My 9 year old aughter has been doing this for a while. She seems to think acting this way will get me to do it for her as her dad tends to go beyond the point of "help". Too far into "doing" it for my tastes and she then expects the same from me and I refuse so we get the theatrics. I know she is not stupid and tell her that I can't understand why she wants to act like she is. It's usually just drama but all kids are different so she might need to be tested. You just never know... Good luck!
ROU2AA 12/6/06 2:48 A
hi, I was having the same problem, when I was chasing reasons I discovered that jealous is one of the important factors to obstacle any progress, my older son is always on the top of his class so she felt no matter she is doing she cant reach him , so she gave up more over she is not interested in any of her learning subjects, I decided to let her know that succeeding is not only when we at the top of our class it is very important to grasp the information and make use of it regardless our ranking to the class, then I encourage her to succeed in skating the only thing she likes and she discovered that succeeding is not that easy and needs a lot of effort , training and enthusiasm. So later on she turns to do more effort for studding we have a lot of progressing. I wish you to analyse why she can’t do it, accordingly encourage her to do something she likes very much to feel the success. Then she might turns to implement this for her learning planes, but she needs your support .Don’t be disappointed and keep on raising good children is not that easy, wish that could help Amany
SP_COACH_DEAN 12/5/06 10:35 A
Hi, S
It's hard to say what might be going on, but one thing I'd recommend is that you ask the school to test your daughter for any kind of learning disability. A lot of kids who feel like they're "not getting it" in school turn out to have biologically-based problems with reading, math, attention, etc. that aren't severe enough to be obvious, but bad enough to cause them trouble. There are programs that can teach them how to cope with these problems, but it's important to spot them as early as possible. It's been quite a while since I kept up with this stuff, but I think most school districts have testing programs--check with the school office.
Hope this helps.
Coach Dean
SKINNY1DAY 12/4/06 10:19 P
I really need some help. I have a 9 yr old and I have been struggling with getting her to do her homework lately. when I push too hard she usually yells and screams and crys and says she is too stupid to do it and storms off to her room. I have tried on several occassions to reassure her that she is not stupid and I've tried to help her with her homework but she usually cries the entire time constantly saying how stupid she is. this is really frustrating me and I am at my wits end. a 9 yr old should not be feeling this bad about themselves. I have tried to get the school counselor to talk to her but she basically has told me there is nothing that she could really do I should take Kitiara for counseling. I can't afford to take her for counseling so I am just curious if this is just a stage that 9 yr olds go through or is this something serious that I should really be worried about. I am really desperate for any help or advice on what i should do.
