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ONEPONYGIRL
7/31/07 6:13 P
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Good, I'm glad for you. Someone once told me that when their kids yell they whisper back. The kids quiet down trying to hear what their mom is saying. Playing quiet and loud games can help a child understand when it's appropriate to be loud v. quiet. Taking them to a park or outside where they can yell and go crazy and encouraging it and then saying "whisper voice" (or whatever) and everyone talks very quietly, kind of like a "red light, green light" game.
I wish you continued success in helping him through this phase.
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POIFECT_NOT
7/31/07 9:49 A
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Have been ignoring him it seems like it may be getting better (knock on wood) I don't want to jinx it though so I am going to set back and see for a few more days
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ONEPONYGIRL
7/29/07 12:39 P
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I would suggest not even taking him to his bed. A screamer is seeking attention, anything, even negative attention like being put to bed, is rewarding his efforts. Let him know that you'll help him once he is quiet and simply turn your back on him. It's worth a try anyway.
Signs may definitely help. More, please, thank you and signs for his favorite food, drink and toys.
You're doing a great job and I commend you for taking him into your life, he's a fortunate boy to have someone who loves him like that.
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POIFECT_NOT
7/29/07 12:12 P
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thanks for your input I have been putting him in his bed and telling him that as long as he is screaming like that I can't help him
no he does not talk at all really
working on a few of the signs with him like eat milk drink ect hoping it will get better
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ONEPONYGIRL
7/29/07 2:36 A
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Maybe I missed it but what is your response to his screaming? Have you tried turning your back and walking away while telling him that when he does that it hurts your ears so you have to be away from him for a minute?
Did you say if he talks? I agree with the teaching of sign if he isn't yet. Letting him know that you can't understand him when he screams and you won't be able to do what he wants until he talks nicely.
Have you tried "reverse psychology" and telling him "oh, that wasn't very loud, can you try again?" or "come on, you can do better than that" when he has fits or screams. I've seen that work with some kids but without knowing his temperment it's hard to say (I used to work in a daycare).
Some of my favorite parenting books are the "Parenting With Love and Logic" ones. There is one for toddlers and a "regular" one among others. My local hospital also offers the Love and Logic parenting classes and I've heard they are very good. "Shepherding a Child's Heart" is also a good book.
Good luck!
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POIFECT_NOT
7/26/07 6:11 P
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Well the police have been here twice all I do is strip the baby down and let them look and tell them he is a screamer the one officer said his 5 year old used to do this and they had to let him out grow it the officers the second time talked to my neighbors and let them know what was happening no more calls so far hopefully there won't be anymore but it puts me on edge after awhile hearing that I am not alone helps a lot
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At this age they are going to test. My 3 year old still tests to see what is our breaking point to give in. Don't give in if you said no, let him scream and throw his fit. My brother said that a freind had told their little one that he could do better, he could kick more, that wasn't a very good fit..... And he stopped real soon. Can you put him in a room where he won't hurt himself or other things while he is in this mood? Once he realizes that he is not going to get attention with this he will calm down. (a crib would work, if he is still in one and can't climb out)
I don't know what to do when the neighbors are calling the police though. YOu may have to talk to them about this so they sort of understand.
Beckie
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NOTASLACKER
7/26/07 2:51 P
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| I pray you get an answer b/c my 2y/o does that to I am surprised no one called on me yet. I pray it nevers happen either
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oh boy can I relate... it sounds like my daughter.. .she would scream like someone was stabbing her..
Part of the issue was that she couldn't communicate what she wanted.. very frustrating ... and then she hit the terrible two's early..
I think that we used time outs... a place where she was safe and could melt down..
She did outgrow it.. she is now 15 years old..
Caeryl
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POIFECT_NOT
7/26/07 2:23 P
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| actually nothing has to provoke it but most of the time it seems to be temper because he doesn't get what he wants when he wants and if I hold him it just seems to make it worse i have had him for over 6 months by myself and was with him in their home prior to that he was a preemie
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When does he do this? Does he talk much? he might be frustrated that he can't express himself or no one understands what he is trying to say. I don't know if you have always had him or just recently, but could the previous custodians screamed? he could be mimmicking this as well.
Personally I would just try and hold him really close to you and rock him. Tell him you love him and everything is OK. Just hold him tight and close till he calms down. (I think this is similar to the tough love ideas)
If he doesn't talk much, try finding a book by Last name of Garcia. It's for baby signing. They can start to sign at about 9 months old for milk, more, eat, drink, because their vocal cords are not that strong yet to form too many words.
I am sorry you are going through this, my 1 year old recently started to scream when he doesn't get his way, or get his hands wiped. But he is over it, in about 2 minutes. ANd a nice thing, I have 2.5 acres so no one is real close.
Beckie
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POIFECT_NOT
7/26/07 1:08 P
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I have custody of my grandson who is 14 months old he screams like someone is killing him for no reason I have had the police called by neighbors I am at my wits end someone help how can I make him stop. He throws himself around and I am afraid he will hurt himself someone has to have some ideas
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