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CHARLIBLAH
11/27/07 12:48 P
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| I have an almost terrible two y/o son and three girls, ages 8 6, and 6. Never dull around our house:)
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MOMMY2GIRLS
11/27/07 6:39 A
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| I have 2 lil girls almost 3 yrs old and 18 months
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AMBERB317
11/26/07 5:10 P
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| I am a stay at home mother with a 6 1/2, 5 1/2, 4, and 13 month girls
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NATESGIRLY727
11/21/07 2:53 P
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| I'm a stay-at-home mother of 2. My son, Kaden just turned 2 and my daughter, Kaelyn will be 2 weeks old on friday. They are 3 days short of being 24 months apart.
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KITTIE313
11/12/07 9:25 A
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Been there, and there again now. I have a 4 1/2 year old, a 3 1/2 year old, a 21 month old, and a 2 month old. All girls no less. Isn't 2 a fun age? (but I still don't get why they call it the terrible two's, I found 3 a much harder age)
I also have the binge moments, where I just need to get away from my kids a moment and end up indulging in something I shouldn't, like a monsterous Hershey bar that we got to make the kids s'mores with. But for the most part I'm staying on track with things, it is very hard though. I'm at that point where I have a kid who lives on air so I'm frequently having to eat part of her meals to get a few bites into her (I take a bite, then she does, then I do, then she does, repeat until finished) so its really getting harder for me to keep an eye on what all I eat.
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NATALIE718
11/10/07 7:20 P
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| i am natalie. i live in indiana. i have 3 children. my daughter Mackenzie is 4, Austin is 2 and Gavin turned 1 on halloween. i am a stay at home mom with a very busy schedule.
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ANGELA_EATON_23
11/10/07 1:24 A
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Hi I am a mother of two kids my son is almost 21months and my daughter is almost 7 weeks old. I am a stay at home mom and I am having a hard time trying to find time to exercise between cleaning my house(cause I am a neat freak...lol) and my family.. I have an addiction to fast food restaurants and I am trying to get out of the habit and need someone to push me in the right direction cause I cant do it on my own.
Someone please help me.
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| I a working mom of two kids(a 2 year old and a 1 year old). Both keep my husband I really busy. My difficulities lie in finding time to exercise between the demands at work and the family--as well as not snacking when my kids snack:)
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IAMAHOTMAMA
11/8/07 11:32 A
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| I love my toddler as he turned 4 last saturday. He is my motivation daily and keeps me on track. I also have a 2 month old at home during the day. Once school is out I have a 7, 11, 12, and 16 year that returns.
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| Hi, I am a mother of two son 3 1/2 and daughter 13months. I have struggled with my weight for a while now. I have really been working hard to get it off. It has taken me a year and I have gone from 162-150 in around 3 to 4 months. Yup yee!!
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SHAINAMADLE
11/6/07 11:58 A
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| I am a mom of 2 kids. Daniel 11 and Shauna 2. They keep me so busy. Plus I am a full time grad student and (hopefully) starting Dental school in the fall, so I will be even busier.
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CARRIEASHERBERT
11/6/07 2:34 A
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| Hello I am Carrie, I have one son Aden who is 17 months old. I live in Germany and my husband is in Iraq now. So time has been very tough for me.
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MOM*TWO*PRINCES
11/5/07 11:00 P
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Hi everyone! My name is Sara and I am a stay at home mom of two great little boys. Austin turned 2 yesterday and Lukas will be 6 months tomorrow. I love them to death but it can be quite challenging some days! ;)
ttyl,
Sara
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We lost my grandma when my youngest was 3 months old. My MIL died suddenly at the age of 64 last December and my mom passed away at the age of 55 in June. My baby (3 in two weeks) has had a hard time with my mom being gone. They were super close. She still talks about my MIL too. We just try to talk about them in a positive light and keep pictures around the house. I am planning to make the kids (I have three) a grandma scrapbook to honor their grandmas and help them remember.
Losing someone you love is never easy. It is so hard on little ones. I would just be there and keep telling yourself that this will pass. Please take care of yourself too. I find it hard to be cheerful some days and explain away my tears. I have become an expert at putting on a happy face until the family is asleep.
You might want to check with your local hospice. Most have resources for dealing with young children. We got a big folder from them when my MIL died. Let me know if you need some tips, I'll dig them out.
Hang in there. I truly feel your pain.
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TYLERSMOM430
10/31/07 12:12 A
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I am a single mom with a two and a half year old.
I am having a huge problem with his dad and his Nana. He stays at his Nana's house during the day while I go to school and then at his dad's two nights out of the week. All they feed him is junk. Sausage and pancakes for breakfast, candy as a snack, chips, soda, fast food, etc. I want my child to be healthy, but no matter how many times I talk to them about this they don't stop. I have tried everything: using the pediatrician as an excuse, refering to health related books or articles, sending his lunch with him, feeding him before he goes so that he is not hungry......
It's like they are trying to make him unhealthy and it is driving me CRAZY!!!
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MOMTOLLERUD81
10/30/07 11:09 P
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I found this thread and thought, oh my goodness, that is me! I am mommy to a 3 year old boy and a 19 month old little girl. I love them more than anything but there are days when I want to rip my hair out! They are 18 months apart, and I feel so tired all the time! I thought that it would get easier the older they got, but they are getting older and have totally switched gears. My son used to be the "easy" one and his lil sis was the one with the attitude and the sleeping problem. Now I think my husband and I are getting less sleep and time alone b/c our three year old is obsessed with me! He has to be with me, near me, ect. all the time! I am having a difficult time with him...but I know that he is having a very difficult time right now, we all are. My dad (and my sons darling grandpa) passed away unexpectedly nearly three months ago and ever since my lil boy has had a really tough time letting me out of his sight. He doesn't understand where grandpa went...he knows that he died and went to heaven but he is really worried that I am going to die at any given moment. We are having a tough time, but I know that there will be a light at the end of this tunnel, we just have to keep praying and keep some 'normal' in his as well as our lives.
