I hear this.Im losing weight getting fit and feeling great,but......I am finding it hard to come to terms with my shrinking self.i played collage ball won a few powerlifting meets,was most of the time the strongest guy in the gym.When I stopped playing the lbs rolled on and I found myself years later at an all time high of 272.I am writing this at a weight of 230,and dont get me wrong I feel good,but being the big guy was a big part of who I was.To make it worse I lost some muscle over the years.I was 262 when I started this program and though with allowance for muscle loss that 200 would be a good place to be.As i get closer I can see its going to have to be less then 200 maybe190 or so.My arms are getting smaller Im not nearly as strong and I just feel I lack the physical presence that I once had.If im not the big guy anymore who am I. Dont quite know what to tell you bud.i guess i have to redefine myself because I was tierd of feeling like crap and my back hurt so much i was going to have to leave my job(blackjackdealer)which I love. I guess you have to ask yourself do you want to be the fat friend anymore?Good luck either way
RUSS1985 7/15/06 3:40 P
God, my old question was "What would Bluto (Blutarsky) do?" That always seemed to get me into trouble, but it also made for some great stories.
GOLFPRO 7/15/06 12:17 P
I love Nikki Sixx....but I you're definitely right about the lack of healthy lifestyle with him. hehehe I believe "Kickstart My Heart" was based on his drug overdose.
VERNONHEATHER 7/15/06 11:23 A
I think I understand where you're coming from. I'm the party animal whose life motto is "What would Nikki Sixx do?". Unfortunately this lifestyle doesn't really work with the healthy athletic being, so I'm having trouble because I feel like I'm losing myself with the weight and healthy changes. I just try to remember why I'm making the changes in the first place, and that's very personalized for all of us.
Hope that helps, and if you've got any tips - please pass them on!
Heather
CRAZY4BLUES 7/13/06 7:28 P
Lock:
Don't think of yourself as the "fat guy." Rather, think of what you can do well that most of the other guys don't (maybe something at work)--that's really who you are. Meanwhile, get on with the business of weight loss and stay focused on YOUR goals. If your buds really are cool, they'll support you and maybe even help out at the gym. If they give you a hard time and it bothers you, then, yes, they are just chumps using you as comic relief, and that's bogus. Also, think about it. If physical prowess is the only test of friendship, then they're just meatheads. Of course, not sure if that's where you're going with all of this, but you do ask a very good question.
Me, I'm probably more overweight than most of my friends, but I never see myself that way. One thing I am that most of them aren't is a guitar player, and I can RAWK! And I make sure that they know that--in a cool way. It probably doesn't hurt that I can still throw the leather around the infield, but that's a small part of who I am.
Bottom line: If your friends are cool, they'll be sincerely supportive.
LOCKWOOD44 7/13/06 10:39 A
I have come to realize that I don't know how to define myself other than the fat friend. I have really athletic friends and have come to think of my self almost as thier sidekick. Does anyone else feel like this? Like not only are you changing who you are but are unsure of how people will percive you after the change?
