Hi Zhenji, It sounds like you're feeling really overwhelmed. When I get this way, it helps me just to spend time alone with my fiance. He knows how to calm me down and help me remember the real reason we are getting married. If you try that, once you have refocused, maybe you will be able to talk through things with your family more calmly.
Take a deep breath...
ZHENJI 1/29/08 12:12 P
I was just visiting my brother and his family. My mother came too and we had lots of stuff to plan for the wedding. My brother has always seen himself as my father, however I do have a father and I want him at my wedding - my brother doesn't understand this. To prevent any issues, I decided there would be no one walking me down the aisle, my fiance and I are meeting at one point and walking together as equals.
I am having a beach wedding and my mother was asking about something really tacky, I don't even remember now. My brother started asking me questions about my wedding in a very strong way. I told him I was feeling overwhelmed and he continued. Finally I started crying and I yelled at him to shut up and leave the room. I cried for about an hour. My mother then told me I was being a spoil brat and that I'm not a child.
I felt so hurt. My sister in law told me my brother was upset I was not getting him involved more. However, when I told him I was getting married he questioned my timing because he's daughter is graduating from high school and he doesn't have the money for a wedding and graduation.
So my question, how are you dealing with all these emotions, stress and family that doesn't care who you are?
