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BEAUTIFUL_BELLE
10/3/06 2:19 A
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| Seems as though I'm not alone, too! My husband and I are hoping to start a family in the next couple of years. That is why I am here now. I read somewhere that if you want to lose weight before having a baby that it's best to do so approx. 6 months before you start trying! When I read that, I was immediately motivated to start getting rid of the extra weight I have gained over the recent years. Also I heard that if you want to exercise during your pregnancy you should be exercising regularily before hand. So that's my goal - lose the extra weight and accomplish a regular exercise routine - so far so good!
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I too am trying to have a second child. My daughter is 4 and for a really long time we were going to have her be an only child. Then our lives changed and we decided to have another. I gained 35 pounds with my daughter and had pre-eclampsia as well as a C-Section with her. I will have another C-Section with the second.
One thing I keep in mind is that I am eating healther and creating healthier habits than I had before I got pregnant with my daughter. So I am encouraged about that.
This past May we lost a baby. I am convinced that my weight had something to do with it so I have been on spark people and working with a dietician since. I actually started going to the dietician the week before we lost the baby.
I think more than our weight it has to do with the stress in our lives. I am currently trying to get that under control in hopes that will help.
I will be 30 on Saturday and I am also scared that my age has something to do with not being able to get pregnant.
I can understand where everyone is coming from. Keep up the great work!!
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PITRDPRINCESS
10/2/06 10:21 P
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| Hi everyone! My name is Callie & I am trying to lose 30 lbs before my first pregnancy. My husband and I will be celebrating our 1 year anniversary this weekend and we just decided to start trying for a family. He needs to lose about 30 lbs as well so we will be doing this together. Even though I'm 23 its taken me a long time to get to the point of actually wanting kids so this is a big deal for us. We are making our first attempt this week since I am ovulating so wish us luck! Good luck to the rest of you!
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Hi Bella's mom -
I have very similar circumstances.
I was always big - about 230 before I got pregnant - but pretty active.
I went up to 287 when I delivered - I was on bedrest for 6 months.
I'm trying to take it off now, before having #2 - but it is going sooooo slowly.
Dr warned me that BMI over 40 is high-risk for miscarriages, diabetes and a whole bunch of other unpleasant things - my BMI right now is 39.9- yikes!
So am I working on it.
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Hello,
I am also trying to get in shape before becoming pregnant. My husband and I are looking to populate in about 1.5 - 2 years. First I joined Sparkpeople just to count my calories and work on my portion control. About a month ago we started talking about babies and this became another motivation for me. I am sooooooooo excited just talking about it!!!!!
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| Hello everyone, I'm new to this and have never written on a message board before. I learned about sparkpeople in a group on myspace for pcos. I've lost 50lbs so far on my own and have hit a plateau. I've yet to have children and am actively trying now that my husband has returned from overseas. I'm hoping that if I lose more weight it'll jumpstart something in my body and we can finally have a child
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CHARLEESANGEL81
10/2/06 4:44 P
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| I read a really interesting article in the Resource Center about losing extra weight before having a baby, its at the bottom of the nutrition resource page I believe.
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Hello everyone!
I started doing sparkpeople again 2 weeks ago because I want to try to get pregnant again in October. I had lost all of my baby weight last year (and then some!) but went on vacation right before the holidays, then the holidays happened...yadda, yadda, yadda...before I knew it I had gained 13 pounds back! I love sparkpeople because I can see exactly how much I'm eating. (I have a problem with calorie amnesia...I forget how much I've eaten.) I would rather lose these last few pounds now than after the baby! Good luck to all! If I can do it, you can do it. The biggest advice I can give is 3 things:
1. Set small goals
2. Keep track of what you eat
3. Exercise regularly
Keep up the good work! Hopefully I'll get pregnant soon...I'll keep you posted. I can't wait to start using babyfit.com
Laurie
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I am working on loosing weight and getting fit before conceiving my first child.
I am hoping that will help me have an easy and healthy pregnancy and help me get back into shape afterwards. 
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hi cnelson3203...try www.babyfit.com. that site actually recommended sparkpeople to me after i had my daughter.
good luck!
aj
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Hi ladies!