Is there anyone out there who has had to deal with losing someone close to them and helping a toddler cope?
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| Mom of 3.... 17 year old daughter, Brittany, 5 year old son, Alex, and 3 year old daughter, Emma. They always keep me busy, but I never get anything done.
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GODSGIRL401
10/27/07 9:37 P
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| I am a mom of two, Two month old and two year old.
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ROBYNHOME
10/14/07 6:55 A
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| I like your ideas, Sue, for helping your toddlers to be independent.
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CARRIEB413
9/26/07 6:24 P
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| My4kiddos..Welcome =) You have 4 or 5 kids under the age of 4 WOW!! You have to be tired LOL I can't imagine that..I've always wanted my kids close in age but, my last two are 19 months apart its hard!
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CARRIEB413
9/26/07 6:21 P
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Yuctita...I heard back labor is the worst! Its funny how everyone has a different birth Horror story...Oh you know what I love..I would watch those shows on TV and they would show the women in labor or during a c-section..Not a worry on there face looking good as ever with there make up on..GET REAL! NO make up here esp. during delivery PLEASE..who are those women trying to impress!
Nice surprise to find out during an MRI! LOL..My last one I found out when I really thought I had the flu..People at work ordered lunch in..The smell made me so sick...I SWORE it was the flu but, I was wrong and boy was I shocked as ever!!! My sons dad didn't take the news so well..he actually tried that son different but, thats another story for another time...
My ankle is better my dumb butt was going down my back stairs and thought I was done not realizing I had one more stair left and went down..also wearing flip flops which i'm sure didn't help..I didn't even know I hurt myself until I saw my ankle then started screaming for help! The garbage men helped me! I broke it in 3 places and tore all my ligaments..It's going to be a long healing processes..Doc. said it could take up to a year to be as I was =0(..
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Would you ladies mind if I join in I am a mom to a 4,3, and 2 year old girls and a 1 year old boy.
Cathy
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Yes, here too, first one was a total of 30 hours of labor (first 14 didn't seem so bad) Started at 8AM was at work all day. Hospital at Midnight, only dia. to 4. told to walk halls for 45m-1 hour. They had to break water, then I got the epidural, pushed for 7 hours (sunny side up) and since he never went into distress we never had the C-section.
Second one was only 12 hours of labor, and out in one push!!!! No one believed me that I had pushed for 7 hours on the first one, they checked records and watched the WHOLE paper from 2 years before.
I have been going Crazy with my 3 year old lately. Not listening, roudy around his 1 year old brother, when put on step for time out, he keeps getting up and laughs when I put him back down, which makes me more frustrated. For the last 3+ weeks now I have gone from working 5 days to only working 2 days. So no day care, only grandma's or me watching them. We have alone time together while the 1 year old naps. I do think around 3-6 PM is the worse since he is starting to get tired, but if he has a nap he is awake till 10PM. Just last week, I did start something new, and he is getting better about it. We started to have 1 hour of Quiet / alone time. From 2-3PM he has to stay in his room for an hour and play, read books, or nap. I really think he needs this, since he is constantly asking us to play with him, and we never seem to get a break. Anyone else have good things that work for this age?
Beckie
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Ouch Carribe! How did you manage to do that to your poor ankle! I hope you are feeling ok and healing fast!
Wow those are some crazy birth stories woman! My first was 2 day labor followed by 4 and a half hours of pushing (with back labor the whole time) and ended up in a c-section because he was sunny-side up! I have 2 hernias because of that, but when I went in to get an MRI of the hernias, they did a pregnancy test on me just to be sure and guess what? Suprise, here comes number 2...lol. being as the first was a c and I still had the hernias I had a planned C with him. Not too bad, I recover pretty quickly thank goodness!
Well today is my second session with the personal trainer at the gym, Friday was my first session with him and I am STILL SORE! But, it feels good because I know that in a few weeks I will see a difference.
Cant wait to lose the jelly belly!
Hi LMHOWIE69! I found that with both my C-sections the more I walked, the faster I healed. No speed walking or anything, but I would put the baby in the stroller and go out for long, slow walks, taking as many breaks as I needed. I hope that you are feeling better soon!
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| I HAVE A 3MONTH AND A 3YR OLD GIRL AND BOY. I AM HAVING A HARD TIME GETTING MY TUMMY BACK INTO SHAPE BECAUSE THEY WERE BOTH C-SECTIONS. SO ITS VERY PAINFULL TO WORK OUT. EVEN COUGHING SOMETIMES TAKES MY BREATH AWAY. HOPEFULLY THIS IS JUST ME STILL HEALING. I WILL HAVE TO GIVE IT A COUPLE OF MONTHS BEFORE I CALL MY DOC. LOOKN FOR A TREAD MILL FOR MY HOUSE TO WORK OUT WHEN MY KIDDIES GO TO BED. ANY SUGGESTIONS. OR DOES ANYONE HAVE ONE FOR SALE?
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How about getting a cooler the toddler can unzip, for snacks, then the toddler can be in charge of getting his/her own snacks and sippy? How about putting your babes in front of a good kid vid when you want to xrciz? Or invite in an older neighbor kid, to play for a bit, and maybe pay a few bucks?
My neighbor was struck dumb w/ gratitude when we had her 2 daughters in to play w/ our younger son, because he adores the girls and wouldn't come home w/ me, because he wanted to stay and play w/ them. I invited them home for dinner. That way ALL the grown-ups got a bit of a break.
Ultimately, you're kind of on your own, for finding a combination of small tips like mine that work for you, because there's no guaranteed panacea that'll work every time, for every kid/parent in every sitch.
