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BLUESPARKLEZ
12/13/07 8:38 A
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| I haven't decided yet, but I thinking I might just hyphnate and for social settings just use his last name. The great thing is, he doesn't care....at least not yet.
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This has been a debate between us. I'd really like to keep my last name, it's my last connection to my dad. My FI on the other hand would really like me to take his. I might hyphenate, but I'm really not sure yet.
I have time to decide. We're not getting married right away. We want to save first.
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SNARKYKITTEN
12/11/07 1:34 A
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If you want to keep your last name, then do it. What you want to do with your name matters more than what he wants you to do. It's your name, not his name so he shouldn't get a say in the matter.
There's nothing stopping you from legally and professionally having one name and socially being known by another name. I'm not changing my name and neither I, nor my FH, care if someone calls either of us by the wrong name.
When people ask me if I'm taking his name, I like to joke that it'd be too confusing for both of us to be "John Smith".
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SUGARBEE81
12/10/07 10:51 P
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This topic has actually given me nightmares even though I haven't spoken to anyone about it. I have a big family and they mean everything to me. Even though there are members of the family to carry the name on I want it to stay with me; however, I do want the same last name as kids later on ...
so I've liked the idea that a few of you have mentioned: I'm putting my maiden name hyphenated onto my second name so it's with me even though I'll still be "Mrs. hubby"... as I read someone else say :)Not many people will know and if they do it wouldn't really bother anyone.
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FISHWATER
12/8/07 11:39 A
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| i want to keep my last name, but my honey wants me to take his. i just hate the thought of changing the drivers license, passport, ss card, etc. what a pain! i am also a teacher and am getting married in oct. so the students will meet me in august under one name and then have to switch?
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COCOABELLE
12/7/07 7:10 P
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Hmm...am I the only one keeping my last name?
I don't see the point in changing the name I grew up with. Many of our friends also kept their last names, which are obviously the same names they use in their professional careers (if that makes a difference?) Maybe I just live in a liberal city.
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| i vote for Mcfield, but somehow it sounds like a veggie burger! ha-ha
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JCOOLCASH11
12/5/07 12:49 P
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| I like your idea of combining them, that is cute! My name would be brumdonald or mcfield. For Brumfield (his) and McDonald (mine)
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FISHWATER
12/3/07 10:40 P
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touchy topic! i've been married before, but he hasn't. i want to keep my name, but he wants me to take his. we both have boring names: anderson and smith. i have joked about blending them: Mrs. Andersmith or Mrs. Smanderson!
before, i took my maiden name as a middle name, no hyphen. i also think it depends on the length. you don't want to be Stratzinski-fausenbauer!!!! LOL!
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SNARKYKITTEN
12/3/07 9:43 P
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| I'm keeping mine. He jokes about hyphenating, but he'd have to hyphenate too. I'm not going to be the only one with an 18 letter last name, plus a hyphen. Even if I wanted to change my name, I couldn't go farther than hyphenating because I have publications under my name.
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| I thought about hyphenating- but I just can't do it. I'm keeping my name the way it is. I too have had it for 25 years and I love it. I can't stand his- so it's an easy decision.
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NOTBLUSHING
12/3/07 1:19 P
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| I added his name after mine, so I technically have two last names, but refuse to hyphenate. I still go by my maiden name, because people just don't get it.
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CHERRYSK8FAN
12/3/07 2:13 A
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I'm really thinking about it, for the same reasons as the original poster! Unfortunately, I foresee it being a somewhat intense discussion with both my fiance, who doesn't understand that it's not that I don't want his last name, it's just that I don't want to give mine up, and my family, who are quite traditional, and since I typically have been too, will probably not understand me taking a different approach on the issue.
I've thought about keeping my last name as my middle name, but I really love my current middle name, as it belongs to one of my favorite aunts. And, I mean...it's my name, isn't it? I'm really fighting having to give it up, after 22 years, I'm pretty attached to it.
