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JONMCKENZIE
2/5/08 5:45 P
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| My wife is thin and has short hair. We have been crazy about each other for 31 yrs. Be happy with yourself and let them worry about it.
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DRTBK4EVER
2/4/08 12:08 P
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OK, I will add my thoughts, remember you asked.
Regarding the curvy vs skinny and short hair vs long debate, I have to agree with the rest of the responders, it all comes down to personal preference. Do what makes you feel the best.
I spent a few minutes looking over your photos and I get the impression that you are an attractive (wasn't sure if it is appropriate to use the word sexy in here, but it would apply), confident woman. As much as us guys find that appealling, it can also be a little intimidating as most of us are not that confident ourselves. You know the story, the really attractive women get the fewest dates.
Give yourself some time and the right person will walk into your life. You just may have to make the first move. And if you can get your photo taken with some of those "stars", this will come easy to you.
In the meantime, continue to enjoy the most special person in your life.
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wanted to add another comment on this thread
a women should wear her hair and weight so they are confortable with who she is, and not look for validation in others, depending on others for validation of who we are is part of the reason we are all here on sparks trying to lose weight
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maybe the guys giving positive comments are being supportive, it doesn't mean the like skinny better, and all men have different ideas of ideal weight/size, a few pounds either way could attract/repel different guys
on the hair length - again varies by the guy - some guys probably feel insecure about girls with short hair - you can guess the cause
my wife of 24 years wore her hair long for years, but every year it gets shorter, now its even with the bottom of her ears - she likes it, and it doesn't change who she is, so I'm OK
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| Another 'girl' putting in her 2-cents. In the 20s, long hair had been fashionable, but the 'bob' came into style. My grandfather sent my grandmother to the hairdresser to get a fashionable bob haircut, but she couldn't do it and came home with long hair. That night, while she was sleeping, he cut it. Guess he paid for that for a long time.
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| My wife had long beautiful hair and then she went and cut off over 6 inches. At first, it looked too different but now I do like it. However, to be perfectly honest, I wish she would grow it back out. Why, you ask? On her, it just looks better. Her sister, though, looks good with short hair. As for the too skinny thing, I agree, there is a such thing as too skinny. I say this because she seems too fragile and usually they don't appear to have be able to have fun because they are always worried about how they look.
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CROWNROYALLE
1/20/08 7:02 P
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Thanks THEFLASH! I thought it was a pretty stylish look for me, plus it makes my face look thinner. I don't think I need to explain that one! Anyway, I will probably let it grow out because I don't keep the same hairstyle for a long time.
And DAVIDMAC1, I would have to not eat for 3 months to even come close to having the model-rib cage-showing-waif look.
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Hey CROWNROYALLE! 
I thought your username looked familiar. Anyway, I actually like the bob haircut on the ladies. I think some guys just have the mindset that a women is supposed to have long hair for whatever reason. Well all that matters is that you like your hairstyle. Take care!
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| Good choice for tomorrow's game!
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CROWNROYALLE
1/19/08 12:21 P
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Thanks for your honesty, guys! I know I am healthy, and I am faaaar from too skinny. I think people are just used to seeing you a certain way and get a littl freaked when you change.
Okay, carry on with your manly talk! Oh, I am rooting for Green Bay since my Steelers didn't make it.
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LITTLEBIG
1/17/08 11:07 A
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I think it depends on the girl. Some women look great with short hair, others cause a shock (as stated by the mac :) ). It really just depends on if it fits the shape of your face, and there is always the other side, the preference of the "audience".
The same thing could be said about the skinny thing. I think it is personal preference, and as long as someone looks healthy, they look good.
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I have to be honest and admit that when one of my sister-in-laws had her hair cut short I was shocked-she could have passed as a military recruit!I couldn't even picture in my mind her husband kissing her.This is so psychologically ingrained in me-I have always liked to see long hair on women. Fortunately my wife doesn't mind wearing her hair moderately long.Without realizing it my daughter has picked up the vibes of my preference and cried when her hairdresser told her that she would have to get her hair cut back due to knots that had formed in it-we still have no idea how our dear child achieved such knots in her hair After it was cut it looked like the bobbed hair of the '20's and she was still quite cute and still dangerously attractive for her age (she is a teenager)We told her she looked great and we got used to seeing her with shorter hair.Now her hair has grown out again-but she doesn't plan on letting it grow as long as in the distant past-and this is probably best.I like to wear my own hair short because it requires no maintenance-and I can understand ladies not wanting to spend lots of time on their hair-so this is a factor to consider as well.Whatever you prefer wearing and maintaining is best-and hopefully your man will like your decision.
I personally do not find anorexic fashion models sexy-I like to see curves on a lady-not rib bones!
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MTRAVIS63
1/16/08 10:42 P
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Great comments on the personal preference. Don't let the comments of others sway you from what you want. With that said there is also a "common ground" in a solid bonded relationship where you might want to heed some of the desires of your partner to achieve that common ground.
My thoughts are hair is cool as long as you have some more than me - extra meat as long as it is firm is welcome - if you look like a model than you probably wouldn't be with me anyway 
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1) I could care less about the length of hair. It's whatever looks cute on that person. I've encouraged my wife to cut her short and loved it when she did it. Then loved it again when it's long. But then again, I've had green, brown, blue, and black hair. I love seeing women take a chance and change it up.
2) Guys usually say whatever it is they think the girl wants to hear. Not many guys are ever 100% honest. Personally, I think women are meant to have curves. I think Marilyn Monroe was gorgeous with her hourglass shape.
As far as the unsolicited compliments/comments...that's not just men. Women do the same. People feel, in general, that they need to acknowledge when someone has accomplished it. I lost my weight 4 years ago, and I still hear people say "Wow, I just can't believe how different you look." I finally learned to take it as a compliment and realize they do actually mean well. They just don't understand how they come across.
In the end, do what makes YOU feel right. If you like your short hair, keep it short. If you want to have more curves than not, keep your curves. You need to be happy with yourself before someone else.
matt
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HEALTHYDESIRE
1/16/08 2:22 P
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| I wish I knew for sure what my husband thinks. He says "Whatever makes you happy." I had short hair when we married and have grown it out ever since but I am getting to the age where perhaps long hair isn't appropriate. There are times (private) when he plays around with it but does that qualify as a preference indicator?
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The long hair thing.....I don't know what it is with that, but I'm the same way. My wife cut about 5-6 inches of her hair yesterday, and I think my hair is longer than hers now!LOL
As for the not "too skinny" idea, I think it's all personal ideas of what is "skinny". I like a girl with some meat on her. I have dated "skinny" chicks, and I feel like I'm going to hurt them if I hug them too hard, know what I mean?
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CROWNROYALLE
1/16/08 11:45 A
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Hey guys, I have some questions...Please feel free to speak your minds. Trust me, my feelings won't get hurt I promise!
1. Why do men loooove long hair so much on women? I got a bob haircut after Christmas and guys will say things like "Well, it will grow back quickly..." Whaaa????
2. Many guys SAY they don't want a girl that is "too skinny", but the more weight I lose the more positive feedback I get from the ones that I know. I really haven't noticed more guys hitting on me. Guess it's because of my short hair!
OK, spill it! Keep in mind with both questions I do not ask for their opinions, they just feel the need to give them to me. If you guys are smart enough to be on SparkPeople, I want your opinions!
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