Just keep collecting small tips and stringing them together, until you have a patch work of workable solutions.
G'luck.
Sue.
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Hi, I am a mom of one 2 year old. 
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CARRIEB413
9/21/07 4:26 P
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OH I feel ya...I would LOVE to be 160 again (at least that) That is what I was before my first son was born and that was 13 years ago...I would tell people I had a baby that was the excuse of the baby weight and that was before my other two were born LOL its funny my mom would use that excuse..She says after my brother Ed that is were all the weight came from and he is 25 LOL So I have years more to use that excuse! Well then again I don't really want to use that excuse I want to be fit and say yep I look good and have 3 kids!
C-section are something else My first born was so fast (well almost) They sent me home then I finally went back hours later after being in pain at home..by the time I got back in things happened sort of quick when she went to check me..all of a sudden they were moving fast water broke had my in a wheelchair says get her in a room before she has this baby in the hallway!! Ok mind you my first born and I was I think 18 I was freaking out...Had him with NO drugs NOTHING!
First c-section was horrible during it going on..I was shaking so bad throwing up but, then I was fine afterward (this was a planned c-section so when they put me in the room nervous as can be not knowing what to expect the unexcepted happened) I guess they checked the baby and he had flipped so they wanted to put me back in the labor room and see if I can deliver on my own that was NOT fun...I sat there for hours with NO progress and ended up with the c-section anyway..AND the baby had the cord around his neck STUPID people!!
second c-section was fine during but, horrible after I didn't even want to move! But, I think the pain was also from getting my tubes tied and nobody said I might affect me more during recovery!
but, all done now they have there asthma problems and my little one has tubes in his ears but, I love being mom (even though I do need a vacation LOL)
Sorry i'm going on and on here..
good luck with having a girl LOL One of my cousins has 4 boys!
My sister told me about this web site...I usually woulnd't have the time to go on but, I recently broke my ankle and tore all my ligaments and i've been staying with my mom to recover..But, cast is off and i'm in therapy its so frustrating not being able to just go! There is so much info and support on this site and its FREE its great!
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Hi Carrie, Wow 3 Boys! Thats Awesome. Both of mine are boys and My husband wants us to try for a girl in about 2 years...I tell him...WE SHALL SEE! LOL, Right now I just want to get back to where I was BEFORE the boys.
Time does fly, I remember the day my first was born and I look at him now and he is so grown up already...sigh. They were both C-sections for me too, although I didnt suffer much afterwards.
I am so happy to be on this site, I sooo want to get back in shape (although this extra weight is worth it because I have my beautiful boys!)
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CARRIEB413
9/20/07 10:43 P
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Hi Yucita44...I know exactly how you feel..My babies were 19 months apart..and trust me being tired only gets worse LOL! Plus wait til they both are running around at the same time =0)
congrats on the new baby...do you have boys or girls? I have 3 boys yep ALL boys! 13, 3 1/2 and 2..I NEVER thought in a million years I would have 3 of the same gender! I miss not having a girl..BUT then I think i'm lucky! I know how girls can be hehe!! I'm blessed with what I have..i'll just have to wait for a neice or granddaughter (which better be a long wait!) But, that's it for me! I'm all done having kids!! The last 2 kids were c section and my family made sure my tubes were tied after the last one LOL..I remember being half out of it and the doctor asking me are you sure i'm like uh huh..I think that's what I agreed too LOL!
But, enjoy...God does it go by fast! Before we know it our kids will be having kids!
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Hi ladies, I am a mom of a 19 month old and a 3 month old. Man, am I tired! LOL.
Gina
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CARRIEB413
9/15/07 1:18 A
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| I would say you guys have been busy LOL kidding...It looks like you come from a large family...I have 3 kids ALL boys.I have NO idea how I didn't get a girl out of it but, oh well! Hey I use the excuse that the weight is cause I had a baby and i'm referring to my 13 year old LOL...my other 2 or ages 3 1/2 and my baby is 2...So i've been struggling for 13 years...I never thought about it until right now I haven't been under 200 in 13 years oh wait there was one time on weight watchers I got to I think 194 ..i'm so close now..I'll get there..I wish I was in ur shoes with the baby fat weight..I would love to have to work off 20 pounds..but, i'm sure your not use to that extra 20....Good for you to step it up!
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| Hi! I am a 32 yr old sahm of five kids. Yep, 5. My hubby and I have been married for 12 years, and we sure are busy. I am tired alot and know that the weight I put on with the last baby, that baby is now almost 3! Time to start losing. I joined Sparkpeople a long time ago, but just recently decided to step it up. Hope to make some mommy friends!
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CARRIEB413
9/14/07 5:27 P
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I know that can be frustrating..but, what about your husband..can he keep on eye on the kids while you take a walk or have exercise time?? I feel your pain I have a 3 1/2 year old and a 2 year old...I can't do anything else they are both sleeping and that doesn't happen often!
Good Luck =0)
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| Hi my name is Erin. I have a little girl who will be 3 next month, and a 3 month old baby girl. How do you guys get in exercise? I have two children who do not seem to need a lot of sleep, so they are both awake most of the day. I get tired of pushing the pause button on the treadmill or dvd to soothe a crying baby or get the toddler a cup of milk. I end up getting mad and losing my temper. UG!! I then just avoid the exercise next time. (Negative reinforcement I guess). Any suggestions?
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The teachers are probably right - it can be hard to separate initially but once the day gets going is probably ok.
Can she take something from home with her to school?
Does it help to tell her you'll pick her up?
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SLIMATHEARTG
9/10/07 1:00 P
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Hi all,
My dh started pre-school last week and she is having some serious separate anxiety. She cries and begs me not to leave her when we drop her off. The first 2 days were fine, she blended right in but from the 3rd day there was trouble. She kept asking to go back to the daycare. I kow that it is not a matter of not being treated well because i know that she is and i was told by the teacher there that she calms down within 5 minutes of us leaving. Is there anything else i can do to help her aleviate some of the stress she is under?
