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YAYME1227
3/25/07 11:05 P
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Do not stress or worry about it. My son was not fully potty trained until he was 4 (we started trying when he was 2 and was almost there when 3 and then had my daughter and he totally backtracked). My daughter is potty trained and just turned 3. She wears a pull up at night because she still has accidents at night.
When he is ready he will do it. Quit worrying about it and I wish someone gave me this advice when I was worried about my son going to preschool and he was not fully potty trained but it all worked out. Stressed for nothing. He will learn to go eventually.
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| I don't think you should push him either- I have a two year old boy and a seven year old girl- the girl was easy to train but I haven't pushed the boy- my neighbor is a great mom with 3 great boys and she told me not to worry and that my guy is still very young for the potty!
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| I am preparing to potty train my two-year old. He's my second, but I can scarcely remember how I did it with the first. Off to read the tips offered to you here!
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A_GROVE84
3/22/07 12:03 P
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| My son just turned 2, and everyone has been pressuring us to potty train him...we tried right after his birthday, in December, but he just got upset and didn't like it at all, problem #2, he si going through a "shy" stage, where he doesn't like people to see him nakey...sometimes..other times, he runs butt naked....so, maybe he's just not ready....is that wrong that I don't push him? I don't think so, but others, (family, ect..) think he should be trained...
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BOLOSANGEL
3/20/07 1:47 P
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Hi, new here!
I have a 2 1/2 yr old girl and a 1 1/2 yr old boy.
My daughter as just started telling daddy when she has to use the bathroom (he's a stay at home dad) but she will only go poo. We can't seem to get her to pee, we are trying the stickers, but they don't seem to be helping.
My son will come to us and tell us when he's gone, they are both in pull ups now and it seems that my son will be easier than my daugher. I also have 2 teenage boys and don't remember any problems w/ them either.... Just my very stubborn daugher.
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We're going through potty training right now, my daughter is 2.5. It takes a lot of time, we started with the gerber waterproof trainers, but she was not getting it and would wet through and not tell us she was wet. We went to pull-ups only because she's in daycare and it's easier for them than underwear. I take her potty before and after meals and if it's been more than an hour or so after she's gone potty and more often if she drinks a lot.
She does better at daycare and if we're out somewhere than she does at home. AFter about a month of wearing pull-ups she's just starting to mention when she has to go potty, but it's a long process and I figure eventually she'll get it.
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Potty training is tough, but they all eventually get it:) I have learned that just because you are ready, doesn't mean that they are and there is no point in pushing them into it. I tried to potty train my son when he was 2 because I thought he should be old enough to use the "big potty". I was wrong, it was nothing but accidents for a week!I used pull ups and tried using stickers and candy, but nothing worked. All it did was frusterate the both of us, so I decided to wait a little longer. Just a few months later he started showing interest and we tried again. Instead of using pull ups, this time we went to the store and I let him pick out his "big boy" underwear. I moved his potty from the bathroom to the kitchen, which is in the center of the house. The first day was all accidents and a lot of laundry, the second day was better with fewer accidents and by the third day he had it!After a week I was able to move the potty back to the bathroom and he had very few accidents since. It only took 3 days and was worth the effot and laundry!
My theory is that pull ups may make them feel a little wet, but still feel like diapers and pull the moisture away, by using regular underwear they feel wet and uncomfortable right away, which makes them want to make it to the potty so they don't have that feeling again. Also, I figure that they may recognize the sensation to go, but if the bathroom is too far from where they are at, they won't make it anyway. By moving the potty to a central location makes it easier for them to get to it in time.
Just remember that every child is different and it may just take time to find what works for you little one.
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| Thanks for the link...makes sense.
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http://drphil.com/articles/article/264/
There's a link that basically describes it. It takes a little work on your part beforehand, but most children are trained in 1-3 days with this method, with follow-up lasting about 2 weeks.
From what I understand, you really need to be prepared ahead of time with all your supplies and be willing to commit a full day or weekend to it. You can't be running out to the store to get things, etc. So, you'll need to buy all your supplies ahead of time and clear your schedule. The whole day/weekend has to be about using the potty - that means no leaving the house, no cleaning, no working, etc. If you have other children, you should find someone to take them for the day or weekend (a stay at the grandparents' house or something like that), so you can focus all of your energy on being able to run to the potty at any given second. You can also do a little advance work before the Big Day, like having books and dvds about going potty. We borrowed a dvd called Potty Power from the library today as well as several books on the subject. I'm going to let her look at those as much as she wants for the next week or two, give her access to sitting on the potty with no pressure and only when she asks, etc. Also, I'm going to put diapers on the doll that pees, and let her change her baby's diaper. Then, on the Big Day, we are going to teach the doll to go potty and say good bye to the diapers and have a party for the doll becoming a big girl. Then we will spend the rest of the day working on her going potty.
Hopefully, it will work. If it doesn't, I'm just out a few bucks on a doll she'll end up loving anyway and a day of my time. It's worth it to give it a shot.
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| I would love to hear some more of this PTing Boot Camp! Sounds interesting! If the sticker reward chart doesn't work, I might want to give it a go.
