Well, I have a 3 year old and a 14 month old. I just went down to part time (2 days a week) so that I don't have to pay so much for day care anymore. I know it can be tough. I can't get my 1 year old to stick to any routine I try to put him on. He won't say ANYTHING, except grunting and other strange noises. I was able to get him to sign a few words so I can at least figure out what he wants. But between his frustration on telling me what he wants or not liking the word no, and the 3 year old who whines at a drop of a hat (I do make him say it again without the whining). And everyone asking for something at the same time. They will just have to learn to wait till you can get to it. When I was full time and had to get them ready to go to day care 4 days a week was a bit harder. I did have some help from hubby he would at least get the 1 year old ready and fed while I was in the shower and getting ready. Then i just had to get the 3 year old up and dressed before we had to leave.
I have now had to inforce a 1 hour of quiet time for my 3 year old, 1) for me to get a break, and 2) he has not learned how to play by himself. He has always requested me to come and play with him. To get them ready in the morning is pretty easy maybe cause I have boys and we don't really have to do their hair. Usually I have a diaper bag that has most stuff in it and always ready to go when needed. (you can get this ready the night before) If you need to bring snacks for them. You can get this ready in baggies for the whole week, just buy boxes of wheat thins, nilla wafers, even fruits and veggies can be sorted into serving sizes and then sort into snack size baggies for quick grab and go snacks. Have shoes and coats all in the same space, no searching for missing items. I know my house does not always get as clean as it used to, but I do what I can, when I have help around.
It gets a bit easier.
Beckie
LEFTYGRL83US 10/11/07 1:29 P
Thanks for the support.....I am glad people listen to me vent ...lol. It makes me feel better.
PURPLECLOUDS 10/11/07 1:10 P
Wow you are amazing!!! It sounds like you definitely have your hands full!! Well I am sorry it is just me and my husband and right now I think that is all I can handle. You are an encouragement of what women can do and go thru in their daily lives. I hope you get some great tips! Good Luck and don't give up you are doing great!!!
LEFTYGRL83US 10/11/07 12:54 P
I was stressing last week because i found out that along with my daughter in the morning i will be watching her 1 1/2 year old cousin for the next four months in the mornings before i go to work. Her mother's babysitter shut down and her mom (my boyfriend's sister) is going on maternity leave in February. I thought this was going to hinder my weight loss because sometimes i can barely get my two year old out the door to the gym. Not to mention i work 3-11 full time as a nurse at a mental hospital which is a stressful yet interesting job.. But i did it. I got both of them fed breakfast, dressed and to the gym in less than an hour and i enjoyed an hour workout kid free. Now i just have to get them both to their grandmas house before i go to work. So the next four months will be stressful but i guess today showed me i can handle it. I drink a protein shake in the morning with a banana to keep my energy up. I don't know how mothers of twins do it every day for years...The preceding line was written four days ago on another thread....and honestly now I am starting to feel a little depressed. I am honestly thinking of going to the doctor for zoloft. I told her mother I would watch her for a few weeks until she found a babysitter and now that has turned into until February without little collaboration on my part. It is also hard to say no because she had my boyfriend's mom ask me to do it. Grandma watches my daughter three times a week for two hours until her dad picks her up. I go to work at 3 and he gets home at 5. Now, i watch the girls in the morning and she watches them both until 5. I also have the cousin all day on the days i have off work which is during the week. It would not be so bad if i didn't have to work full time and be on my feet for eight hours passing meds, doing treatments and chasing angry residents around after watching two little girls for six hours. I do not want any more kids and do not enjoy other little kids besides my own and this week has made that thought more of a reality. I know that sounds horrible but it is the truth. I can not really say anything since grand ma watches my kid. The worst thing is i was going to start taking online classes for school to get my BSN in the morning but now i can not do that until next year because even eating lunch is a challenge to get done alone much less trying to study. I could handle my own daughter and we went everywhere, like to the mall and the park but now i am scared to take them both anywhere except to the gym. The cousin is allergic to everything and has been treated by several hospitals for allergic reactions the past year. (pine needles, nuts, dust among other things) and can not eat most foods toddlers eat. Her mom packs "her food" everyday. She also had MRSA and had to be hospitalized last year. So she is a pretty sick kid with a weak immune system. My daughter is a normal healthy kid besides having eczema. I try to be organized, they eat at the same time and go down for naps at the same time, but i have a feeling the most organized moms with mutiple children are frazzled by the end of the day. Any moms have survival tips or support?