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SLIMATHEARTG
8/26/07 6:34 P
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i guess you are right carrieb. I rememner when my daughter was still quite young, she was only creeping then and we put up this barrier gate thing to keep her in her room and a day we found her almost over it. she had climbed up the gate using the interwoven design as a ladder... and she wasn't even walking yet.
take care all.
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CARRIEB413
8/18/07 11:10 P
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Sorry its been a few days before I replied..but, my computer was out for a week....It wasn't funny at the time..and tell your husband it was his thighs jiggling LOL
I don't think it matter what kind of fence we had my 3 year old would get out..boys are so much more brave well most of them...you can't blink without something going on!
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CARRIEB413
8/18/07 11:07 P
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My advice would be take capture of every moment it goes by fast! And take lots of pictures..my kids know the camera very well! Enjoy it and have fun..I have 3 boys way different then girls...I can't believe with 3 I didn't have one girl oh well
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| Hi. I was searching around for some parenting boards, and stumpled upon this one. I have a daughter that is going to be 1 next week. I dont know if that qualifies her as a toddler yet. But here I am. I am still trying to get my weight back to what I was before I had her. I am looking forward to getting to know some of you. Any tips would be greatly appreciated as I am a first time mom!
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ROBYNHOME
8/15/07 10:07 A
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| I think it's fun when the kids want you to be included!
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A1975ANGEL
8/13/07 9:54 P
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i have twin 22 month old boys and a 11 and a half month old boy... this is fun to keep up with:)
angel
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| CARRIEB413 - toddlers sure do keep us running! depending upon the size of our yards - or areas without fences - we can definitely get in 10 minutes of cardio chasing them around - in or out of towels :-)
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SLIMATHEARTG
8/11/07 7:27 P
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CARRIEB41, i have to say again that you have to be a super human. I was relaying your last post to my husband and he was almost on the floor rolling.
The sad thing is that i can see that happening with our 3 yr old. The good thing is that we have a tall fence and a gate so it is difficult if not impossible for her to go out into the street. the other good thing is that my daughter is very afraid of cars and trucks and vans... as a matter of fact anything with a motor. i suppose that is great.
take care.
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CARRIEB413
7/31/07 3:25 P
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| i have two toddlers..(not twins) that decided as I took a quick shower in the morning..they were going to leave the house..my 3 year old opened the door here i realized boy is it quite i almost died when i saw the door open..they were out in front...I had to go out in my towel to get them! THANK GOD everything was fine the worst came to mind at first they were just standing there my 3 year old came right in...the 20 month old ran making me run in a towel out in public...kids are something!
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| My daughter has learned her boundaries as to where she can run around. My son - 16 months needs to be held back from running into the street and the gate securely locked.
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My youngest son was hospitalized at 7 weeks.. we sent my 2 year old to the river with my dad for the 4 days he was in there. He came back fully potty trained. It was a blessing. He just turned three this past monday and has had very few accidents.
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DARROW1103
7/26/07 10:13 P
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hello everyone
I am new to sp only 4days and i really love this site. I am a mom of 4. 2 girls ages 19&3 and 2 boys ages 15&12. I had no problem training my 3yr. old just took her in the bathroom and told her what to do when she was just over a year. The others were a little bit harder had to let them run around naked for awhile. They did not enjoy it running down there leg.
My three year old is both a princess and a tomboy. She loves to wear her dresses and get into her big sisters makeup but she is equally at home jumping and running and playing with her big brothers. She likes to stand on the back of our sofa(which is not against the wall)and jump off.
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RAZEL_ODELL
7/26/07 12:37 P
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| My two year old is finally learning to stay out of the street. If she went into it while we were playing outside I'd make her sit on the porch for a bit. Also sometimes simple 'no's and praise for when she remembered to stop work. If all else fails (and I hate to mention this) try a spanking. My child's life is much more important to me than her calling me 'mean mommy'.
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CARRIEB413
7/26/07 10:57 A
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i feel what u are saying...i would say to either give them more healthier snacks which can be a plus OR the day before pack ur snacks for the day or plan them outand have them handy so when it snack time you can grab riht into ur snack bag could be fruit, veggies, crackers etc.
good question btw i think ill try that i hav a 3 1/2 yr old ans almost 2 yr old a know exactly how easy it is to snack with them and my boys are cookie monsters but my 2 yr old mt god he can eat so it would be a good thing to give him healthier snacks it seems like he doesnt have a bottom!!
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NOTASLACKER
7/26/07 10:39 A
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OMG I so need some advice you would think after raising 3 children I would have this packed down well umm no. I also have 2y/o twins boy and a girl that I think is out to drive me crazy. The boy is easy going you tell him to not move he stays put of course he has his 2 y/o moments but nothing dramatic. My daughter on the other hand is another story she is wild,crazy, testy in every way, and screams until she gets her way. If I don't carry her when we are out she lays out on the ground and kick or will just try and run out in the street every single day. She is my daughter that is driving me up the wall. Any advice on how to control a wild 2 y/o and make them not run in the street
Any advice will help
See ya
Mo
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SPARKLEE1
7/25/07 11:11 A
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I make my daughter do a time out by staring at the door. I take away toys, and I also take away fun things to do (no park today, no scooter riding, etc.). And the word "No" is pretty effective if followed by stony silence or pointing to the time out spot.
I am an only child, and when my now former fiance's daughter got mouthy, I picked up the paper and said "Wait! Wait!" and scowled as I read it. She asked what I was doing, as I slapped it shut. "Just as I thought. I checked the death notices, and no child has died from the word "no".