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| How timely. I'm gearing up to try the Dr Phil method of PTing. In fact, earlier today, I checked out some books from the library - a few potty books, and a few other books I thought she'd like - for potty time. I'm going to let her call Elmo (aka my sister) when she goes successfully at the end of my PTing boot camp that I'm planning. I am also going to buy her Elmo underwear if I can find them. I do have some Dora and Princess and CareBear underwear, but I'd really like to find some Elmo ones, as I think those would be most persuasive. Normally, I don't buy any kind of character clothing for her (although she does have some she got as gifts from other people), but I'll make an exception for undies that end diapers! I also have to find a doll that pees before we can do the potty boot camp.
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| Thanks...it really helps to know that there are other mothers out there who have faced/are facing the same obstacles that I am...so far so good with the training. He went this afternoon for me for the first time since his operation. Maybe this is a sign that he is ready to start trying again.
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My son has had tubes twice - it usually throws things off for us for a week or two while we all adjust. I hope your tubes are as great as ours are! My son hasn't been sick in the year and a half we have had them. We had to have a second set put in because as soon as the first came out, he got sick right away.
Keep breathing with the pottying -
:)
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Sorry if this is repeat advise... Keep a baby food jar full of cheerios in the bathroom. When he is "ready" to go (at first it's pretty much when you tell him it's time) let him throw one cheerio into the potty and aim for it. Vulgar I know!! HAHA! But it worked with my son. Too bad every kid is different or this woud be soooo much easier!!
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| hey good ideas, i also have a 2 1/2 yr old boy, but i really dont think he is quite ready, throws a fit if i try to set him on the toilet, but i am going to also try the rewards system or stickers and see if that helps, or just wait until he's ready
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Wow I am new here as well. I was also having problems potty training my 2 year old! I will try these suggestions as well!
THANKS!
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| Good point. He went poop for us last night, so he got to use the computer to play a blue's clues game...he was very excited about that and told everyone we saw today what reward he got...it was too funny. He also just had tubes put in his ears yesterday (Monday) so he isn't as excited to go potty, just wants to lie down and look at books. Going to keep encouraging him and not give up, as I know that I need to be consistent with him. Wish me luck!
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I would steer clear of food for rewards - just a personal thing as I still think of treating myself with good for good things! Okay when your two, not so great in your thirties. My son loves his stones jar - we give marbles/stones for positive behaviors (such as pottying, putting clothes in your hamper, etc). He can use his stones to buy things - extra time with just daddy outside, computer time with Dora and mommy, etc.
Try not to stress about it - the more emphasis you put on pottying, in my experience the more resistant they become. Frequent potty breaks - light hearted and fun. I also have a rule that people who choose not to potty choose to wear diapers. It isn't a bad thing - it just means that you aren't ready yet for underwear.
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| Newbie here. I can really sympathize with you. We had the worst time with my 6yr daughter. We tried all the rewards. People would tell us she's preoccupied or she's being independent. Turns out she had a medical problem. The left ureter wasn't closing properly after she'd go. So, even after she went within 5-10 minutes she'd have to go again and most times have an accident. She's fixed now. Anyway, this is just another veiwpoint, good luck.--leigh
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| Thank you everyone who has written back. I am very thankful to all of your suggestions. My older son trained in two days about three months after his third birthday, but there were medical reasons for that...my younger one wants to be just like his big brother and is refusing to wear pull-ups (God forbid I even mention diapers!) anymore as he is now saying that they are for babies...I guess this is going to be a real test of my patience. :)
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My son wasn't ready to train until just after his 3rd birthday. We used a sticker chart and he liked that and he trained quickly with peeing in the stool but he didn't want to go #2 in the stool for some reason so we bought a bunch of those little 99-cent Hot Wheels cars and if he went poo in the toilet he could reach in to the box and get a new car. We only had to do that about a week before he lost the fear of going poo on the toilet and that was it.
Hope you find something that works.
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| On my way to the dollar store for stickers to try your suggestion...
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I'll third the idea to just TELL him it's time to go. Do it regularly. We finally had to do that with my daughter, and she was resistant to it (just because she's obstinate at time and wants to control things herself), but now she just goes when she needs to.
We tried treats and rewards, but we're both very against food rewards, and she likes too many different kinds of things to focus on just one type of toy (my nephew got a car every time he went, for example). WE finally started doing a reward chart with stickers, and every time she got a certain number (I think it was 10), we'd go to the mall for a ride on the carousel, or something like that. Not nearly as effective as just *telling* her to go, though!
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| Thank you so much for your suggestions! I have recently been told to try offering a treat/reward for whenever he goes...I was told chocolate, but obviously that is only an extra temptation for me not to eat them. LOL
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| I agree with last post. I would schedule regular potty breaks about every 1.5 to 2 hours and take your son to the potty and get him to try to go. My son would say he didn't need to go because he wanted to play, but when we got there he would always go.
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Interesting...you've mastered the more difficult part of potty training but having trouble with the easier part lol
Ok, well, let's see...is he really involved in his play that he doesn't want to take a break and use the bathroom during the daytime? Or is he for some reason scared to tell you that he needs to use the bathroom? When I first began potty ttraining my girls I wouldn't wait for them to tell me when they needed to go to the bathroom, I would just say "ok, time to go to the bathroom!!!" That way, it wasn't a question, it was just a STATEMENT...and eventually, you can wean away from that once you see that they are telling you by themselves (although one of my daughters still needs to be told to go to the bathroom, if she's too involved in her play...)
Good luck!
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| I am trying to potty train my 2 and a half year old, but without success. He stays dry during naps and over night, telling me that he is physically ready, but he will pee his pants and not think anything of it. Can anyone offer me any suggestions?
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