I think for most women it's either an insecurity issue, or a trust issue. If they hate themselves and the way they look, they simply can't accept that a man wants to really be with them. I know because I was there at 160 lbs. It's either that or they simply can't trust their man (for various reasons, not necessarily his fault), and that leads them to overreact to things that are just not a big deal. I don't mind and don't even say anything when my boyfriend glances; I know he'll forget about a minute later like I do when I see a hot guy. The only thing we agreed on is to not make the ogling obvious so that everyone can tell. At that point it's a respect issue and it can be embarrassing. Since I got over those issues I've been much happier in relationships.
NYY_FAN 7/15/07 4:55 P
Well if it’s only wrong when they do it why do they get mad when we notice a hot chick?
I often wonder how many people who say “It is what is inside that count” are really shallow. I am shallow I admit it. Yes, what is inside is for the long term. I along with most notice the package first. Like a shiny new car but, just because the package is pretty doesn’t mean I would want it. A test drive of course a purchase maybe.
MORT430 7/14/07 6:31 P
Damned if you do and damned if you don't. Gotta love it. By the way how many women do you see looking at the buff/built guy walking through the park? Or those "cute" UPS shorts (a line from my wife.) It's only wrong when we do it.....
SNIKWAD 7/14/07 3:25 A
Exactly
EKRACINSKI 7/13/07 7:41 P
...or if the right guys don't notice.
Gotta love 'em!
TODDFMILLER 7/13/07 7:24 P
interesting
SNIKWAD 7/13/07 5:25 P
No, they only get upset if the WRONG guys notice. Make sense?
EKRACINSKI 7/13/07 3:15 P
I always thought it was rather silly of women to get all done up and then get upset when a man noticed, but maybe I am off base on that one.
Good story and certainly no one wants to be treated like a piece of meat, but it is nice when someone does notice how you look.
I will always hold the door for a lady - even a stranger - and compliment someone on their appearance. It is harder these days, but it can still be done.
SNIKWAD 7/13/07 12:03 P
Cute!
GODDESS1964 7/12/07 3:48 P
As symbolic as this might seem to you it might free me of unnecesary burden, so, pretty pretty please...allow me.
I have to apologize to you MEN. I was very hard on you. I criticized you for being...men. For being attracted to women in a visual manner, and in my mind it meant you were shallow...that you were not taking into consideration how smart, funny and sexy we were, or how nurturing, how brave and resilient, how strong, how...you get the picture.
But then, a guy friend, set me straight. He asked me why I bought a beautiful car if my old one was "fine and reliable" and I reply because i also like to see something I like, the shine, the smoth lines, and the smell, the beautiful fabric, etc...
So he made me realize I was being shallow too. In a way I wanted to protest, "A car is not a woman!" but I see the point.
So, there it is. I'm sorry. I promise not to get mad now, when you flirt with me (I am "visible" now...), and not start my engines on "Where were you when I was 200 lbs!??"
I'll just smile and remember why I bought my new car. :-) And, yes, I'll let you open the door for me.