I was about 180 prior to my son and I have to admit that I stopped looking at the scale after I went over 225 or so. The next time I weighed in was months after my son was born and I was at 238...yikes. I am 5'5" so I was basically as round as I was high! I had a TERRIBLE pregnancy...felt awful the whole time, gained WAY WAY too much weight, borderline diabetes, c-section after 36 hours of labour, etc.
Now I have lost a total of about 48 lbs since then and still have another 40 at least to go to get to 150 GW. My bf and I want to have a baby together but I have set the conditions of marriage (not doing it alone again thank you!) and weight loss to come first.
It is hard because I am 29 and I can definitely feel my clock ticking away so I would like it to all happen in the next year or so.
The bf says, "we will just get you skinny then get you pregnant!" haha I am terrified of gaining a lot of weight once I get pregnant again but my lifestyle is so different now that I think it should not be too much of a problem the next time around!
Good luck to you all. Healthy moms make healthy babies!! 
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CNELSON3203
10/2/06 2:56 P
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Hi ladies!
My fiance and I are getting married in April. He talks about getting pregnant on the honey moon alot. He's pretty baby crazed. I am so excited about the idea of a 2nd baby. However during my first pregnancy I just ate everythign in the world and got as large as I possibly could. I learned some horrible habits.
So I'm hoping to break those habits before next year and have better luck getting pregnant. I'm also hoping for a more comfortable pregnancy.
I have been looking and haven't found anything like this site for pregnancy. I would love to see a site like this set up to encourage good health and well being while pregnant along with articles and a community during pregnancy. Does anyone know of such a site?
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Hi All,
One of my reasons for shedding pounds is to try for baby #2 too. I don't want to be this weight and gain another 20 or so pounds from being prego. Towards the end of my first pregnancy I was put on bed rest and my high bp turned into toxemia--NOT NICE!! Being on magnesium was terrible.
Good luck to everyone, and I'm here to support if you guys can do the same.
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LISRIDEOUTT
10/2/06 2:22 P
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Hello ladies. I joined Sparks about 3 weeks ago and so far, I've lost 10 pounds. Still have a long way to go and it's been rough. But I've been fighting it with everything I got. My main reason to lose weight and join Sparks was to have a baby. I'm 33 years old and I'm looking so forward to have a baby. And that's what motivates me and keeps me going. When I imagine holding my baby in my arms, and looking into it's eyes, that's all it takes for me to get it together. I'm gonna do this. We are all gonna do this! Good luck to all of you. It will happen. 
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JULESASSID
10/2/06 1:48 P
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Hi there - I'm 29 and turing 30 in Nov. I had wanted to have a baby before that but now know it isn't going to happen by that date! :) I have been actively trying for 18 months. I am not on any meds yet, nor is my doc concerened. I had a breast reduction on 10/4/05 and he says that it is because of the trauma to my body. I don't know why, but I am not believing him on that. I have always and continue to have normal periods and have never even had an abnormal pap. We have an appointment to have my husband checked first since it is the most inexpensive route.
I know what you all mean about the question of "when are you going to have one?" I never used to care and may have even asked people that, but now I just want to slap them. The answer is what some of you say "when God wants me too." Is there even a different answer?
I want to be healthy too before and continue w/ the new knowledge I have gained about how much and what to eat. The gym I go to also has "Baby and Me" classes that I want to take while I am pregnant. However, I just don't feel like I am that bad for weight, it sounds like alot, but at 5'7 and having a very muscular build, I am lucky to be very proportionate and I know MANY people who are larger than me and have no problems what so ever. It's just all a mystery to me!
Jules
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SCRAPPINAMY
9/29/06 5:53 A
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ttc is very frustrating, don't give up hope. I had several rounds of Clomid thankful I got pregnant, but I was about to give up and go on to the next step.
I wish you the best of luck!
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LOVINGLIFE0376
9/29/06 1:42 A
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Hi there. My name is Amanda. My husband and I have been ttc for number one for 2 years now. I was diagnosed with pcos back in 1998. I have not been able to ovulate as of yet. Just finished another failed Clomid attempt. I am trying to lose about 20 pounds.. hoping that it may help....
Anyway.. sorry for pouring that out. I hope everyone is doing well!