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| I totally agree with why the last two ladies aren't hypenating their last names, I would never saddle any future children with two last names, its just something I want to take on for myself :)
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| haha Kira I am 100% with ya!! Being born with a hyphenated name definitely changes the way you think about this issue! I'm so ready to ditch the syllables!
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KLEVERKIRA
11/30/07 2:16 P
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| My name is ALREADY hyphenated because both my brother and I have my mom's last name and my dad's last name. People joke about whether I'll triple-hyphenate, but I'm ready to get rid of my maiden name. Hyphenating is more common nowadays, but it's still a hassle having to emphasize to people that the WHOLE thing is my last name. I'm definitely downsizing to just one name!
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| Up until a few months ago I had always thought I would just change my name to his...but now that I think about it I would like to hypenate. For 27 years I've had this name and liked it and in my career I am known by this name...so to join us together I will hyphenate. My last name is very simple and his is more original so it won't sound too bad at all, and when we have children they will just have his last name.
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LAURAKAYKS
11/30/07 11:42 A
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| I love my last name, so I thought about hyphenating. The problem is that my name is already two words and quite long. I will become quite a mouthful. My father said no matter what i change my name to he will only call me by my husbands last name. Guess he is hardcore oldschool
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DUBLINROSE
11/29/07 5:18 A
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| I thought about doing it that way too...our daughter has both our names and I don't want her father and me to have something different to her but its too long and besides I'm very proud of the name I was born with so I'm just keeping that. His mother is having a fit over it but its easier this way.
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CHERYLHURT
11/28/07 8:52 P
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| I loved changing my name!
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| My future husband's last name has such a lovely ring when paired with my first name so I am really excited about it!
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I have hated my last name forever and CAN'T WAIT to change it!!!! I am so excited to trade in my old name for a shiny new one! I've already got a gmail account and my skype account using my married name and we're not even officially engaged yet LOL.
As for hyphenating, I don't recommend it. As the owner of a hyphenated name, I know whereof I speak. The double name is actually the main reason I hate my last name so much, and have b*tched to my parents dozens of times over the years for sticking this label on me. Cannot wait for my new ONE-WORD last name!!
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RIVERLESS
11/14/07 2:19 P
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| My name would be way too long if I hyphenated... so I'm just going to take his name. I don't necessarily like his last name... but it's important to him, so I'll do it.
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| I'll be hypenating too, and my fiance is understanding enough to let us hyphenate our childrens' names, if we have any! I'm an only child, and my father is an only child, and with me, our name will end, since no one is left in his family. So it is very important to me to keep the name going, I guess! Our family will sound very "ethnic" though, it'll be funny...my fiance has a very italian last name, and I have a very french name...they are long names with lots of vowels involved! Hopefully our kids won't be made fun of!
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ILOVERIVERS
11/14/07 1:15 P
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| I am hyphenating for similar reasons to a lot of you. My family is very small and it's important to me to have the same last name as them. My fiance and I both have hard to pronounce last names, so we joke that our kids will have a terrible time when they get to school!
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I might hyphenate... or just take his full last name. I'm not 100% sure just yet. All I know, though, is that for immediately after the wedding, on paper I'm keeping my last name until after our Honeymoon cruise that we're taking in 2008. I've been reading too many horror stories lately about how slow the passport system has been that I'm paranoid I'll not get the passport officialized with my new last name in time for our cruise.
After the cruise, I'll go through the 10-mile-long list of things to do in order to change my name... ugh what an awful hassle it all seems. Credit cards, subscriptions, bank accounts, social security cards, IDs and licenses, insurance, any place you owe money to or have monthly bills with... on and on and on...
Makes me glad I'm using the cruise as and excuse to delay the change for now. :)
I told my fiance, though - don't worry, I'll only be Ms. Kellyro on paper - to all friends socially, I'll be Mrs. Hubby.
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AQUAMARINE5
8/28/07 3:58 P
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I'm keeping my name. I already have my mother's maiden name as a middle name. . . that's enough names for me. I am also known in my profession by my current last name, so for that and many other reasons I won't be changing.
Really I just assumed no one changed their names anymore. Honestly I was surprised when friends started getting married and changing their names.
