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KLEVERKIRA
1/11/08 9:21 A
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THUMBSHOES
1/10/08 5:38 P
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I am in the same boat. I am marrying a Canadian and the Visa process it long and drawn out! We have set and re-set dates a total of 4 times. I have a deposit on a community center (it's actually GORGEOUS on lake front property) that I will not lose my deposit on as long as I reschedule a date. You could look into something like that. I'm sure there are other venues that you can reserve and not lose the deposit on as long as you reschedule the date. I also found it to be the same with my caterer.
The problem with keeping friends and family updated is certainly a tough one. I never did figure this one out!
I've run into the issue now that my fiancee most probably will be able to move here by March and the next available date for my venue and caterer isn't until July. With some soul searching I determined I would rather marry him now, save the money (for a good start and save for down payment on our first home!) and do a simple ceremony at our church.
This could also be a good idea for pulling something together without an exact date. We've decided anyone is welcome to come and we will provide cake only. That way once we do know when he will be here we can set a date with at least a months notice for friends and family and be able to pull it together without too much forethought.
Yeah, it's not the dream wedding I had planned 2 months ago. But the important part is being 1.) Being in the same country and 2.) starting our lives together in financially solid.
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MISSKATECARR
1/10/08 4:37 P
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Thanks so much for all of the replies. Unfortunately, next year is really out of the question because it will be difficult for him to get time off and approval to travel off base (he is Special Operations Warfare). We will have our marriage certificate before he ships out to begin training, but I want the big party, too!!!
I think I will start getting together the idea for the theme and try to do as many details as I can over the summer. A friend also suggested that I contact a wedding planner or two who might be familiar and connected enough to throw a quick affair together.
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ROSEGARDENER
1/9/08 3:58 P
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I'm there too. No date for me yet. My situation may be different in that I won't have a real large wedding since it isn't my first and I am 58. I do want a small nice wedding with my family and friends. I once thought about having it in my yard in the fall sometime, but not sure. The guy in my life hasn't decided when he will retire and move in with me (wedding) so need to make up our mind whether to go ahead and get married and live apart -200 miles- or wait. Lots of decisions.
You are in a similar situation. I am going to make as many plans as possible, then if have to scratch them, just show up at church and tell my minister to marry us.
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That's definitely a tricky situation. Yours is a little harder than mine. I'm just trying to get my fiance to set a specific date.
It really is hard to try and plan anything. You could get the dresses ordered and get the idea for your flowers in, as well as some catering information, so that the people that you will be working with will at least be prepared for when you do set the time.
I do agree with ICTOANA, though....it may be easier to postpone for a year, if that's a possibility for you.
I wish I could offer more help!
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That is a little tricky.
Have you considered waiting until next year when you might have a more 'set' schedule? Or you could forgo the big wedding and get married at the local courthouse? I know that they don't really seem like the dream wedding you have envisioned, but the point is to be married, not have a wedding.
I wish you both all the luck in the world and hope that you can find a great solution.
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MISSKATECARR
1/8/08 4:44 P
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Hi all,
My fiance is in the military and his schedule is a bit out of whack. We both want a Fall wedding, but I won't be able to set an exact date for quite some time (probably not until July or August). Looking for advice. What sort of details can I clear up now without knowing a date? How should I handle details that I can't fully prepare for (like reserving a venue, etc.) What should I tell the wedding party and close family who may be concerned about getting time off, etc.
Yikes!!
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