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SCRAPPINAMY
9/28/06 3:19 P
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| Audrey my husband and I tried for 2 years and then we were blessed with a wonderful boy who is now 10 months old. I remember taking way to many pregnancy test wasting tons of money on them. I wish you luck that if its meant to be that it will happen. I too would like to lose weight before having another, if I can't lose it I most likely will not have another.
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AUDREYSMOMMY
9/28/06 11:29 A
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Hello Ladies,
I'm 37 and also trying to lose weight before trying for another baby. My husband and I tried for 8 years before finally conceiving. It was terribly depressing and I can't tell you how many negative pregnancy tests I've wasted money on! But finally it happened. My daughter is 7 months old and wonderul- unfortunatly I gained 20 pounds during the years we were trying- so I have that plus the pregnancy weight to lose still...its harder to lose when you get older. Due to my age we are starting to try right away and if its meant to be, God will bless us again.
I just wanted to say good luck to all of you and to those of you that are having trouble, don't give up.
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| hi guys im in the same boat as all of you. i lost some weight since having my son then in the past few months I have gained. i know I want to have more children but I have alot of issues that I want to work out first. I want to weight 120 before I get pregnant again. that seems like forever away! but I am buying an elliptical trainer oct. 1. thats my next payday and I worked 12 hours of overime for it. bf mentioned last night that I had put on some weight since my son was born. that really upset me though I knew it was true. also I would like to quit smoking and get my thyroid in check. i think my levels are still off so we may need to up my dose. by the end of oct. I plan on cutting down to 5 cigs a day and my goal is to quit alltogether by christmas. anyone else quiting smoking?
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LITERARYBEAUTY
9/21/06 5:52 P
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| My husband and I have decided that we are going to actively try and get pregnant, and I would like to lose as much of my weight as I can. It's hard enough trying to lose the extra 50 I have...I can't imagine trying to lose 50 more of baby weight!
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BABYBUNNY78
9/5/06 7:05 P
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| I am new to this board and want to loose weight for two reasons. One is because I want to have a baby and start out at a healthy weight for the baby the ontehr is I also want to return to school I know it seems the two are opposite but I would like to be pregnant and start night school and then continue when I have a baby and then not go back to work right away. I live in Canada so we already get a year mat leave.
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What we all have to remember is that we're all doing it for a good reason, we're trying to become healthy againg!! That's the best reason in the world. And hopefully we'll all get that great reward we're hoping for. . .a little bundle of joy!! We can do this!
mel
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Good morning. I'm new to this board, but I have been on SP since June and have lost 13 pounds. I would like to lose another 15 before I have another baby, but I would like to be pregnant by the end of the year. I was doing really good on everything and then I had some stressful things happen in my life and I fell of the wagon so to speak. I really just need encouragement and reminder to lose the weight so we can have another baby.
BABS
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| You know I want to lose weight and have another baby, but I fear I won't want to have one after losing the weight. Being afraid I will gain again.
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| Good afternoon everyone, welcome newbies! Good luck to all of you with your weight-loss goals.
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Hi! I'm Tracy.
I'm trying to losss weight before TTC our first as well! It's so important to me to be a healthy Mom not only during pregnancy, but also throughout our children's life. It would kill me to have my children constantly watching there mother "dieting", and possibly have them "inherit" my food issues. So, my husband and I are incorporating healthy habits as a lifestyle, and so far it's coming along pretty well. We are feeling great.
 I hope to get to know many of you on the boards throughout our journeys!
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I just thought I would pop in and say hi! I have been hanging about reading posts and thought it was time to post. I too am trying to loose weight before getting pg. Or at least get healthier so I am on a good start before pregnancy.
DH and I will be ttc starting in September! We were finally given the okay from the dr after our mc in May. So I will keep eating healthier and if I loose some weight before we get pg wonderful and if not, at least I'll have a healthy start and won't gain too much during pregnancy!
Take care
Kim
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| Hi! I'm new to all this. I am trying to lose weight before TTC my first. WHich will probably not be for another year, but I want to get as healthy as possible and look good for at least a little while before kids. Right now I have about 20lbs to lose. I put on the pounds after I got married.
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| Good morning everyone, how was your weekend? I'm the same way, I'm more likely to pay attention to the number on the scale rather than how I feel or what I've done. But it sure is nice to see those numbers go down. I lost 3 lbs last week (whoo-hoo) and if I keep this up I might make my first short-term goal before the goal date.