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BRITTANY898
8/15/07 1:11 P
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I'm definitely hyphenating. "Why?" you may ask...
well, his last name is Ellis
mine is Goodenough (pronounced good-e-nuff..just like the word).
Honestly..why would I give up that magic to be plain old Brittany Ellis. Although...my initials will be BNG-E...like..a binge eater or drinker..oh well!
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| I think I would be sad to completely give up my last name. I am going to tack it on as a second middle name even though my new last name is 10 letters long.
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| I was always planning on hyphenating.. Until I realized my fiance had the same last name initial as me... Which would make me... A-S-S. Oops.
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| I had always thought I'd keep my last name when I got married but now that the time has come I'm just going to change it. I want my last name to be the same as my children's - when I have them. I have friends who've hyphenated and people use their married name anyways.
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| Tanist, Idon't blame you for not wanting to saddle yourself with his name! My fiance definitely wants me to change my name, but we were talking about it last night, and my biggest hang up is his mom's name is Susan, and mine is Suzanne. So essentially, I would just be another Susie Wireman. When I told him that, he said, I know, I'm sorry, but that was really out of his hands. Then he proposed that we make up our own name. I just busted out laughing. . . He said he wasn't too attached to his name, but wanted us to have the same name. You should have heard some of the new last names he proposed! Whenit's all said and done I will probably change to his name and only my family and lifelong friends will call me Susie, everyone else will call me Suzanne and that will be the defining line between his mom and me.
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| My last name is very common. My mom's maiden name was even more common. I think I will take my maiden name as my second middle name as someone mentioned, if I get married. That's a whole lot of names though!
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THNDRCLOUD
8/10/07 11:20 P
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| Nope. Both our names are very common and if you put them together it ends up sounding pretentious. I'm not particularly attached to my name and I'm looking forward to sharing his.
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JOESWIFEY1004
8/10/07 4:44 P
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| I am hyphenating. This is my 2nd marriage and it is just too hard to change everything.
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I dropped my middle name (which I didn't really like) and replaced it with my maiden name. No hyphenating though.
You just fill out a form and send a certified copy of your wedding license to the social security office. That's step one. Then all the other name change stuff is based on that.
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| I'm having a hard time with because I want to hyphenate but my fiance isn't too happy about it. But I have two teenage boys and I don't want to have a different last name as them. I also have had my name for 32 years and my first and last name go together so well - Tanis Tower - and I honestly don't really like his last name. Tanis Glascock - I just don't know. I don't want to disappoint him, but it doesn't feel right to not have my kid's last name also. (Their last name is my maiden name, so it's not like I am keeping an ex's last name or anything) What do you think?
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That's part of my reason for hypenating too. My dad has passed on and I know that it would just make his day to know that his little girl kept his name.
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| I'll be hyphenating my name. I have an extremely small family, about six of us, so it's important to me to keep my family name.
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| My surname is out the window. Cant wait to have the same surname as my future husband and kids. Its not giving up a part of myself, its accepting our new married life together. Also my name is A Nunn, been teased about it forever. Parents clearly didnt think of that while naming me. Goodbye, A Nunn, hello Mrs Angela Poskitt. Cant wait. X
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MARVINA1216
7/3/07 11:04 P
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| I'm not hyphenating because I want to have the same name as my family (husband and future children) but I am taking my maiden name as a second middle name.
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I had thought about hyphenating until I met my fiancee! My last name is pretty long, but his is even longer. Plus I cant wait to take his name, for me it is not giving up a part of myself to change my name, I am looking forward to it. I know alot of people that have hyphenated their names, I would if the names went good together, or maybe if they werent so long.
Best wishes on your upcoming wedding!
Lola
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I am planning on hyphenating my name. My main reason behind that is I have had my name for 25 years and I shouldn't have to give up a part of myself to become a part of a couple. Not to mention, I love my name.
How many of ya'll are planning on doing the hypenating thing? Also, what is the actual process for doing a legal name change??? 
BTW - I am getting married on 8/25/07 and anyone who wants to be my wedding weight loss buddy - let me know : )
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