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| Size 10 - 12 is fat?!?!!? Try 24 - 26, Honey! Seriously, though, any guy that can't love you for who you are and be encouraging whatever the situation, you don't need. Find one (they're out there, I wasn't the last one by any stretch) who will see you for the woman you are, regardless of the package size.
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JESUSLIVES8
8/21/08 4:33 A
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I am single and have been for almost 5 years. But before that I was with my children's father for near 13 years. He would put me down a lot and tell me I only looked good in black. In fact, he'd only be seen with me if I were wearing black... because it was so "slimming" lol. Anyhoo... I went from 213 at my highest after our second child to 148 in about 5 months and kept it down through two more children... but then went through a terrible depression and went back up to about 185. He seemed to be happiest when I was most miserable. I am currently 177 but, more muscle than I was when I was with him. My goal is 134. He has gained 100 lbs. since our break up!!! He was never more than 15 lbs. over weight when we were together. I think its this beautiful thing in the Universe called... "karma!" Its very satisfying now when I see him wearing black and I am getting closer and closer to my goal weight. Oh and I rarely wear black anymore... Because even being a size 10-12 that I am now... I know how to look my best. I suggest you examine what is really making your wife insecure about you losing weight. Does she fear you'll leave her if she doesn't reach her goals? Is she serious about losing weight or is she only doing it because you wanted to? Does she support you in other ways... or is this a pattern? No matter what... you gotta follow your dream. And the goal weight you set for yourself is "heart healthy"... and if I had a husband I would do all I could to encourage him to be heart healthy. For me and our children. In fact... I'm sad for my ex because of this. I lost my own daddy just before I turned 4 to a massive heart attack. You have to do this for you... and her and your kids... no matter what she thinks, says or feels. Because ultimately, that extra weight is bad news waiting to happen! Take care and may God bless you and your family.
Dawn Marie
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| I've been through the friction of a partner being insecure /angry and making accusations out of their fears. Best thing to focus on is them and helping them understand you want to support whatever they want to become or achieve and you hope they feel the same for you. We usually only have enough time in our schedules to change one thing with great effort. the only partially acceptable response the partner can try is to feed you foods that seem fatty but are actually very healthy. avocados, Nuts, Salmon...
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JAMESKEVIN
8/16/08 5:09 P
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| A friend of mine's wife is freaking out about his weight loss..She keeps telling him the only reason why he is losing all of the weight is to cheat on her..He keeps telling her that he wouldnt but she doesnt believe him.....
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| You have to go to the weight you feel comfortable at. Right now my wife supports the weight loss but I've got tons to lose. When I'm over half way to my goal, we'll see. My goal weight will still be around 200-215 but on my 6'1 frame that should be fine. I haven't been 170-180 lbs since I was 12 and that was a long time ago. I wouldn't know what to do with myself.
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| I am finding that support for what I am trying to do is non-existant. I ahve set a goal of 160 but I was told that I would look ridiculous that thin. Personally I don't care what anyone thinks about my goal as I am only trying to make myself healthier.
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| I'm not that far off my goal but my wife tells me that she does not want me too skinny. She wants me to stop losing soon. That however will jeopardise my six pack mission. I'm not sure I can sacrifice that goal. We'll see how it goes after I've lost my last few pounds. Apart from all that though, I think the health benefits of slimming down will allow you to live longer and happier. See what she says about that.
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I do all of the cooking- so my wife and daughter supplement I what I fix by eating snacks that would be foolish for me to eat (too calorie dense to enjoy very much).My wife is having a hard time losing-and has some envy issues  but if she we eat only what I fix and other "legal foods" she could lose better.
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| My wife doesn't come out and say it, but cooks quite a bit of rich food, and makes it hard for me to lose sometimes. I think she is more concerned that she is having a hard time losing, and maybe in the back of her mind she thinks I will lose a lot and want to get rid of her for someone else. NOTHING could be further from the truth.
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| My wife keeps trying to convince me that I am at an ideal weight-she says I shouldn't lose any more.But I am 5'9" high so I have made a goal of 155 for myself-which I know will be healthier (OK with my physcians too).Anyone else here with a wife or girlfriend who thinks you have lost enough but you know you have not got to your goal?
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