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SPARKLEE1
7/25/07 11:06 A
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Yes. My daughter turned 4 July 5. She asks a lot of questions, most beginning with "Why". She also LOVES to "help", which 99% of the time requires 90% more cleaning.
Last week while winging my way through Target, she pointed to a display of (very feminine) bras, and announced "I want one of those!" I know the color must have drained from my face, because another shopper asked me if I needed medical help.
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RAZEL_ODELL
7/25/07 10:35 A
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| LOL My eldest sounds just like her father when she shows an attitude! Bad thing for her to use it on him though LOL.
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ROBYNHOME
7/24/07 10:14 P
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| Boy have I been getting attitude!
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RAZEL_ODELL
7/15/07 6:22 P
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Some things I guess. Lana still will throw a fit occasionally but not as often. She can speak a lot better and that itself will cut down on tantrums. She also understands a lot more about why I may say no. Also she has had enough time to know which rules I will not budge on. At this age the privalige (sp) or loss of one is much more effective as discipline than at two, because she understands fully what it means.
However now she gives me an attitude that makes me want to send her to her room for the rest of the day. LOL Don't worry though I have never done that... do you know how many toys are in her room? J/K
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RAZEL_ODELL
7/14/07 12:31 P
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I am a mom of 3 girls. My eldest will be 4 next month, my second is 26 months, and my youngest is 10 months (she'll be a toddler before long).
My toddler is definately a typical two-year-old. with the 'me do it' and the tantrums, she is also a very good big sister.
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SLIMATHEARTG
7/13/07 9:14 A
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FOXYKITTY02134 - Kudos to you... 3 kids and 2 are toddlers.
I do not have much in the way of advice but what has helped me is to have a food journal. I put everything that i have eaten for the day in it and at the end of the day i look to see what i have eaten and the times and i have to admit that alot of the things that i ate, i really didn't need to eat because i was not hungry.
My problem is that i eat when i am bored, i eat when i am sad, upset and angry. that too has helped me to curb how and what i eat.
Have a great weekend everyone.
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SLIMATHEARTG
7/13/07 9:13 A
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FOXYKITTY02134 - Kudos to you... 3 kids and 2 are toddlers.
I do not have much in the way of advice but what has helped me is to have a food journal. I put everything that i have eaten for the day in it and at the end of the day i look to see what i have eaten and the times and i have to admit that alot of the things that i ate, i really didn't need to eat because i was not hungry.
My problem is that i eat when i am bored, i eat when i am sad, upset and angry. that too has helped me to curb how and what i eat.
Have a great weekend everyone.
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FOXYKITTY02134
7/13/07 12:26 A
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| yep... I'm a mom to 3 kids 2 of which are toddlers and one 5 month old.. and it has me going nuts... lol... but i love my kids like crazy and cant picture my life any other way... but dieting is sooo hard with them, I'm soo busy that i forget I'm on a diet sometimes and have cookie or a roll once in a while.. anyone got tricks to help me remember.
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| I like that idea of putting a toy in time out. but i know that my daughter needs to learn the meaning of "no" and understand what she that was wrong.
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SLIMATHEARTG
7/11/07 3:10 P
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Hey all
Proudmamma2, what i find works for m now is putting her favourite toy in time out. Because time out does not work for her. When she does something naughty, she usually asks if to go in the naughty corner. But putting the favourite toy in time out helps. Just make sure he knows why the toy is in time out.
My daughter plays very rough,sometimes she acts like the son we do not have. What i use to do was teach her the difference between playing nice and playing rough and explain how playing too rough can hurt someone. kids genuinely do not want to hurt anyone so when she starts to play rough, i usually let her stop and explain that she is hurting me or her father and she would say "sorry mommy" or "sorry papa" abd then continue playing but a little gentler.
I hope this helps.
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hi
I'm neela and my problem is the total opposite.I can't leave my kid because he won't leave me.At times when he's scared, Ican't leave at all. But you can try it at home.It's just an anxiety.
Try leaving them in another room for a little time like 2 mins and keep increasing the time gradually about 1min at a time everyday and eventually You'll be comfortable to leave them. It's every mother's nightmare.I'll dread it when my starts school. we're all there for you. Best of luck.
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Hi
I'am neela.I'm not on very often,but I understand what you're going through.I have a recently turned 3year old. And he behaves the same way.The terrible twos syndrome? Do you believe it? I think it's just a phase.If you keep telling yourself this, you won't feel like pulling out your hair. Anyway best of luck.
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PROUDMAMMA2
7/6/07 11:47 A
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| I have a 2 1/2 YEAR OLD BOY WHO LOVES TO SAY "NO" when we tell him to do something. We have tried time out does not work cause he just gets up when you are not looking and says, "look at me mommy". We cant put him in his room cause then he just plays with his toys. we really are running out of ideas with him cause he is just so cute but if we dont do something now Im afarid it will get worse. To top it all off I also have a 6 mth old son who he tries to play with but is too rough and doesnt realize it..Any advice???
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| I have felt that way a very long time, I have two children. It's almost like the guys have to accept you and if you are like me whe I would be getting ready I would have such a hard time, I would be crying and stuff and decide not to go anywhere. I know I must look like a little kid having a tantrum. My husband and I tried the date night thing, but I have a lot anxiety about getting ready and leaving the kids with other people, even my own parents.
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SNOWFAIRY042
7/5/07 11:43 P
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| hi. i'm a new mother, my daughter is only 4 months old. my husband and i have a date night every week which i wonderful i really recommend it! i don't feel as pretty anymore and don't even want to change in front of him. he assures me that i am still beautiful but can't seem to shake these feelings. i am not that over weight but it seems worse to me. does anyone have any advice?? i would really appreciate it. Thanks to all!
