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SONFLOWER_TX
10/5/06 12:18 P
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Veronica
It's really important to relax and have fun. Life is just too short. If your SIL is pressuring you in some way about this then in my opinion she is a control freak and needs to let go. If however you just *think* she is watching and she really *isn't* then my suggestion to you is to relax and have fun. I hope that your loved ones accept you no matter what you weigh. Just my 2cents.
I have a close friend who has been a nutritionist for decades, teaches classes and so forth, and when we eat out, she states that she is not "the food police" and just relax and order what we feel like ordering. It's not that she doesn't care but our peace and comfort level at being with her is very important to her.
Ruthie
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KRIS10LEE
10/5/06 11:20 A
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Don't make your weekend about food, make it about seeing family easier said than done I know...We have family gatherings all the time and its hard because they revolve around food. My RD told me that when you see a table full of food scan it to see what is on it. Look for stuff that you don't normally get to eat like aunt betty's famous green bean casserole or for me it would be dressing or stuffing during the holidays. Then have a "portion" of it along with your meat and veggies. If you can have mashed potatoes anytime don't have them now. As far as desserts go, have a small portion of your favorite item.
It's not about dieting, its about making better choices and your nutritionist SIL would have to agree with that. I would pick her brain about questions you have about foods and such like the other poster mentioned, use her to your advantage but don't do it during a meal do it during some down time.
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| I really don't think that most nutritionists and dietitians pay attention to what their family and friends eat unless they have been asked to. Ask your SIL if she has ever been to the SparkPeople site. Depending on what line of work she does, she might be happy to have a new resource to recommend to her clients.
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VERONICAGZM
10/5/06 2:26 A
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Thanks for the advice. I guess that I am worried that I will "mess up" and fail to lose weight... and then I will have this authority figure (my SIL) to answer to. However, I have been doing well, and I should not be worried!
Posting this question and reading your answers has really made me feel a lot better! Thanks!
I will try to view my SIL as an ally instead of as an enforcer, judge, and jury. Just writing this makes me see how silly it is! 
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DINGOSLAYER
10/4/06 4:53 P
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| My advice would be to just relax and have a good time. If they already know you're watching what you eat, and your SIL is a nutritionist, they should be supportive of the process. Expect to be amazed at how wonderful they all are. If you're eating with them, she's eating it too - so it's not like she can say anything terrible about your choices.
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| If your SIL is a nutritionist, why not use her to your advantage? Let her know that you started on a new eating plan for life and it is still kind of new and trial and error for you. Have her help you figure out what to eat, ask for her advice before she gives it unsolicited
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VERONICAGZM
10/3/06 8:52 A
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Hi all.
I have to spend the weekend with my in-laws, which would usually be fine... but now that I've
started the SparkPeople diet, I feel really self-conscious about eating there.
In preparation for our visit, my husband asked his mom what would be on the menu, so we could plan our meals ahead. Now everyone there will know that we are trying to lose weight.
My sister-in-law is a nutritionist, and I am afraid that she will be watching everything I eat and judging me. What if I eat something she deems fattening, and she says something? How do I respond? She sometimes does give unsolicited advice, though not often.
I am so stressed out about this weekend, that I am afraid I will pig out on everything just to show her that I alone control what I eat. That's what I usually did before starting SparkPeople!!!
I have told all my friends about my lifestyle change, but I am scared of eating in front of my sister-in-law. Crazy, huh? but... what would you do?
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