believe a month is too long for a child of 8, but again thats your decision as her parent. it would definately make sure she did not do it again though!!!
just to reassure you that most children do this though. you have not done anything wrong and are taking the correct steps to show her that this behaviour cannot be tolerated.
keep smiling!!!
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GONNABE135
11/14/07 9:22 A
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| I'm about in tears right now!! My neighbor came to me this morning and lets me know that my 8 year old was showing his daughter $30+ in her backpack! I didn't give her any money!! It's bookfair time and she's asked for money, but she didn't do her chores so she hasn't earned any money. I've tried to teach her that she has to earn the money she gets instead of me just handing her cash. Well, I called my husband and sure enough, he's missing money out of his wallet that he had on the coffee table this morning! So I called the school and the teacher will be giving her an envelope for the money with instructions not to spend any of it!! So tonight, we've got to sit her down and have a long talk. We're planning on grounding her for the next 2 weeks from T.V. and a whole month grounding from friends. Any input would be helpful. This is NOT acceptable to me and I want to make sure this doesn't happen again!!
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