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| They should be planning your bridal shower sounds like they need a kick up the butt to start helping you!
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SWEETCANELA1
2/7/08 9:53 A
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Well my sister got married last year and she was a horrible bridezilla and proud of it! So I decided I wanted to make this as painless for everyone as possible. I have tons of people assigned to assist with the wedding (hostesses & ushers,) so that no one gets burdened.
However my fiance is really picky and keeps making decisions that I don't agree with. My sister that is married and swore she would help soooo much if she was ever in a wedding now that she had one and my mother are acting very lazy and not supporting at all, trying to control decisions and practically asking me to plan my own shower which they said they would do!
All of that is stressing me out and irritating me and making me want to scream at people.
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I've been able to refocus myself by thinking, "it's just one day and the MARRIAGE is what really matters" Sometimes it's hard, but in the long run it's the marriage that needs more planning to work out than the wedding! 
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| My mother passed away almost 15 years ago, and I have others who have said they will "help" with the planning, but they are so busy. I find it hard as well, and wishing she was here to help.
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| Thanks so much! Yes, I'm insanely excited and maybe a little nervous! But all should go well. Good luck with yours. Any help, don't hesitate to spark mail me. :-) Take care n god bless ya.
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Ah you are all so sweet! It's nice to know there are other people out there in similar situations,and good luck with the wedding a week away,wow u must be so excited! Good Luck I'm sure it will be beautiful! 
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My friend Char841,
you're not the only one. I have been doing all that and more for the last 3 months, and to make matters more worse, I've planned out the entire wedding on my own because of lack of family in town. It's terrible, but at the same time, I got everything I wanted. Of course, this is been driving my man insane, and considering we're only a week away from getting married, he can't wait for the mad planning to get over! :)
Don't worry about it, stay calm, dont drive everyone mad. I know you're excited. And its hard when it's just you at the wheel.
If you need any help or advice, don't hesistate to msg me. I would love to help.
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SOFTFULLLIPS
2/3/08 10:40 P
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Char841,
I was just like you...involved with every aspect of our renewal ceremony. Both of my parents are now deceased and there were times when I wished my mom could have been there to "drive me mad."
My mom always said she would dance to "Isn't she lovely" at my wedding in honor of her and my dad. Since they are both gone now, I walked down the aisle to that song so in spirit, both of them were with me.
Enjoy it and I wish you all the absolute best. Your day will be wonderful.
(ps now that its over, I really don't know what to do with myself...lol. I was just telling my coworker to hurry up and get married so I would plan hers...lol)
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| I will cry for most of the day as well. I see other brides with their moms and I am a little jealous. Mom's are there to celebrate with you and to help with the planning. I think it is hard for fathers as well because they feel they are losing their daughters. I know there are times my dad feels he is all alone. I know on the day of the wedding my dad will be excited.
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| I don't understand why fathers are like this i know it must be hard because i quess they always thought their wife would be with them when their daughter gets married. But at he end of the day we are the bride's, it's our big day and not having our mother's there makes it even harder for us! I just know I'm going to lose it and end up crying for most of the day!
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| Hello. I know the feeling. My mom passed away when I was young. It has been difficult doing it all on my own, especially since I am planning a wedding in AZ and I live in CT. My dad is not interested and only a few family members are offering to help. I have become so involved in the planning. I keep telling myself this is one day and the marriage is for the rest of our lives. After the wedding is over you will be married. Even if the wedding doesn't go perfectly you will have stories to share and pictures to look at. We will all make it through it even though we feel insane at times!
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| Hi Char841! When I get too engrossed in the planning details, I try to remind myself that all I REALLY care about is that at the end of the day we are MARRIED!!! It makes linens and invitations seem insignificant.
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Hello girls! Is it just me or do u find yourself constantly thinking wedding WEDDING WEDDING! Every day I'm thinking I need to order this, I want to lose weight, will enough people come, what if something goes wrong, how will i look in my dress? It's driving me mad! I'm so excited! and I love planning and organising things! and then I just think what will I do when it's all over?! I don't want it to be a big let down!
I must be boring my sister (my bridesmaid) and my friends because all I can think and talk about is my wedding! I'm panning it all myself with some help of my sister and fiancé. My mum passed away nearly four years ago and my dad isn't very interested in any o the preparations I feel like I'm going insane!
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