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MAMABEAR003
10/7/06 11:42 P
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Thank you BugnBeans Mommy!
I appreciate your words of advice. I guess the key is "change". They need me differently, but still need me. Maybe this is just my insecurities rising to the surface. I need to adjust and grow with my kids, not wish time stood still. Thanks.
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BUGNBEANSMOMMY
10/7/06 7:54 P
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Everyone wants to feel needed. Your girls need you just not in the same way. Nothing feels better then knowing mom is always there. Now is the time to focus on you.
I was talking to my mom the other day...(ok I was having a bad day and needed my mommy ) But she told me that it always makes her feel good when I call and complain not just to check on her and dad.
My mom always use to say,"when you all(there are 5 of us) grow up, I want you to live at least a day away from me so I can get some rest."
So when we all got married we moved out of state.
Last April she asked us all to come home for her birthday. So all 21 of us went. She said for a week her house felt like a home.
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MAMABEAR003
10/1/06 11:23 P
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How fabulous to be reminded that as women we are not an island of ourselves. To reach out and find that we are not alone in our feelings and thoughts is so comforting. Thank you so much for your compassion, understanding, and encouragement.
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| This is about my 5th time on the boards. Yes I feel the same way. I have two teenage boys, 14 and 16. It was just yesterday they were babies, now all they need me for is to pay the bills and to cook dinner. lol
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| They sure do grow up fast. It doesn't seem possible that my oldest is 8 already.
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BUFFEDSTUFF
10/1/06 12:22 A
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| mamabear slowly start rediscovering yourself so the empty nest time want hurt so bad. Its wonderful that you love our kids but you know that one day they are going to have to leave your safety and that is a bumpy ride. You have time to prepare yourself but it is hard. I wish you the best.
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MAMABEAR003
9/30/06 11:55 P
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Thank you for the words of wisdom. You're right, it is the cycle of life. It's just difficult to get my head around it sometimes. I tell the girls to be patient with me because even though they are growing and changing I am still the same person I was when they were tiny.
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BUFFEDSTUFF
9/30/06 5:29 P
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| Sure its just the life cycle, its now time for you to start focusing on you. Don't get me wrong they will always need you but they will soon be off to college, etc so be prepared. My youngest is 23 and it is so great too watch them fly from the nest and develop awesome lives of their own.
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MAMABEAR003
9/30/06 12:59 P
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HI! This is my first time writing to a message board anywhere! My name is Sandy-Lynn, I am 42 and my husband and I have 3 daughters ages 11,13 and 14 (soon to be 15) I have always been a stay-at-home mom. I am going through "growing pains" as my girls are getting older and don't need me in the same way anymore. They are great girls and we are an active, close family, but I mourn the loss of the "little girls" in that they don't need the snuggling and Mama-ing quite so much anymore. Anyone else feel this way, or is it just me? 
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