She's just not ready to take up the cross yet, so to speak. Your success is making her feel guilty.
The next time the subject comes up, ask her, "Honey, on a scale of 1 to 10--1 meaning you're perfectly happy with your weight now, and 10 meaning you'll do whatever it takes to hit your target--how many points would you give yourself?"
Most people who score 6 or lower are not motivated enough to change their lifestyle.
Let her know that when she feels like a 7 or higher, you're confident that she will succeed, and that you will be there to help her.
MICKYMAZDA 10/30/06 10:21 A
Hammond, I have the same issue. My wife is very supportive of me in my weightloss efforts and wants to lose some herself. I do all the cooking at home and she's really good at sticking to the program - but as soon as one of her mates comes round, out comes the wine and nibblies and it all goes out of the window. I'm sitting there drinking nothing or diet coke and yet it's still 'It's easier for guys ... etc etc.'
Women!! - Dontcha love 'em?
KRYTEN 10/30/06 7:57 A
Hi, Hammond.
I sympathize with your plight, my wife has been nothing but supportive of me.
Does your wife need to lose weight too? If so, maybe your success is making her more aware of her failure to lose weight. If this is the case, could you make the weight loss thing into a couples event? Don't be competetive, but just be encouraging with lots of praise for every small goal.
Good luck with this, great job on your weight loss! Stuart.
HAMMOND817 10/9/06 4:18 P
My wife is jealous becuse "guys lose weight quickly" or other sinilar comments...
I have dropped 30+ pounds with healthy choices, but she still eats crap at work. Why is she doing this and then complaining when I reach another goal?
