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FIT2WED2
10/12/07 12:25 P
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My kids have been great so far! They have loved everything that I have made and eare eating much healthier themselves. I have all of "my food" in a certain drawer in the fridge and cupboard. They seem to be disappearing all of the time. The chips and that stuff are just sitting there!
My BF on the other hand won't eat anything that I make. The other night I made speg. but I but shrimp in it instead of beef. He would not even try it. He said it sounded disgusting. So he had to fend for himself. We are having a friendly wager on the weight loss with another couple and so he is supporting me more this time then last time but his eating habits are completely different then mine. He just doesn't eat. I keep telling him that that is not good for him but he just comes back with- "I'm losing more than you!" So whatever he can do what he wants. I am afraid about his daughter coming this weekend. She is the pickiest of all! She might just have to fend for herself too!
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JENTRAN9055
10/11/07 5:08 P
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My husband is the WORST at change support. He's a skinny little guy and loves hi cal, hi fat foods. Even though he is thin he has a strong family history of heart disease & diabetes. I keep telling him he needs to change his diet too, but for different reasons than weight loss. He also bugs me to lose weight, but in order for me to do that I have to completely change what I am eating. If I make a healthy meal, or if he finds out something is "diet" or "lo cal" he either refuses to eat it or complains about it. I explain to him I can't continue to eat the same old stuff and lose weight. He wants "good" snacks and complains there's nothing around to eat. We always have tons of stuff, just nothing he wants. Gah! I never had trouble being thin when I was single because I was really active and I could eat healthy with no problems. Help! What can I say to him to get him to cooperate?
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MICHELLE*8
10/10/07 11:33 P
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My husband has been very healthy ever since he was in the military. I have been on healthy band wagon for the past 8 yrs or so. It just seemed to come more naturally for him than it did me. I have stuggled with weight issues my entire life and it seems like it's taking a lifetime to get it under control. My husband seems to understand and is very supportive and tries to include me in on some of his outdoor adventures, like hikeing, which I have come to love. Also in turn I was able to get him addicted to biking. It's kind of a 2 way street.
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TEMPORARY
10/10/07 8:39 A
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Congratulations on the 170s, Barbaracap! Seriously, that is great. :) I'm happy that at least your son recognized what a big deal it is.
My husband is on the diet with me (in fact, we're mostly on a diet for him anyway), so he's being great, but I do feel bad for the kids sometimes. They are being very supportive (they're young enough I guess that they still only expect whatever I make for dinner as their dinner), but I just feel bad when they request a specific restaurant bc we haven't been there "in forever" (to a kid, a month is forever!), and we have to tell them no.
As for the food in the house, I have been buying them snacks, but healthier snacks (like Skinny Cow ice cream), and I kind of have a frequency level in my head. So I'm only buying ice cream every now and then so that I don't have the temptation all the time. And when we have it, they can eat it. When we don't, oh well, they don't need ice cream (even low-fat ice cream) EVERY DAY anymore than I do!
Also, I don't really regulate their lunches, but I do expect them to eat healthy dinners with us, and they are doing an AMAZING job trying all the new food with us. They've even been patient through a couple of attempts at new recipes that turned out to be bland, tasteless disasters, lol.
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IAMTHEPRINCESS
10/9/07 6:24 P
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| Thankfully, my husband and children are not that bad. In fact, my kids are great. My husband still wants the junk food. But, he can't cook. So, he either eats what I put on the table or he goes without. He hates grocery shopping and knows that I am a conscientious shopper and he spends twice as much if he shops than if I do. I gave up on him being supportive, but I laid down the law. junk food is not allowed in this house. I want to be healthier and I won't allow him to sabotage me. I also don't expect the balloons and fireworks from him. But at least, he has stopped begging for ice cream and other junk food. I'm sure he is sneaking them when I am at work..lol Good luck with your family.. and remembering your health is important to them even if they don't realize it yet.
