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yes and the kids are the one to suffer. here in oklahoma they figure childsupport by both parents income.
they can also figure on what the other parent has the potential to make for example if he has a degree to be an engineer or maybe a welder but works at walmart for min wage some judges will make them pay off the other income that is more some wont.
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GIZMO14617
3/15/06 8:24 P
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| The sad thing is, 3 kids and only had to pay 100.00 a month from 1989-1995. Then 25.00 a month from 1995-2005. Now it is 100.00 a week.The judge said he could only owe 500.00 from 95. She is not sure for previous years. My B/F pays 100.00 a week for 1 kid and sees her maybe once a year. Our system really sucks.
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I have an ex who doesn't owe me but his third ex wife over 16,000 dollars he gets out of it because he keeps filing for disability and gets turned down but as long as he is filing they won't do anything to him.
that is aweful in my books.
he has 5 kids 1 with me, 2 with 3rd ex wife and twins with the latest live in.
he doensn't support or see any of them
he has kid napped mine and the 3rd ex wifes kids before
he wants food stamps and that off of them
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BUCKWILD360
3/14/06 4:16 P
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Hi there!
I am also a single mom and just wanted to say HI. I also have child support issues with my ex- he has not paid in about a year... he is about $20K in arrears last time I checked. Isn't it sad when they wont live up to their responsibilities?
Anyway... I hope things work out for you
Nora
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I'm sorry you didn't get exactly what you want but it's a good thing that he does have to pay some of the back pay from past supports he's missed. We're doing okay but my husband's ex seems to think that he should still be responsible. My husband has had his name removed from the birth certificate and has gone to court over this for so long and it was very disappointing for him but he was also very angry. We didn't anything about it but thought, it's over and we'll get over it, but she continues to harrass us. It's scary that she could be that greedy. She should be thinking about what he son's going to think when she has to tell him that my husband is not his father and that she has to find his real father. I think she should be spending her energy on trying to find out who his father really is so that he can start trying to get to know his real father instead.
I know that you are not going through what we are going through and that we may be at opposite ends but it helps to try to understand what others are going through by listening to you as well. I know it must be hard to go through this and she could just be angry that my husband didn't react to what she was saying a long time ago and that my husband wouldn't pay support even though he hadn't confirmed his suspicions earlier.
You must have to be much stronger than I am or my husband has to be as you are a single mom and I couldn't imagine ever going it alone. It is a good idea to go to school. I did 2 years of a criminology diploma and 4 years of a psych major and i have a good desk job now. I'm not super busy and not doing any hard manual labour so I'm happy with where I'm at. I hope things work out for you and feel free to continue venting here. I'm here to listen.
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GIZMO14617
3/13/06 7:50 P
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| Thank You. Things went.... sort of well. I think the judge is going to make him pay some of the back support. It wasn't what I really wanted. I just want the help now. I'm trying to go back to school. I don't want to work factory & trick work anymore. 6 straight years of c - shift kills you. Especially when you have 3 active teenagers. I'm sorry about your situation that had to be stressful,and disappointing. I hope things are better. STAY STRONG
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I hope court went well for you. I understand where you're coming from somewhat. Many of my family members went through the same thing with their ex-spouses.
When my husband was going through it with his ex, I kept urging him to pay his Child support because it does catch up to them in the end, but he kept missing payments and making excuses. I was very angry with him even though she didn't bring him to court. There was no court order in place so he didn't feel that he had to pay it. She finally did sue him but he asked for a paternity test because she was so awful to him when she angry. She would say awful things like he wasn't even really his father and stuff like that. My husband would get very upset when this happened so he didn't have contact anymore and asked for the paternity test when she sued him for child support. The paternity test was negative but he'd already paid all of that support. We didn't mind but it felt good that it was over.
Court can be stressful and I know this is the total opposite of what you're going through but I wouldn't want any woman to have her husband deny her kids what they have a right to. My dad is the same way with my younger sister and brother. He makes promises to them though and that makes it so much worse.
I hope things work out for you and that your day went well. I hate court and having to go through that process. People should just take responsibility so that parents and children don't get stuck in this kind of stress.
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GIZMO14617
3/13/06 7:05 A
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| Yea! Child Support Court today. I wonder what his excuse will be today. 6 weeks behind(600.00). Isn't that sad, 3 kids.
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