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OHJENNRAN
8/28/06 12:01 P
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| for me, I had to stop thinking on the number on the scale, and start thinking about what I am shoving into my mouth and how active I am. I am now focusing on getting out and getting some kind of exercise each day. Even if it is a 30 min walk in the mall. I bought a pedometer and that really puts it in perspective for me, it quantifies how much I am doing each day.
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It's good to know I'm not the only one who wants to lose weight before having a baby. Today is me and my husband's 2nd anniversary and we want to start TTC about this time next year. I'm currently about 15 lbs over my goal weight, but more importantly, I have terrible eating and exercise habits. I want not only to lose the weight before getting pregnant, but to revamp my lifestyle so I can be healthy during pregnancy and so that I can teach good habits to my child.
My problem right now is trying to get and stay motivated to exercise...anyone have any tips?
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JASMINES97
8/24/06 7:41 A
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| PRETUM - I have pcos as well. Just wanted to let you know that there are communities on here that are very helpful and supportive for those who have pcos and are looking to shed pounds. Are you on metformin?
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BECKYPOIRIER
8/23/06 11:11 P
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I also get frustrated with people asking. I have a four year old son and everyone is asking when we're going to give him a sibling. My mother keeps telling me I can plan my pregnancey to give birth at a certain time. I don't have a close relationship with her so she has no idea what I'm going through. I don't want everyone to know. I blame myself for not being able to conceive and my husband thinks it's his fault. We just started having tests done by a fertility specialist. we go to see her in a couple of weeks so I'm hoping that we can have some answers soon.
What I really hate is that I want to be pregnant so badly that I keep making myself feel like I'm pregnant. I get nausious a week before my period is due because I want it so badly. then my period comes and I get disappointed all over again. I try not to focus on wanting to get pregnant but it's hard not to.
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SUNSETLOVER
8/23/06 10:07 P
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It is so frustrating when people ask! We're going on 3.5 years of marriage and all of our friends that got married at the same time have a baby and are either pregnant with #2 or working on it.
Lately, I've been saying, it's up to God. That usually keeps them quiet because then they realize that we're not choosing to be child-free.
(We are waiting now but only because of a surgery my DH has to have that will help his fertility.)
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| Hi; I perfectly understand you because I am in the same situation, I had 4 miscarriages and no baby yet, I had "Blood Clots". I gain a lot of weigh, maybe because of that. Is so frustated when people ask you about kids after 5 years of marriage, is hard and at the same time very emotionally for us as a couple. Right know I been try to loss the weight before get pregnant again. let see ...
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Hi, I'm so glad there is someone I can relate to. I am about 140 lbs above my average height and weight. I am 30, and there is nothing more I want than to have a healthy baby for me and my husband, but it is so difficult for me, because I have Polycystic Ovary Syndrome.
I did not until know I had it, until after having pegnancy in the tube and a miscarriage. I never thought I would have so much trouble having a baby. So many friends and family alway asking me "when will you have a baby", but they don't know, what I have to go through. I hate people asking me that question. It's so frustrating.
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SWEETORANGE
8/23/06 1:48 A
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hey all, did u hear about "Fertility Awareness Method" (FAM) ??
It's really amazing.. i found out about it thru a wonderfull book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler
about the book: http://www.tcoyf.com/
About FAM : http://www.tcoyf.com/library/primer002.asp
this book is a treasure! after i finished it i think all women & girls should ve it.. it helped me to understand lot of things in my own body!
read customers review who bought this book :
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060937645/ref=ase_lifecyclefertili/104-4488094-1611905?s=books&v=glance&n=283155&tagActionCode=lifecyclefertili
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TRACISGOAL
8/22/06 11:57 P
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yes, i'm in the same boat as you girls--kinda. Last year i read the book the Perricone Prescription and was so motivated I lost 40lbs between may and Oct. Well, christmas came around and i went back to my old self. I'm so ashamed of myself because I gained back the 40 and about 5 more!!!! Well i need another motivation so I made a deal with my hubby. I asked him if I get down to 120 and stay there for a year, we can have a baby. I already have 2 kids, but I really really want just one more, but he isn't so sure he does. I hope this motivation works this time!!!!
