I've had 2 step monsters! I feel what you are dealing with. I had a grandma that didn't believe I was wearing appropriate clothing under my shirt and hiked my shirt in front of 2 male cousins to make sure.
LINDSEYDIESEL 11/25/07 3:06 P
Yeah, I hear ya. I think I have had a problem or more of a complex, since I was in the 3rd grade and my step monster pulled my shirt up in front of my aunt and said see her rolls, they are just like her dads. That was humiliating to me.
J0ETTE 11/25/07 2:53 P
I am a Flybaby! Pick up what you can from her babysteps and let it come as it will. :) That shiny sink happens about once a week for me...but my bed gets made everyday...now that I am a flybaby!
Best thing I can say is you have to be doing this for YOU..not because you need approval from someone else. That is hard to do. I am a pleaser myself. always doing what I think others want me to do.
LINDSEYDIESEL 11/25/07 2:07 P
we are actually. Yeah some people laugh at are arguments sometimes, but really they can be stupid.
IWANTTOBESLIMR 11/25/07 1:32 P
Give him another 10 years - sounds like you guys are a young couple.
LINDSEYDIESEL 11/25/07 12:57 P
My husband is 7 feet tall and has like maybe 1% fat on his body. He is totally not supportive of any weight gain, and mostly because he is a man but also he has never had to face a weight problem.
LINDSEYDIESEL 11/25/07 12:56 P
husbands and being supportive 100% of the time, dont really go together. At least I dont think so.
IWANTTOBESLIMR 11/25/07 12:44 P
I love flylady - she is located in my parents hometown - it has been several years since I logged onto the site - I got a bit overwhelmed, I just wasn't ready I guess even for what does she call them baby steps or something like that.. I need to go clean my sink now...LOL
J0ETTE 11/24/07 8:45 A
I have had experiences as these also. Unfortunately, in my instance we did not make it... 17 years and I was finished. I have since found flylady. and if I had known about that before, it MIGHT have made a bit of a difference. Spark is a great place to go to keep the motivation up.. do it for you no one else. www.flylady.net
IWANTTOBESLIMR 11/22/07 9:17 P
I know that not all are like that and he isn't the only one to blame - LOL - thanks for speaking out.
STEPHANNA1 11/21/07 2:21 P
Thats true. Mine is getting better everyday at helping out!!
DARRELA 11/20/07 11:30 P
hey, we're not all like that....
IWANTTOBESLIMR 11/20/07 7:27 P
The sad thing about my relationship with my husband is that we are horrible communicators. Sometimes I feel like he feels his only responsibility is to pay the bills which I am very appreciative of however it just makes me feel like roommates not as partners in lives journey.
SHANDILYNN 11/19/07 12:49 A
Hope everyone has a happy thanksgiving
SHANDILYNN 11/13/07 12:44 A
Its hard to explain what he does, all's I know to tell people is that he cuts metal. All the metal that is on lets say a car or truck made in the US, He cut the main pieces for. His shift is from 5pm to 5am, and he has to drive an hour and a half both ways. we're try to look for a house closer to his job.
MYPINUPWITHIN 11/11/07 8:23 P
What does he do? My husband works EMS, so he has that same kind of schedule. He either works 12s or 24s.
SHANDILYNN 11/11/07 7:29 P
Hello I'm new on here I've been reading ya'lls stuff, so I thought I might fit in here. I'm a mother of three children and a wife to a man that works 12 hour shifts at least three to four days a week. and when he's home all he does is sleeps. No he's on the top of the list on non supportive husbands.
CRAFTYANGEL 11/11/07 6:58 A
I think this is just a man thing. A lot has to do with the fact as children, there mothers did so much for them. As adults they still need a woman to do stuff for them. Just let him know you are there for him, but you need time for yourself. You are not his maid, you are his PARTNER. and as a partner, you should be sharing responsibilities around the house. and with the children. And he should be supportive in what you want. Write up your weight loss and healthy goals. Post them around your house. And let him know you are very serious about this and would like it support. Tell him you want to live a healthier life so you can grow old together and watch your children grow.
Try to make a family fitness day or something. where you all get together and do something fun and healthy. Like go for a walk, play Frisbee, Play touch football, soccer, etc. Buy everyone a cheap pedometer and see who can get the most steps in a day. any thing that will add fitness and keep it fun. My youngest is 13 and she loves wearing a pedometer to see how many steps she gets.
Good luck with your goals. I know you can do it.
MICKEYGAL13 11/5/07 10:28 P
You can do it BBeaty2 we are right behind you to push you.
MYPINUPWITHIN 11/5/07 10:01 A
Congratulations! Remember, people only see you, not your scale!!
BBEATTY2 11/5/07 9:55 A
Thank you all for the support - it helps so much. My husband is very loving, he just thinks that he and his needs should come before anything else(even my health) and I know it's not because he doesn't care it's just because he doesn't think. You all are all so motivational for me seeing the weight you guys have lost - my weight has not moved but my measurements have. Woo Hoo
MICKEYGAL13 11/4/07 6:12 P
BBEATTY2, I am sorry that your hubby is not supportive. This is just something that you are going to have to do for yourself and not worry about what he says about it. We are here for support and anything that you need.
MYPINUPWITHIN 11/4/07 6:08 P
Because I'm staying at home, I pretty much manage everything on my own. My husband is working, going to school and completing clinicals, so he isn't able to be home very much right now.
It can be very difficult to lose weight while around my husband. He has a love for all foods bad for us - especially sweets, which is a huge pitfall for me. It takes a lot to overcome it, but you can do it! Keep your chin up!
SCRAPEGYPT 11/4/07 7:14 A
with the exception of some cooking (he is better than I am) - my DH does very little. AND he doesn't even appreciate the stuff I do. I am lucky to be a SAHM and we live overseas so I have help. But I still have to do a lot to keep the house running. Our major battle area involves my weight....and it's a biggie!
SCRAPEGYPT 11/4/07 7:12 A
with the exception of some cooking (he is better than I am) - my DH does very little. AND he doesn't even appreciate the stuff I do. I am lucky to be a SAHM and we live overseas so I have help. But I still have to do a lot to keep the house running. Our major battle area involves my weight....and it's a biggie!
NOTBLUSHING 11/3/07 8:37 P
Well, my husband does ZERO around the house, so I do everything for him; but he does keep all the bills paid, and we never fight. I'd say he's supportive and very loving... just a tad lazy and doesn't care about his health. Sorry you're having such a rough time.
BBEATTY2 11/3/07 11:23 A
I HAVE A HUSBAND THAT THINKS I SHOULD LIVE TO DO EVERYTHING 4 HIM, AND THAT MAKES IT HARD TO KEEP UP WITH MYSELF WHEN I AM FIGHTING WITH MY HUSBAND 24/7. I WILL NOT GIVE UP THOUGH, BUT IT IS DISCOURAGING SOMETIME. I THINK HE IS HAVING INSECURITY ISSUES - HAS ANYONE ELSE GONE THROUGH THIS AND DOES IT GET EASIER.
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