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JENNA0607
6/30/07 12:36 A
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This message is for Jogallman who was talking about her stubborn 3 yr. old. I remember my daughter, who is now 8...was a terror when she was 3. I remember thinking "where did the term terrible twos come from...3 is so much worse!" One thing I know is that discipline at this age group has to be immediate, grounding really doesn't work...young children don't have the ability to understand cause and effect long term...it is too abstract. Redirection usually works for young preschoolers because their attention span is still rather short. When they are doing something they are not suppose to, try to get them involved in another activity that is more appropriate. Other suggestions are "prevention"...reminding a child about a particular rule may avoid a potential problem, reinforcing positive behavior..."catch them being good". You know, it really depends on the situation and the particular behavior. Not everything works for every child, and even then, something that works for one situation may not work for another. Don't worry, this stage will pass sooner than you think and next year your 2 1/2 year old will be imitating your more mature 4 year old. 
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JENNA0607
6/30/07 12:18 A
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I laughed reading your post...I also have a toddler and my own issues with my mother-in-law. I'm a teacher and thank goodness I have the summer off to take a break. My mother-in-law has been watching my 25 month old since he was 3 months old during the day while I work with 20 other kids! It was okay at first, but the older he has gotten the harder it has become to be nice about the "spoiling". She refuses to EVER tell him NO...not a bad thing for a kid to hear once in a while...so he has really turned into a rotten brat. This fall when I go back to work I plan on putting my son into a licensed child care center where he can have some kind of structure.
My only suggestion is to make sure that you really check for quality care...licensed, low teacher child ratios- probably 1 teacher to 4 toddlers for your sons age group, clean, toys and supplies are in good repair and activities are appropriate for your sons age (lots of hands on sensory activities at this age), and most importantly use you own gut instict and trust yourself if you don't have a good feeling. I personally will not put my son into a child care home...even a home that is licensed. I did that several times with my daughter and never found one that was really great...it's too much work for one person to be the cook, cleaner, and childcare provider all at the same time for a group of 6-8 children and invariably they will be sitting in front of a TV or neglected in some other way during busy times like snack or lunch preparation. If you can afford it, I would recommend checking out childcare centers first. My last resort for my child was a preschool/center and it was wonderful...I actually ended up getting a job and working there in their infant room for a year while my daughter attended the preschool!
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BEANERSMOM
6/29/07 8:32 P
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Hey all - love to get in on this group! I have an extremely active 3 year old son (turned 3 in May) and if only I had his energy!!! He is trying a karate class tomorrow (my husband & I both have martial arts backgrounds) and I'm hoping it gives him some outlets to burn off some of that energy! He's not supposed to start til 4years old, but he's very interested in it - should be fun!
I have gone down the road of weightloss before and still trying to shed the babyfat from my pregnancy - it just won't let go - ugh! I need to find a group that seems fun but supportive and you all sound like you have some fun stories...I look forward to chatting more!
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BASEBALLWIFE03
6/29/07 1:49 A
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Hello toddler tenders, I am having some issues with the in-laws, they watch the Sprout for a few hours on the evenings I work, and they let him go crazy! He is 19 months and the give him soda and punch drinks chips and fast food.
The problem is that have asked my hubby to let them know that he isn't to drink ANY soda and they just ignore us. I have let them know that the Doctor says no and I have given them articles about how bad it is and they just don;t seem to care. I know that they think that I am totally crazy, at one point while I was still nursing they came out and said that it was stupid to breastfeed. I nursed the Sprout till he was 17 and a half months.
They are much more "convience" minded and I am more "organic" and hands on. Not a ton of TV and not too many treats. I am getting ready to put him in daycare! Any suggestions?
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SLIMATHEARTG
6/28/07 1:09 P
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Disciplining my 3 year old is so difficult because nothing really works. If i giver her a time out very soon she is singing and having fun and does not want to come out the naughty corner. If i banish her to her room same thing. I think she loves her own company.
The only thing that works a little is if i stop her from watching one of her dvd's and then that does not last for too long because she comes and give me "the look" that just breaks my heart and i let her have her way.
I think next time she misbehaves, i'll let her wash the car or something lol
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BEEBRIGHT2
6/20/07 10:46 A
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Instead of answering the Why? over and over, try asking him back "why do you think?" It doesn't always work, but sometimes it not only stops the questions momentarily, but it encourages him to come up with an answer himself. My 3 year old doesn't ask any questions-she just goes and tries to answer them herself like "can kittens fly?" "how much candy can I devour before mom finds me?" "is it possible for a 3 year old to duplicate the destruction of a tornado in 5 minutes flat?" You know, all of those buring questions the world has yet to answer lol Luckily she is really cute. 
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Thanks for posting. At least I know I am not the only one in the same boat.
Yes my 10 month old is trying to get in the middle of all of the things the 3 year old is doing.
Yes, I have been wondering the same thing. I am concerned about him being in school. He won't do what he is told, won't sit for long enough unless it's something REALLY interesting. He has used the "I don't like you"
I am hoping the 3 month break from Day care was going to help, but now I don't know. Then again it's only been about 10 days.
The questions drive me crazy. He just doesn't stop "Why did they do that" "why is it" Even if you answer it, he asks some more. I know he is learning and I know he is retaining it, but I need a BREAK!!!
Beckie
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I've got a kid in every age group, but my youngest two are 3 and 18 months.
The 18 month old is trying to do everything the 3 yr old does. She wants so badly to be independent and I want so badly to keep her a baby.
The 3 yr old is a terror. She's like a 25 yr old stuck in a 3 yr old body. She has a vocabulary that would knock your socks off - but that same vocabulary tends to get her into trouble.
She thinks she can do what she wants and she's more stubborn than my hubby and I put together. When I discipline her, it goes in one ear and out the other. My hubby on the other hand can just give a look and she walks a straight line.
I've tried spanking, taking away toys and privileges. I've tried yelling and grounding and nothing seems to work. If she's this bad at 3, what will I do at 13?
