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LUANN_IN_PA
10/14/07 3:29 P
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The situation as you describe it is NOT a good model for your kids (and they deserve better).
Is family counseling out of the question?
Ann Landers used to ask "Are you better off with him or without him..."
Only you can answer that.
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| i dont know because i know what my decision would be its just getting it out
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| Sorry to hear that. Maybe you two could get some professional help to ease the decision making about what to do next.
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| I am sorry you are going through that. I never encourage anyone to leave their marriage but you clearly do not have your heart in it anymore. Being scared is normal. Its a big decision to end your marriage. Are you scared of being alone? Being alone is not that bad. It will force you to deal with yourself but that can sometimes be a blessing. You have children and you need to think about what this is doing to them. They probably see that you are unhappy. You do not want your children to be in a relationship later in life and be feeling the same way you do right now. You need to do what is best for YOU. What is going to make YOU happy. When you figure that out, GO FOR IT! If you cant make yourself happy, no one else can either. And if your husband no longer can, then maybe its time to leave. Especially if its been a few years since you started feeling like this. There are lots of resources out there to help you once you leave.You will not be alone. You will always have friends here on the SP board to turn to as well. So chin up, the right decision will come to you. God will take care of you. Wether you are a believer or not. I will pray that things turn out for you. Good luck and God Bless.
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i think i am not in love with my husband no more. he has pushed too many buttons. My husband in the last 10 years has gone through 20 jobs, last year i found out he had went and met up with an old girlfriend a couple of times( he says they never did anything) and then to top it off we had to move with my mom this year because he was fired from his old job and couldn't find another one and we were kicked out of where we lived. now we have two kids but my heart is not in the marriage anymore and i have been thinking about what esle is out there. he never helped around the house either the 6 months that he was off he just played computers and was smelly from sitting on his butt all day. i have tried to kick him out twice but my stipud conscience got in the way. the last time he gave himself an ucler. Even my friends haver noticed i have not been happy the last few years. what i want to know is what should i do? because to tell the truth i dont want to be with him anymore but i am scared. i think i am scared of being on my own rather than being with out him. thanks for listening
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