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| Great motivators! I use most of those to help me along. I am really trying to work hard now. I just started to use the pre-pregnancy weight as a motivator and it has me moving more. I've actually exercised two days in a row on purpose! I started reading a book about pregnancy post a premature birth and it keeps repeating that being as healthy as possible really helps to lower risks during pregnancy, so that is what I want. My time frame is to get pregnant in the next 1 1/2 years. I will finish my masters in Aug 07, so I'm fair game anytime around there.
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SUNSETLOVER
8/22/06 9:05 P
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I'm in the same boat!
I want to lose weight and because of some difficulties my husband is having, we have to wait at least 5 more months...maybe 9 months. What a perfect time for me to get healthy and lose this weight!
It's hard to have "before having a baby" be a motivator but I try! Here is some food for thought...some of what I tell myself and what others tell me:
-Being a healthy weight optimizes the chance of conception.
-To have one belly, not two when I'm pregnant
-Maternity clothes will fit and look so much better when I have less fat on me. Not to mention being able to have more choices for clothing and more clearance items to chose from!
-Breastfeeding is easier when I'm not as heavy. (I've been told this.)
-Pregnancy weight is a little easier to lose if I don't have all these pounds of fat already on me!
I wish all of us the best of luck!!
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| I'm in the same boat. Need to lose weight before having a baby. I also have to wait about two and a half years. I was diagnosed with breast cancer when I was 25 and now I have to take medication and I can not get pregnant while on it. I think getting fit for pregnancy is a big motivator for me, but sometimes it feels so far away. Has anyone found a way to keep their motivation up??
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ELIZABETHAN
8/22/06 4:51 P
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| There is another SP team specifically for this situation. If anyone wants to check it out, it's called "Getting Fit Before Baby". You can also get to it by going through my SparkPage and looking under my teams.
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JASMINES97
8/22/06 4:34 P
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Hello everyone!
I'm on the same boat as many of you here. I have a gorgeous 18 month old son and while I love HIM... I had a very rough pregnancy. Morning sickness, gestational diabetes, and a c-section (due to him being breech). I'm looking to get in shape so that when I eventually do try to become pregnant again, my body might have an easier time!
I think that we'll probably be TTC sometime next year. What are your time frames?
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| Hi everyone! I'm new to the group and relatively new to the site. My hubby and I want to have our first child together, but want to lose weight first! I gained most of my weight after losing my first baby to emergency cesearean at 6 mths. Turns out I have an incompotent cervix. So the depression and life changes that followed, along with the 60lb baby weight gain, put me from 145lb to the 223lb I am now. That was almost 9 years ago now, so its time to start a new life!
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LADYBIRDMOM
8/22/06 2:15 P
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Hi everyone
I'm 22 and have been married slightly over a year. I want my first child sooooo much, but I also want to be under 150 before we start going down that road. So here I am. I'm also working on creating a habit of taking my vitamins. I know how important it is, especially Folic Acid, and I'm so horrible at remembering to take my multi. Since I'm still young I'm planning to lose this weight fairly slowly so that by the time we are ready to concieve I will not only have shed pounds but have created a whole new lifestyle for myself.
Danielle
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I understand what it's like to have work interfer w/the workouts.. I work @ a Wa*Mart in the Deli and they put you where they need you so the hrs are not the same everyday and you don't have the same days off every week. In fact, I just came off a 6 straight day work week and I'm so tired today on my day off that I don't hve the energy to exercise. Plus I have to clean my house and do the laundry.
I know I need to find the time, but it isn't always easy..
I KNOW WE ALL CAN DO THIS!!!
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I'm 34 and know my clock is ticking and WANT a baby really really bad. I've been pverweight my entire life (except when I was born 2 months early)  I've lost weight and gained it back. Since 11/5/05 I've lost 57 pounds.   I've had my ups n downs but keep going.
My OB told me that I wasn't regular monthly due to my weight and that if I lost weight I would be and that would be easier to conceive. I did get pregnat in 2000, but a month along I had a miscarriage.  It was very heart braking for me as we had been trying for 9 1/2 yrs (5 b/4 married & 4 1/2 after married) It's been 6 yrs since then n we still AREN'T pregnat. My OB said everything is fine inside of me, but I don't think so. If seen heavier people than me get pregnat and carry the baby full term, so what's wrong w/me? What other tests can I have done that insurance covers? Why am I not regular?
