It sounds like your sister is being a little immature. I know a lot of people don't like when you say "This is my wedding," but the truth is that it is your wedding and it's your decision who is in your bridal party, not your sister.
LOLA926 7/5/07 6:54 P
You should talk to your sister
ELFKITTY 7/5/07 4:31 P
You should probably get an answer from your sister. She's being incredibly rude to not accept or decline, and she really should understand your reasons behind everything! So rude.
ANSCHUIER 7/5/07 11:10 A
First of all, even though this sounds harsh, you may want to back away from the "This is MY wedding" thoughts. I do agree, though, that it is your decision whom you would like to include in your bridal party, and it is completely allowable for you to ask two people to be in the "MOH" role. I think like Angie said, you may just want to say to your sister, "I really would like you to be part of the bridal party and would love to have you standing up next to me on the big day, but I do need to know if you will be able to do that so I can get a better handle on the planning."
As for the fact that she is moving, you can plan weddings from long distances- all of my girls are in different cities- and my wedding is in a different city from where I am now. I'm not saying it will be easy, but it can be done. Keep your chin up- I'm sure things will work out!
ANGIE+3 7/5/07 10:49 A
I have asked my sister and best friend to both be bridesmaids. Didnt mention 'maid' or 'matron' of honour. Clearly its a little late for you now, but I am giving my bridesmaids different responibilities. My best mate has been helping me with the artistic side of things, handmade invitations, accessorie shopping, thngs like that, and my sister is helping by motivating me to lose weight, exercise, healthy eating, dress trials, she is also arranging to hen party, and she will have the glamourous job of helping me go to the toilet on the big day. Try to make sure both know they are special to you and appriciated. If your sister doesnt co-operate let her know you are not happy and if she doesnt want to 'share' this important role then you would rather know sooner rather than later as this is one problem you could do without.
VIRGEN410 7/5/07 7:44 A
Your sister should be grateful you chose her to participate in your wedding.
JESSICALRN 7/4/07 9:17 P
I chose my best friend as my maid of honor and my only sister as my matron of honor. It has been almost a month now and my sister still has not accepted or declined my offer. My sister feels as though she shouldn't have to "share the role" because she is my only sister but we are not close and never have been. Plus, my sister is moving to NC this summer and my wedding is in MA. What should I do? I thought this was my wedding!!!!