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I have a 3 year old and 10 month old boys. The potty thing is done, except for the occasional night time accident. New rule is he HAS to go to the bathroom before he goes to bed, or the pullups will go on. He now goes! But if he had tons to drink with the hot weather he sometimes is so tired and sleeps too hard.
My problem is with disipline. NOTHING Works. Stand in corner, sit on step, sit in chair, take toys away, put in bedroom. NOTHING he won't stay anywhere you put him, doesn't matter how many times you put him there. Just drives me CRAZY!
For the toys our rule is now that he is old enough to pick up (and daycare helped that he knows that they have to pick up) He at least needs to HELP pick up the toys. And if one of us picks all of them, they are taken away for a while. At least 2 days, sometimes longer. Since a few weeks ago he told us to take them away. So we did and they are still gone. I am ready to sell them. But lately we have had to take away his electric 4 wheeler, and his new bicycle at times and then he has to earn them back by being good for a whole day or 2.
Beckie
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SLIMATHEARTG
6/15/07 9:22 A
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hey everyone,
I have not written in a while.
Sarah, i hope your toes are better by now.
Right now, to my daughter potty training is secondary to Dora and the Backyardigans. She seems to be having more accidents now, at least one a day.
As for the sleeping in her own bed, just recently we put her in her own room with her own bed. I thought it would have been harder for her but i think she enjoys the freedom and the fact that she has her own space. The new challenge would be getting her to keep the room clean. She usually takes all the toys out the toys box then goes into the toy box to play. She seldoms, if ever puts back the toys when she is finished.
I hope everyone has a great day and a wonderful and healthy weekend.
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GOTHICPRINCESSS
5/25/07 1:23 P
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This is just great! I've been trying so hard and doing so well this week! So, what do I do this morning. I wake up and don't get more than two steps down the stairs, and I lose my balance and jam my toes into the railing!!! My second toe made a 60 degree angle at the knuckle. OUCH!!!!
My husband put it back into place for me, but now ALL of my toes on my left foot are swollen. That one toe looks twice as big as the same one on my other foot.
I'm a little mad that I had to miss work because I can barely walk on it. What I'm really mad about is that I'm not going to be able to walk on it on my treadmill. I'm going to try to bring out my stationary bike. I hope I can do that without too much of a problem.
Other than that, I'm hear. I get a regular day off tomorrow, and back to work on Sunday. I REALLY hope that I can walk without limping by then. I guess it doesn't really help anything that I've had both of my ankles/legs broken before.
I hope everybody is doing well today. I'm doing okay. NO junk food!!! Healthy day for me so far...
Just a crappy foot. :)
~Sarah~
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JILLMOM513
5/25/07 9:16 A
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| Thanks for the replies..at least I know I am not alone in this crazy exhausted phase of life. My goal seems so much easier to attain when I have support even if it's from people I don't really know! :) thanks!!
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GOTHICPRINCESSS
5/24/07 6:34 P
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Unfortunatelly, I cannot afford to go to any gym. Not even a cheap one, if there was one anywhere around here. I do know very well what you mean about being exhausted. I kind-of veered off track for about a week because of it too. Then I stepped on the scale. WHAT? I GAINED some back, after I've been trying so HARD!!! I bet you all know that feeling! Now, I'm working twice as hard this week to make up for lost oppurtinities last week.
A basic day in the life of me is:
I get up.
I eat one serving of cheerios with skim milk and a cut up banana.
I go to work from 7am-4pm. (I try to take a salad for lunch, but sometimes I don't have time, so I try to find something healthy there. It's hard too. So much high-calorie stuff I like, but NO!!! Salad!!! Eat salad!!! Lose weight!!!)
I come home.
I relax for about thirty minutes or so.
I cook dinner-and eat.
I exercise with my dumbells before and while I'm cooking.
I relax for a little while. Watch some TV, play with my kids, watch them grow. They are truly the BEST gift EVER!!!
I get my MP3 Player and hop on the manual treadmill for 30 minutes. I make sure I have water throughout the entire day! Especially when I exercise!!!
I do lower and regular abdominal crunches.
I do inner thigh lifts and outer thigh lifts.
I do "butt" lifts.
I take a shower.
I go to bed.
Then I get up and do it all over again... Fun...
It's hard. But the majority of us our women. We're used to life being hard. That's why it's easier for us to get right back up when we fall down. I probably shouldn't even be on the computer, but sometimes, I just need to write....I guess. Hope everybody's day goes well!
Sarah
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I know what you mean. I have a 20 mo old & a 4 year old. Nap time is a good time for me to work out at home. Nap time didn't work out today, so I put on music and did aerobics in the family room while my sons played. My problem is if I wait too late at night, I am too exhausted.
In my community, our local church offers a drop in center. You can schedule around your workouts. I hope this helps:)
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| My gym has this service but too many parents bring their sick kids in so we don't use it. They are not willing to tell people to take their kids home when they are too sick to be there. Though now that a cold doesn't always mean an ER trip for asthma maybe we can try it again. Good luck.
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JILLMOM513
5/24/07 11:10 A
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| Hi! I am new here and momma to an almost 20 month old...I find it incredibly hard to find any time to exercise. I just recently started doing Pilates after she goes to bed at night, we'll see how this goes. Stroller walks go okay as long as she is in the mood for it. I heard they are building a gym nearby with a day care right in the gym..I am very excited for this, does anyone else use this type of service and how does it work? TIA!
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MOMTOLITTLEONES
5/24/07 10:42 A
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| My youngest son is 2 yrs. 9 mo. old and he will go potty when he wants to and other times it is where ever he wants to. YUCK!! I hope there are other parents out there that are having better success than I am right now. He went 6 straight days in the toilet and then just quit. He wears underwear all day so you would think he would get tired of wetting in them.