This all makes me very depressed, but I have to go thru life not letting anyone see how much it bothers me.
I keep saying, "God will grant me a little one when he feels it's the right time." Does he realize my clock is running out?
I know I'd be a great mom, as I love n adore children. Everyone @ work is giving me all these pointers. One co-worker keps telling me to stand on my head. 
I wantt o lose more weight so that I can conceive, have a good labor, look pregnat not overwieght and be able to play w/my children.
I've set mini goals and I'm almost @ my first mini goal. My major goal is 140/150. I know I have a long way to go, but I'm hurting on the inside.
Sorry to ramble...
Debie
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LADYBIRDMOM
8/22/06 1:53 P
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Hi everyone
I'm 22 and have been married slightly over a year. I want my first child sooooo much, but I also want to be under 150 before we start going down that road. So here I am. I'm also working on creating a habit of taking my vitamins. I know how important it is, especially Folic Acid, and I'm so horrible at remembering to take my multi. Since I'm still young I'm planning to lose this weight fairly slowly so that by the time we are ready to concieve I will not only have shed pounds but have created a whole new lifestyle for myself.
Danielle
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TMSTEWAR2
8/22/06 12:30 P
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| I just went off the BCP and am trying to loose that few last pounds before Dec. Thats are TTC start month. My biggest challenge is consistency, everday is something different at work. I will have a good week get to the gym 4-5X and then the next week nothing due to late nights. I am really trying to watch my eating (I have avoided the donuts this morning at the office - I hope I can hang in there.) My thought is to be at the lowest weight possible so if I put on 30lbs during pregnancy it won't hurt as bad. I will still be less that the biggest I have been. I also have high blood pressure so I am really hoping that will come down as well. Good luck to everyone!
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| I'm 24 and a newlywed. My husband and I are very eager to start a family, but I want to get to a healthy weight before getting pregnant. I have lots of friends my age who have kids and were over weight when they had them. I know how diffiuclt it was for them to get back to just where they were before pregnancy. I'm hoping being proactive about my healthy and starting helahty habits will keep me from gaining more weight when I get pregnant. One friend told me that keeping up with core excerises during pregnancy would have been the smartest thing she could have done. She lost all her pregnancy weight but could never tone her stomach like it was.
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BECKYPOIRIER
8/22/06 11:36 A
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My husband and I have been trying for two years to get pregnant. I became so depressed that I wasn't getting pregnant that I put on almost twenty pounds. Weight is definately an issue. The more you weigh the more complications you can have for both you and your baby. It's a good idea to weight for awhile to conceive. This site is great and I know if we all stick to it we can do it. It will be a so much more enjoyable pregnancey if you are living healthy. Make this your lifestyle first. Once your confident that you can do this permantely and your doctor gives you o.k then I would start trying. I feel like this is permanent for me now. I'm not willing to endanger my life anymore. It's finally become about my health and not about being skinny. I know that because of this change in my mental attitude that is why I will succeed this time. I would prefer to be 175 before conceiving but I think I could have a healthy pregnancey at 200. Good luck to everyone in trying to achieve your goals. We can do this.
Becky
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BUTTERFLYLIZ
8/22/06 10:48 A
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Wow. I am so glad that everyone has posted in this thread. I am about 135 lbs above my ideal weight. I am 29, and will turn 30 next month. I want nothing more than to get pregnant right this very second, but I know that at my current weight, it would be difficult. My husband is insistent that I lose weight before we try to have a baby. I also have Polycystic Ovarian syndrome, which means it will be very difficult at this weight to get pregnant on my own too.
I hate being overweight. I know it would be a hard pregnancy like this. But I also hate the thought of waiting any longer. All of my friends are on their second babies, and I still don't even have one. It's frustrating.
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Hello. I'm 29 and my hubby and i would like to start making a family as of next year so i need to loose as much weight as possible (being almost 100pounds overweight.
Its funny cause i really would like to conceive now (we havnt tried yet) but something tells me deep down that it will be hard to go through a normal pregnancy with all the excess weight.
