Nah, I don`t mind him "objectifying" me, but truth is he is very unlikely to do that... just not his personality, I guess. I will tell him that he can blame me anyways, saying I don`t want him to drink or something, which is certainly a good idea.
Thanks for the tips :) I will be looking forward any other input about how men take on dieting.
Cheers! :D
TOBOBEAR 6/1/07 5:45 P
As far as going out with co-workers and bosses.
It is pretty cool nowadays to have a drink and switch to water or soda for the second and subsequent rounds.
I go out with co-workers and bosses regularly and I invariably order a good beer for the first round and then water or a diet coke for the rest. I have four set excuses ready to roll off my tongue if anyone raises and eyebrow: 1-I have a lot of stuff to do later, so I need the caffiene. (works when the night is young and you ordered a diet coke) 2-I have to drive. (works when you are going to be driving) 3-Losing weight....so I can "get" some more. (okay this one is very manly, is a sexual innuendo, and objectifies the female fiance, but hey if you aren't nearby and not insulted by it, let him use it to cut back on the drinks, if it works and everyone is cool go ahead. (go ahead give the guy permission to use you as an excuse, it keeps him from feeling on the spot and he might just try it.) 4-Cutting back on the booze, I don't like getting silly.
Nowadays it is perfectly cool to be in a bar with bottled water.
Once the alcohol is limited, those calories are gone, which helps things, but also alcohol metabolizes differently and you are more likely to gain weight from it and subsequent calories consumed with it or soon after it.
I hope this helps.
HIHELLOBYE 6/1/07 12:58 A
Hello everyone
I was wondering if any of you can share some ideas with me. I am currently in quite a weird situation!
I`ve been a member of spark for quite a while, and used to track everything really often... Just by doing that and cooking healthy I helped my fiance lose about 10 kgs, but then we had a series of really busy months (international travel, moving, relocating) and I went off spark. Now I`m back and I am again following my programme and cooking very healthy, but my darling is not happy about his progress.
Now, motivation can only come from within, and he keeps complaining that he needs to lose weight, go to the gym, etc... Thing is he is having to travel overseas for a week every 15 days, and of course when he is out (because he doesn`t track his food) he does not control his eating. Then when he is back in the country he has so much to catch up with at work that he is super busy, super tired when he gets home and I feel bad if I remind him "Gym day today".
Now, by no means do I thin he is fat. He looks great and sexy to me, and he is my dreams come true... But he keeps saying that he wants to look better and I feel I am failing to help him get motivated!
Here is where I need advice. Having had a rather interesting set of work experiences, I am very aware that people need to go "for drinks" with workmates and bosses, and to meet clients, vendors, etc... Thing is that when I go, I don`t need or want to drink 10 beers... So I will go along, have a beer and a glass of water, and that would be it. How do you guys handle this? How did you learn to say "I`ll take the water"??
How do you plan your gym when you leave the house at 7:30 AM and come back at 8:30PM?