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GOTHICPRINCESSS
5/23/07 7:27 P
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Hey. I have a two and a half year old son also. He's 50/50 on potty training at the moment. He does actually sit on the potty. Big one or little one. Haven't taught him to stand yet. I'm leaving that one to daddy. Our 5 year old daughter wasn't fully 100% potty trained until she was around 3 - 3 1/2. They all learn at their own pace, and your son's daddy should let him potty sitting down and work his way up to standing. Just a piece of advice if you care to take it. Hope things keep going better for ya!
Sarah
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Hello everyone! New to the boards, with a 2.5 year old boy. We're working on potty training but here's a new one for you - he will not sit down to use the bathroom. This isn't a problem for #1, we just got him a stepstool and he stands like Daddy, but what to do about #2??? I had him sitting to pee when we were on vacation but Dad put a stop to it.
About co-sleeping - we did this for a while and it wasn't working for us as a couple - baby slept but parents didn't. So we got a big bed for his room and I slept with him in it for a while, and gradually started moving out after he fell asleep. Took a little while but he almost always sleeps alone until 4 or 5 (when he has to pee) and sometimes he stays in there all night. We're going to put the big bed in the guest room and get him a twin bed soon, will let you know how that works out.
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ANASGONNAMAKEIT
5/21/07 4:08 A
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| Hi everyone! I am married and have a 21 months-old toddler that keeps me busy along the day too! She is a good baby in general, but has such a bad temper that sometimes makes it more difficult to deal with her at times. I am considering having another baby next year,but sometimes I think I should just stay with one daughter for my nerves' sake!
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DEVNDILSMOM
5/20/07 1:26 P
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| I'm a single mom of 3 boys - almost 10, 7 and just 2... They keep me hopping - you would think I would weight as much as a feather for all the running after them I do... I just seriously started here at SP at the beginning of the month...
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BEEBRIGHT2
5/18/07 9:12 A
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| Good luck finding time to do it all LOL As far as potty training goes, if your child is screaming when you potty training, he/she probably isn't quite ready. Each child is different. I've had one almost train herself at just over 2 and I have one that was over 3 before he was trained. My almost 3 year old right now doesn't care and, although I ask her if she wants to go throughout the day, I really am not fighting it because I have found it doesn't help. Of course, if there is a magical formula please tell me because this is driving me crazy!! LOL
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HI,
i'm new to all of his but know what you mean about potty training. i put him on it he gets off or just screams until you can take it no more. all i would like to know is how i can keep up with my 2 (2 months 2 weeks old and 1yr 2 months old) and find time to exercise and cook healthy meals? i pig out on junk because it's easier and it's there! don't get me wrong i cook for my partner and toddler, help me please!!!!
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CARRIEB413
5/14/07 12:02 P
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| Welcome..I am new to the spark program..Haven't been able to surf around to much yet...But, I know how you feel with sleeping in there own bed..I have a 3 year old that either sleeps in bed with me or on the couch with daddy and daddy is the reason why he won't sleep in his bed..since he was born its been that way...My 20 month old only sleeps in his bed I made sure he wasn't spoiled...he won't sleep in my bed even if I lay him there he gets mad....the 3 year old is so use watching tv to go to sleep...with me its more of a daddy issue!!!!
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CARRIEB413
5/14/07 11:58 A
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| Thanks for the advice...I will try that..maybe if the older one knows that the little one is interested he will become more interested...Will see..he tries when he feels like it! I will get his chart started right away hopefully it will work..So sick of the expense of pull ups!
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| Hi ladies! Just wanted to introduce myself... I'm re-starting the spark program (again) hopefully with better luck this time. Anyways, I'm the lucky mom of a 7-yr old step-son and a 2-yr old daughter. I work full time, so I'm hoping to have some success with home workout so I'm not taking time away from the kids. I wish I had some advice on potty-training and sleeping in their own beds for you ladies. My daughter slept in her own room in a crib starting at 3 months (I had to sleep on the floor sometimes so she could see me). And then one day after we had been talking about growing up and being a "big girl" and sleeping in a "big bed" she asked me at nap time "I have big bed?" so I took the front rail off (its a convertible crib) and she has slept in it fine ever since. I got lucky on the potty training issue too... When she was around 18 months she was watching her brother sit on the potty and she wanted to do it too. She was in pull-ups by 20 months, and now she just wears panties except at night and on longer car trips since #2 is a little harder for her to hold sometimes. I think having a great big-brother as an example has really helped her along with these things. We've had problems with major anxiety issues with her though. She gets so upset about people looking at her, windshield wipers, and a few other specific things that she vomits within 5 seconds of seeing the "scary thing". It gets very frustrating at times, but we are working through it! Anyways, I'm rambling now... I better get back to work. Nice to meet you all!
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MTNHARMONY
I can totally relate to the refridgerater lock issue. We nicknamed our 2 1/2 year old Houdini. I have never had a child who cold get through child locks so easily and I have a couple of others to compare her to (8y-g, 7y-b, 4y-g, 2y-g, 1y-g)We finally had to resort to buying a big metal padlock that you need a key for. It's a pain in the but, but is works (it also makes me think twice about getting into the fridge myself)
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| Carrie, like the doctors say you can not force them to go. However, if the younger one becomes interested make sure you show him extra praise & encouragement about going. Even start a sticker chart for trying. Maybe that should get the older one's attention.
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CARRIEB413
5/7/07 12:02 P
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| I have to babies one is 3 and NOT yet potty trained..He is a boy its so hard to train him..he usually wants nothing to do with it...I thought he would be easy to train cause he was so smart and ahead of himself on everything else!! NOPE! The other babies is 20 months and I think he might go before big brother does! I can be very frustrated with it..but, they keep telling me he will go when ready!! And its so expensive with pull ups and diapers! And the rashes they get! Good luck!
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