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I know what you are going through. My dad did not raise a whole lot of kids, but there was always junk food around... always. I am an emotional eater and with just munch uncontrolably on junk. I have noticed tat my oldest son is a kid who likes to eat when he is bored. I am sad and scared that he will start to really plump up if I am not careful.
He will remind me that I am on a diet and eat a huge bowl of chocolate ice cream right in front of me... ridiculous.
I have felt so weak with him lately and can not seem to stop bringing the junk food into the house.
Tiffini
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DAWN91476
5/28/08 10:21 A
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My daughter is going to be 8 in August. At the beginning of last summer I was still having to buy her jeans in a slim. When school started in the Fall, I was having to get her jeans in a plus and trust me that almost killed us both.
My whole family on both sides have always had weight issues and I thought that she had escaped them, but I was wrong. She can't settle for just a single serving of anything no matter what we do.
The main reason she put on the weight was because it was so hot last summer and her grandparents which babysit her and my son, didn't want her to go ouside and get too hot. So what did she do? Sat inside watching T.V., playing with dolls, etc. Nothing that required any physical activity.
My daughter hates to run very much, but I am proud to say that she is playing soccer this Spring and LOVES it! She has not complained the first time about running or getting too hot.
She is still eating more than I want her too, but at least she is burning some of it off. When this is finished then it will be time to start swimming. I also think that (God love her) she's like me and is an emotional eater.
I am lucky though. I work for a Psychologist and we talk about stuff and she has gave me suggestions to try with her. My boss has helped a lot of families with this type of concern and the kids all love her! The visits might cost more than you would like for them too, but if you can find a doctor in network and have insurance, then it should pay most if not all of it.
Good Luck and Best Wishes
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VIKTORIALYN
5/27/08 10:19 A
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| I think it's up to us as the adults in the family to take the necessary measures of steering our kids in the right directions. I try to limit access to junk food by not buying it unless there is a special occasion. We also have a rule of 1 hr a day total for watching TV, playing computer/video games and anything else electronic. The rest of the day, the need to play outside or if inside, read books or play board games. This has helped a lot! My younger son is really lazy and if he had his way, he would sit around all day watching TV/playing video games. The internet and this website is a great place to find healthy,tasty recipes for variety when making meals that are appealing to the whole family. As far as weight loss, I think having a goal also helps. And a special reward when that goal is met.
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| As a child I would sneak foods when I wasn't supposed to. I remember eating about 1/3 of a loaf of wonder bread, a bag of coconut, and a variety of other heavy carb things during late elemetary school when I was depressed. I also remember stealing junk food from the stores when I was alone in the afternoons. Just because you don't buy it doesn't mean she can't get it - at least you are aware of the problem and trying to get her healthy alternatives. Yes, emotional eating and I are old friends. I would guess this maybe either a form of emotional eating or an attempt on her part to control part of her life. I totally agree with the suggestion to have her talk to a therapist.
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MOCHA1078
5/23/08 12:57 P
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| I think its a good idea to introduce healthy foods to your children because we are our childrens' first teachers.
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SUZANNEYEA
5/23/08 6:32 A
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| I also think finding a therapist of some sort to let her talk about her feelings, I had one growing up and it really let me open up. Cause at 12 she can probably buy her own junk food and hide it, I know I did at that age. Keep trying to help her so she can learn to deal with these issues as a child, not in her 30's or 40's. like me and many of us on Spark.
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Dose she play ball, take dance class or anything like that? if not something like that maybe what she needs.Dose she spend time outside school with kids her own age that are not family? Dose she wear makeup yet? If so maybe you could get her a facial
If you can maybe you could have glamour shots(pictures where they dress her up)took of her.
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Lisa,
Your granddaughter sounds like she's had to deal with a lot of issues in a relatively short period of time. Although it's great that you, her grandparents, have welcomed her into your home, the fact that her grandparents are raising her instead of her biological parents implies that her parents were not able to offer her a stable environment (which she is of course well aware of and would naturally make her feel "different" from the other kids in her peer group). The fact that she's stashing food in her bedroom and sneaking it while you're in bed implies an eating disorder (presuming that you are providing her with adequate food at mealtimes). I urge you to have her see a therapist who deals with family issues as well as eating disorders as soon as possible. Even if she doesn't have a full-blown eating disorder as of yet, the longer her internal conflicts go unaddressed and unresolved, the more ingrained they become and the more difficult to conquer in the long run. Best of luck!
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LISASTCLAIRE
5/22/08 3:26 P
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| My granddaughter just turned 12 and is significantly overweight. She has lived with her grandfather and I since birth and was sent to live with her mother for 6 mos when I had a nervous breakdown and back surgery. This was when she turned 8. Now I've found out that she's stashing food in her bedroom and sneaking it when we are in bed. I know how mean children can be, and she won't discuss it at all. We serve lots of veggies and protein, have eliminated junk food in the house (except popcorn on Saturday nights). I have her drink alot of water, but she's not getting any slimmer. Any help would be appreciated on her self esteem and eating habits.
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yes, you are so right about this. I try to keep fresh furit & vegs around for snacks. I don't buy much cookies,cokes,cakes,bread and such. Instead of kool laid I buy the cheap type of krystal light which is sugar free but taste great. I bake/boil my meats,have at least two vegs one I know they like and a green one they need to like. Pasta I try to not cook very often.I make a toss sald about 1 time a week so they know its ok to have a sald at home.I have things like seafood one or two times a week. I myself can not eat much due to the type of program I am doing so I cook but eat very little or something different.I find to lose I have to eat very simple foods. My boys understand they want mom to be thin. I they go outside and play.Teach them to do things outside and show them its ok to play outside even as a grown up. Ball,jump rope,hopscotch,and things you don't see kids do much anymore as I do these things with them they find that it is fun and I hope i am teaching them that a grown up can still do fun things,even if others stop to watch, I just say its because they want to join us but are worried about what people will say.
To cut cost I use coupons.You can buy them on ebay for like .99 and 1.39 for shipping and get a hunderd or more.Make sure they are manufacturer's coupons and check for dates,it may take a week to recive them. Sounds carzy I know but for $2 or $3 I can save $30 or more sometimes. These & walgreens coupons can be used together at walgreens,be sure to checkout there money saver book too.
I use the type of soap,cleaners,ect that I have a coupon for unless another is cheaper.
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10285115CS
5/22/08 7:23 A
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| the eating habits that you as a parent teach your children will cause your children heart ache for a life time. my parents had 11 children. they fed us all the fattening foods to fill us up. spanish rice, pasta, pancakes. everyone of my siblings have weight problems in adulthood. we did not over eat as kids. it was the types of food we were given.
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