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BARBARACAP
10/8/07 10:10 A
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thanks for the baloons and fireworks!!
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I got the same response when I hit the 10 lb loss (which meant a huge success for me). And then later that night he offers me a bowl of ice cream...yeah, right! You just gotta share those successes on Spark so WE can give you balloons & fireworks! Remember that your husband means well, he just doesn't understand how much it means to you.
 
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BARBARACAP
10/8/07 12:01 A
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im not really trying to change anyone in my family. i will sometimes eat what i make for dinner, or make my own seperate from theirs. everyone is supportive in that.."good Job" kinda way. My husband will always say in that "leering" way...."lookin good" and im thinking yeah I KNOW...BUT i know i shouldnt expect anything...but i was disappointed this weekend. i hit a MAJOR MAJOR GOAL...i finally hit the 70's....everyone in my house KNEW WHAT THAT MEANT...i got a great email from my son from college...but husband and daughter..said a typical...wow. good job....wHERE WERE THE FIREWORKS..if roles were reversed, there would have been baloons and flowers....and streamers...SOMETHING DAMMIT.....i will erase these thoughts from my head now that i have written them...people just cant be what you want them to be.I told my husband dont ever get a job on a suicide hotline...we went shopping this week..i was looking for a space near the store, he said park here..it will be good exercise...i said WHAT??? dont talk to me about exercise!!!! he has no clue about exercise..i go to the gym 6 to 7 days a week.....
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I can sympathize with you. My husband and daughter aren't really supportive either. That's why I have stopped every diet in the past. They don't care what I do as long as I supply their foods/meals the way they like and they don't get excited about my losses (yet). You just have to set your mind to do this for YOU no matter what. I get a LOT of support here at Spark & I have set my mind to succeed with or without their support. By the way I don't buy ALL the junk food I used to buy. If I buy chips or cookies, I buy flavors I don't like so they are less of a temptation.
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It's hard in that kind of a situation. My husband is after me to loose weight (so that I stop complaining about it) but always wants me to buy chips and debbies at the store.
I started buying baked chips (like 1/2 the calories) and the debbies that I don't like (if I don't like them I won't eat them). I also started buying the weight watchers snack cakes and sometimes icecream, they taste good and are much better for me.
Good luck, let us know how it goes.
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JUNKDRAWER
9/10/07 3:59 P
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Dh tries to be helpful but he goes in spurts. Our 4 year old is used to eating a lot of crackers which I am learning just aren't good for you no matter how you look at it.
Some days I make a decision to let them eat what they normally would, and do my own thing, and other days I try to create new things that we can all tolerate as the pp's have suggested.
I'm definitely changing what I buy, but haven't completely gone cold turkey on things the boys are used to. My challenge is to know how to stay away from them. But I am defitely trying the strategy of "if it's what's there, that's what there is to eat".
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A healthy diet is much more than "bird food" !
I think maybe starting slow with the kids may help - start replacing the unhealthy things with healthier ones one by one -- not all at once. You can still do that while making sure YOU only eat what's good for you. That's sort of what I am doing with my BF - he doesn't want to really investigate the plan, but has accepted most changes without even knowing it.... and recently I have noticed that he has started making better choices on his own just using what he sees me doing.
You can also plan family events that include exercise - hiking, swimming, family outdoor games, trips etc.
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wow, that is tough. Guess all I have to offer is lean on sparkfriends to keep you strong.
Also, there are many amazing recipes here. Finding a few that the whole family can enjoy without appearing to be "birdfood" would be where I would start. I find for myself portion control is where I make the biggest gains...
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LEXIILUVSED
9/5/07 12:32 A
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| hey guys im a newbie to this....im trying to figure out how to get the kids and hubby to either join me or back off..lol..my kids are 13 and 9..they are so scared im gonna stop buying junk and my husbands comments before i go to the store is"dont get any bird food"uuuggghhh please any suggestions...
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