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a couple of suggestions that may work also.
1) time out for bad behavior. have them sit in a spot for 5 mintues onlyfor bad behavior. Explain to them why they are there. No longer then this. Do this everytime. They will eventually get the message that this is not good and start acting better.
2) don't give children alot of choices. Children get to many choices and this causes alot of problems in their little minds to comprehend. Give them only two. less confusing for them and less stressful for you. And everybody is happier.
I hope that this has helped someone here today.
Have a good one.
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| I like the sticker chart I will try anything right now.
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| I agree it is a lot easier to deal with someone elses children too.I was wondering what it is like to run a daycare from home after having my little girl i have been thinking about it.Any tips or advice?
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FOXYBROWN1
2/17/06 3:09 P
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Not sure if the advice was for me, but I took it anyhow, and it works great...I actually have a home daycare as well, and dealing with other people's children always seems easier! Anyhow, just wanted to update everyone, I made a little sticker chart, and so he gets a sticker everytime he has good behavior for certain tasks, and it's been about a week! He has been lovely. Whatever works I guess!
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Wow! You do have a problem! Sounds like your hubby needs a good spanking! LOL
I hope that all goes well with you and your son.
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The dad is in the house. that is one of the problems he acts just like him. So dad doesn't see the problems and won't back me up most of the time.
I can't ignore the back talk because if I do the others will think they can get by with it.
I appreciate all the advice.
I use the technique you described some.
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Hi my name is Katie and i have a little girl nine months i suppose that i have it all to come.I am a qualified nursery nurse and have seen a lot of different behaviour with all ages.Maybe when your son is misbehaving move away from him.Go into another room,act as though you are not interested in the BAD things he does.He will soon learn he is not getting your attention doing this.When he does something good show how happy you are give him an extra such as take him somewhere he loves,let him stay up a little longer one night(you know what he likes)But try not to make it into a bribe just do it without telling him.Next time he does good give him something)He may switch to realising that its much better to do something good that will get your attention,make you happy and also makes him feel good too.
It is just a suggestion i dont know your family hope that it helps you i did a lot of psychological study at college and was given this adice from someone else.Good luck hope you are well.
email me anytime: kthopper@hotmail.co.uk
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| Where's dad? They tend to have an awesome disciplinary effect on children.
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FOXYBROWN1
2/8/06 11:19 A
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Hi Okie!
I know what you mean, I have a six year old, and he is so particular about everything and is really difficult to please...he seems upset or angry about everything, and it wears on my patience...help anyone?
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Hi Okie!
I know what you mean....I have 3 kids, and my middle one (9-yr old girl) is, as my husband says, "the spoon that stirs the pot"! She really puts us through a lot of agony, but that only makes me wonder what is going on in HER head. I know that she doesn't understand why she does some of the things she does, either. The other two kids, although certainly not perfect, are much easier to understand.
Good luck!
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| I have tried that talking to him just the two of us. He says there isn't anything at school. I'll try to get that book. thanks for the advice.
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SEIZETHEDAY
2/5/06 11:41 P
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"How to talk so kids will listen and how to listen so kids will talk" It's in paperback and it's one of the best parenting books I ever read.
Be calm and respectful, but firm. Talk in a quiet voice, even though you might want to scream. Hey, watch some of those Nanny 911 shows. She does a very good job. kids need role models and consistency. Watch what he sees on t.v., etc. SOme of the stuff kids see is just horrid. Set limits. Have you tried talking with him at a quiet moment to find out why he is so rebellious and why he is so angry and unhappy. Maybe someone at school is being mean, or he is having some other problem. Have you asked the teacher what's going on at school? Mine are 21, 18 and 16. They are awesome, but the road was not always smooth.
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I have four boys but one that tries me at every turn. he is 11. back talks and cant' stand anyone
any advice on how to deal with him?
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