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| I get the same thing from my teen. He wants to stay up all night, but if he has to get up early the next day it's hard. When he was at Scout camp he went to bed and got up early just fine. Go figure. I think some people are just wired to be night owls and to sleep in.
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NEGATIVEANGEL
8/6/07 9:53 P
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Try leaving her behind.
Say you need to get up the next morning and leave on time for a family event, a movie, or something she REALLY wants to go to.
If she isnt ready when you want her to be, you leave with out her.
somehow she's getting satisfaction from you getting frustrated.
Possibly, you could find a way to frustrate her, to illistrate how you feel when she does this to you.
Just some ideas.
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In my mind it would make life easier for both of you if you just didn't include her in your morning plans. Like, if you desire for her to help out around the house make it stuff after lunchtime. Different people are on different schedules. My dad likes to be up at 6am in bed by 8pm. Mama's perfect schedule is go to bed 2am get up 10 or 11.
Obviously if she has a job or school she will have to get up, and I'd say in that case let her get herself up and deal with the stupidness that comes from being late.
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Why does it matter so much? Well because we have a family schedule in the mornings and she needs to know that there is an expectation for her to contiubute positively to that schedule (we have a teen and a toddler). That's what being part of a family is all about.
I have left her to her own devices some days with mixed results. Let me try that again Tanya, thanks for the sympathetic ear.
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SP_COACH_TANYA
7/17/07 1:35 P
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As the mother of a teen myself I can relate to your struggles. We used to tell our child that if she didn't get up that was her choice but that if she missed the bus for school she would have to walk and then explain to the principle why she was late. Is there somewhere your teen needs to be that you can tell her that you will be leaving at X time and if she isn't in the car then she will have to get her own ride? Perhaps being inconvenienced and "out on a limb" a time or two will help her lose the need to control the situation and you will gain back your morning peace.
Tanya
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LUANN_IN_PA
7/17/07 11:10 A
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| Why does it matter so much? Surely the aggravation is not worth it!
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OK, I've simplified my life. I've made a commitment to myslef to loose the weight, eat healthy and exercise.
I've set goals for my life and I'm makeing progress.
Still, the thing that causes the most stress in my life comes first thing in the morning, it set the tone for my day and it's totally out of my control: how to get the teenager out of bed!
I've tried gentle prompting and I've tried all out yelling. Nothing. I've tried punishment (no computer for 2 weeks and no rock concert this weekend was the tally this morning). Still, she insists on just lying there letting my rage and frustration and stress build. "I'll get up when you leave my room!" NOT.
We go through this every night, "Tomorrow you have to be up at x o'clock, don't forget". The the morning comes and I'm spending all my time trying and prying her out of bed.
When we finally do get out the door my stress level is soaring and my mood is shot for the rest of the day. It's driving me dithers and blithery blathery out of my mind!!
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