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| I have decided that this is his issue and i am focusing on myself with hopes he will just get on the bandwagon. I am here to support him when hes ready but im not going to stress myself, nor him, out over this.
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NO-JIGGLES
3/23/07 11:18 A
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| I'm in the same boat! In fact, yesterday I posted on the Panic Button!
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I think MOM2BOYS1975 has a lot of positive ideas. I have trouble with my hubby as well. We are in our late 30's and we have little boys. I worry that we won't be around to see all the important things in their lives if we don't take care of ourselves. Sometimes after I have had a good workout I will say something like 'Man, I dread working out sometimes but once I get started I feel great!' or 'It would be easier to sit on the couch and watch TV, but I want to be around to watch my babies grow up.' I focus the comments around myself hoping that he will get the hint that he needs to do the same thing. It usually works.
Best of luck to you!
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| You are probably helping him a lot by providing him with a healthy diet. Why not a romantic stroll in the park every now and again?
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MOM2BOYS1975
3/22/07 3:02 P
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Yes. I've complained and made many half hearted attempts at losing weight in my 6 years of marriage. My husband all along has told me it's my choice, that he loves me just the way I am, but he will support me. Each time that I've had success or failed miserably I always felt like he was on my side. Had he suggested that I REALLY needed to do something for my health or whatever reason it would have backfired completely. Through his support and encouragement I am able to keep doing it for me this time.
I understand wanting your husband to jump on the bandwagon with you, mine could lose weight too and I worry about his health. In watching me do it this time where I'm having slow and steady success he has made some small changes. He has given up pop, isn't eating as much red meat, and actually drinks water!
It has taken awhile for him to want to do anything. I talk about what I am doing with cooking or whatever to make little changes, sometimes he follows sometimes he doesn't.
I really think that as you lose and your hubby sees the positive changes in you he will start up too. Sometimes we need to give our guys a kick in the butt, other times we need to gently coax them without them realizing and let them think it was their idea.
This is how I got my husband to quit chewing tobacco. I told him I was concerned and when he was ready I was there to give him whatever help I could, then I backed off. Last October he told me he wanted to quit, I kept him stocked on the commit lozenges, when he was having a hard time I kept the kids away from him, and did what I could to help. Then, he finally did it. He had been talking about quitting and making half hearted attempts at it the whole time we'd been together. I think it helped that he knew that I never stopped believing in him.
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| I realize this has to be his decision. He sits and tells me he wants to lose weight. And complains about his size. But he wont do anything about it. I am worried about his health. Am i supposed to just sit back and listen to him and not do anything ?
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MOM2BOYS1975
3/22/07 11:17 A
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There is nothing you can directly say or do to make him do this. He has to want to. The more you push him the less likely he probably is to make any changes. This has to be his decision.
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| Hello everyone. My husband and i are trying to lose some weight but i find he has lack of motivation. I found this site and joined and have had good luck with motivation and success. I asked him to take a look at it and he wont. I ask him to walk with me, he wont. He just seems to have no motivation whats so ever. I did a cupboard overhaul so all the junk was gone and good stuff moved in. I have been cooking recipes from this site so we both eat better ( he just doesnt know it lol) I need some ideas on how to get him motivated to lose the weight he so desperately needs to lose.
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