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I am trying to lose weight for 2 major reasons. I would like to be healthier, as I am not even 30 and feel like I have the body of an 80 year old :( I just really notice my weight all the time in my joints. I also plan to become pregnant in the next year. I gained very little weight during my last pregnancy because I had my son 3 1/2 months early. I gained a lot of weight afterwards even though I was pumping milk. Of course sitting in a chair at the hospital for three months didn't help. Then I was at home for three more months sitting in a chair with him because he was on oxygen and I was very limited on where I could go, I had to be within 10 feet at all times. I have been trying to lose the weight and not doing a very good job of it. I go to my OB/GYN in Dec to discuss my next pregnancy and I want to go there with a healthier weight, so that I don't have to prolong the pregancy any longer. It's good to see others that want to be healthy for pregnancy also. I look forward to reading more.
Lina
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| Hi, I'm also trying to lose weight before having another baby. I'm 27 and I already have a beautiful, wonderful little girl, Jacqueline, who's 6. I feel terrible that she doesn't have a sibling close in age to play with, but at first money was tight so we held off on having more. She'd been an unexpected surprise in my final year of college. Eventually I came to realize that if we kept waiting until we had money, we might never have another baby. But now it's my weight that worries me. I was 215 when I became pregnant and put on 37lbs, then lost 50 while nursing (lucky me!). The pregnancy and labour went well for me, and I just want to be healthy again next time. However, we aren't really trying not to get pregnant, just letting nature do it's thing and hope for a surprise! Anyway, I've rambled enough, good luck to all of you!!
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TIRED_OF_IT
8/22/06 8:38 A
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DH and I would love to have more babies but there's no way I can have another weighing this much. I had to have emergency c-sections for both (this tears me up as I am a natural birther at heart but not in body :( ) and the recovery has gotten worse each time. I had pretty normal pregnancies, which shocked the doctors. Apparantly I was supposed to have a whole slew of problems because of my weight. The complications with birth were unrelated to my weight.
I am one of those weird people who actually gains weigh when nursing. After I had DD, I physically couldn't eat as it made me sick yet somehow managed to gain about 20lbs in the month after she was born (I was also busy chasing a two year old around at the time). However I am still commited to nursing and I'm still nursing a 2 year old a lot and 4 year old on occasion as I believe in child led weaning.
I would like to lose at least a hundred before getting pregnant again, but I'm scared I'm running out of time. It's just so hard.
I currently belong to a gym, which I have been going to for the past year, 4-6 days a week. When my membership is up, I will be doing my workouts at home because of financial constaints (I find they're more effective anyway). I am eating within or below the limits Sparkpeople has set out for me and praying a lot!!
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SWEETORANGE
8/22/06 8:34 A
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Congratulations JGOARING! ohh u did it .. wish us luck and patience to reach our goal, wish u healthy pregnancy & healthy child soon ;)
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SWEETORANGE
8/22/06 8:28 A
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| Hi everybody, it's so nice to find ppl on the same boat:) me too trying to lose wieght before having my first baby, i'm scared of the idea of getting pregnant while I'm over wieght.. i'm on my half way to my wieght goal but i feel so depressed bec my scale stopped moving i dont know why! i try many ways to change my diet , i want to ask u all when u TTC how can u excersise & lose wieght while u r excepting urself to b pregnant any month.. i c this limit my move soo much & really bothers me, wt about u?
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| I'm trying to lose weight before having my first! I've been told it's just that much harder to lose weight after you've had a baby. But then again, a friend of mine put on a lot of weight when she quit smoking, had her first baby, and dropped all of the weight and then some because the baby was so much work! Anyway, we're planning on trying to get pregnant this fall, but I want to be down to 145 at least before we start because I don't want to get stuck at this weight. And of course, now the time is looming nearer, I'm more anxious because I've only lost 5 pounds since I joined in June, and I know anxiety only makes it harder. *sigh*
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hi , what u just said about regaining weight on purpose , maybe this is demotivating me , but i guess we all should go into our goals , no matter what , good luck 2 all
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Just to pop in and say I ahve been on and off with Sparkpeople and finally signed up with weight watchers just because I personally needed to be held accountable and that weekly weigh in in person helped (though I still love the Sparkpeople website whichis way better than most of the WW web stuff) and my goal had been to lose weigh before concieveing... which I admit is a challenging goal -- it is hard to loseit when you know you are going to gain weight again soon... on purpose!
