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VERNONHEATHER
6/9/06 12:54 P
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Thanks for all the help guys. It went pretty much like a small disaster. He is just too stubborn and proud to realize that he's hurting himself. For the half hour we were at the pool, he swam 50m just to prove me wrong. Fortunately, he did say that he was proud of me for teaching myself to swim so well. I'll just have to wait for him to come around and be ready to help when he's willing to change.
Heather
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| Let him know how much you care about him and how worried you are. He's gonna have to want to change first.
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CHRIS.CORRADO
6/8/06 8:52 P
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| I'm more of a mopey type myself - but I do enjoy spending time with my kids, not sure how much they enjoy spending it with me :)
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BUNDORIYAGYU
6/8/06 10:01 A
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| Heather, don't know how pertinent this is, but sometimes just letting someone who is (so it sounds) at a low point in their life know that there is someone who really cares about them and their well being with no strings attached is a great boost. Try to keep it relaxed and fun and I bet you will get a pretty good response. I LOVE spending time with my very busy 28 year old daughter. It is sort of a treat for me. I asked for that for my last birthday and she flew in and spent almost a week with us. Talk about a great and positive mood! (grin).
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that's a good idea and you're not overreacting. if his mood and attitude change like mine did when i started exercising, then it's gonna make a massive difference.
you'll enjoy his company more too, and this will encourage more such 'meetings' where you can work out.
hope this helps - Mick.
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My best advice is to be honest with him. Let him know how that you're concerned about his healthy and lifestyle. Share with him exactly what you shared here.
matt
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VERNONHEATHER
5/31/06 9:16 P
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I've always believed the adage, "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink." Unfortunately, it's incredibly frustrating sometimes. My dad left my mom about a year ago, and since has been living as a (very poor) bachelor (he's got significant problems with money that I am certainly not about to get into online). His diet has gotten even worse since he left, and now he's consistently hurting himself at work (he works in a window and door factory). I am firmly convinced that if he treated his abused body a little better, he'd hold up better at work - and generally be happier (he's a pretty self-pitying kinda guy). So, for my birthday I asked him to come to the pool with me for a workout (I'm footing the bill and the pool is about a two minute walk from his house, so there's no excuses). He's agreed, but I'm worried that he just won't understand the gravity of his situation. Am I overreacting? Is he just getting older and slower? (He's 42.) I don't really enjoy the guy's company, but I want him to do something positive so he's not so mopey and miserable. Please let me know if you have any advice.
Heather
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