I know exactly what you are going through. My now husband was just the same. He wasnt interested in anything, until I was making decisions myself. Then if there was anything he actually didnt like he soon told me, which I must be honest was a little bit annoying. But I went ahead and arranged everything I wanted, if there was anything he actually had an opinion on then I listened and tweaked the plans to keep him happy as well. We had our special day on the 21st September and it went great. He really got into the celebrations, (he even mingled with both families, which was unlike him), and it was wonderful. My advice would be to go ahead and plan it, just tell him as you go along, and he will either go along with your plans, (I think some men are just not party/family/get together/arrangeing people) or react badly, and then you will have to re-evauluate you relationship. (sorry about the bad spelling)
ITOLDUSO07 10/1/07 3:47 A
Ok so we have been engaged since May and I have sort of started planning what we want to do. The thing is he doesnt really want the whole big wedding thing, he would just be fine with a JP and a ring and then saving up some money and going to Australia or some other amazing place. Thats not what I want at all. I want the dress and the flowers and the pictures and the first dance, and that dance with my dad. I ask him for his opinion and because I dont want to do it how he wants to, he says he doesnt care. I cant plan this whole thing all by myself. I tried to tell him that every little girl dreams of the day when she will get married, and its not just in front of a JP. I want the memories and the pictures to show my kids and grandkids some day. But he just doesnt feel like what he says matters, it matters to me so much, but we only end up fighting about the whole thing, and putting it off for weeks until I bring it up again. I know this is supposed to be a happy time in our life, but its just stressing me out. What can I do to get him to help me out? Any ideas would be helpfull, thanks.