But I wanted to encourage you all to keep it up because I made my goal! I started out at 180 and now weigh 146. My goal was to get under 150. We will be trying to get pregnant this month:)
My pregnancy goal is to keep my weight gain to under 30 pounds. My first 2 pregnancies I gained 50-60 pounds each (2nd one was twins though).
Good luck to everyone!
Jennifer
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| hi megan , my name is Aline, i'm facing the same problem as u do ,my first baby is now 1 year old , i gained 20 kg , it's so annoying , i'm trying to loose weight because i'm thinking of a second baby but i don't know when yet, it's up to my weight , wish u good luck to achieve ur goal , nice meeting u
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BECKYPOIRIER
8/11/06 9:25 A
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| I know that regular yoga makes a differnce in my ability to manage stress. It makes sense that it could help me through labour.
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BELLASMOM826
8/10/06 11:23 P
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| I do too, it was tough! yoga might help. I did prenantal yoga in the beginning of my pregnancy, but I didn't use any of it while in labor. Maybe it will help you through.
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BECKYPOIRIER
8/10/06 5:10 P
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| I don't know that I'd actually like a doula. They don't actually deliver babies. There just like a coach right? I think I'd just get irritated with someone else there. I just like my husband there. My mother wanted to be there but I said no way. The fewer people the better for my nerves. I'm a very private person. If midwives were allowed in Alberta I'd probably go that way. As it is they are not able to legally deliver babies here. I liked the setting of the room I was in it was very calming. I just needed to be able to focus my attention on something other than the pain. I have a low threshold for pain.
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BELLASMOM826
8/10/06 3:11 P
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I am trying to keep my calories at 1600, I do 30 min of cardio 5x week, drinking water and just watching what I put into my mouth. If you are truly serious about going natural next time you should really hire a Doula. I did and she was great to me. I probably would have taken an epidural if I didn't have her there. It really helped to have someone (besides DH who was nervous anyway) to help keep me focused and calm.
Megan
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BECKYPOIRIER
8/10/06 12:16 P
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What kind of things are you doing to achieve your goals. I've been doing a lot of dancing including belly dancing. I also want to start doing yoga. I plan to do that throughout my next pregnancey. I wish I had done it with my son I think I would have had an easier time managing the pain. I gave into the epideral. I'd like to avoid needing that next time.
Becky
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BELLASMOM826
8/10/06 11:21 A
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| I know, secretly I'm hoping for a surprise! LOL
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BECKYPOIRIER
8/10/06 10:08 A
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| I'm trying to get down to 175 before we conceive; but I'm not really trying to prevent pregnancey. We're just going to let what's supposed to happen happen.
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BELLASMOM826
8/10/06 9:42 A
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| Thanks! I am just trying to get down to 170 and then we will start trying. So hopefully after the New Year.
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BECKYPOIRIER
8/9/06 10:01 P
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So long as you eat well and exercise there is no reason why you can't have the same kind of healthy pregnancy. Good luck with achieving your goals.
Becky
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BELLASMOM826
8/9/06 7:40 P
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Good luck!
I actually ate really well, worked out and only gained 28lbs and had a really easy pregnancy, despite all the risks of being overweight, but now I'm scared that I won't be so lucky second time around.
Megan
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BECKYPOIRIER
8/9/06 5:23 P
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I am also trying to lose weight before conceiving my second. I was a 180lbs when I became pregnant with my son. I didn't eat healthy and I didn't exercise so I gained seventy pounds. I had a diabetes scare during my pregnancey so it has made me realise that I really need to smarten up. I'm determined to be better the next time around. My son is now four so we really don't want to wait a whole lot longer. That's why I'm really glad I found this site. It is helping me out so much.
Becky
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BELLASMOM826
8/7/06 11:20 A
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| My name is Megan and I am working on losing weight before becoming pregnant with my second. I was very overweight when I got pregnant the first time and luckily went through a very easy and healthy pregnancy, but who knows if that will be the case the second time around, so I am trying to get as healthy as possible before TTC. Anyone else on the same boat?
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