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MRSPRINCESS07
7/30/07 5:06 P
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| I think you do whats best for YOU!!! Also keep in mind if yo uget healthy now, it'll be easier to maintain throughout your life. So do it now before you have children, bc as I have been told; it only gets hard to lose the weight after that point.
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| Do what is good for you and what will make you happy...if your fiance loves you then he will support you no matter what!
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| I agree with the suggestion telling him what your doctors said. It's a health issue. There are many Sparkpeople articles in the Health Center about this: more weight = heart and lungs, etc work harder than they need to. Also, risk increases for a host of diseases (e.g., cancers, heart disease, diabetes, etc). I agree that it sounds a little fishy that he does not want you to go below 195. However, very simply, it's a health issue. You're doing your part to stay around (with him) for a very long time!
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he loves you right?
then he should let you do what you want with YOUR body!
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JCJSKI5645
7/6/07 10:15 A
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| This doesn't sound good... he should support your decision to lose weight, unless of course you were trying to lose so much weight that you became unhealthy.
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| I agree! This is about YOU, NOT HIM! You need to have a serious talk with him, and explain to him what YOU want!
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FOLLOWURHEART35
6/29/07 7:11 A
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| I agree. This isn't about him, ur not doing it for him, u are doing it for you and he should be happy that you want to contine to lead a healthy lifestyle!
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| Does he watch you on the scales? He is a man, probably wont even realise if you were to lose another 10 on top, lol. You have to do what YOU wnat to do. If you feel healthier and happier losing a little bit moe ten go for it. X
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CARLAROSE1
6/28/07 11:28 P
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And so it begins... do what I want or what he wants... I say do what YOU want, but in a compromising way.
Sit your fiance down and begin with a little flattery, "you've lost so much weight, it's inspiring me to look better too." Then explain that it's not about the numbers on the scale, or what size clothes you wear, but that the most important thing to you is that you feel the way YOU want to on your wedding day.
After all, weddings are all about the bride. (:
Then set a mutual goal of eating healthy, exercising together, and working twoards feeling good about your self.
Go with what the doctor's have advised, and maybe compromise around 170 pounds?
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My fiance says I look perfectly lovely at 195 pounds and doesn't want me to lose more than 10 pounds. I am big boned, but short, and tend to carry a lot of muscle, so I look 165 instead of my 195, but still I think I should get down to 165. At 165 I wear a 12.
Because I weigh as much as I do, I feel very insecure, but even my doctors don't want me going below 165, because my ribs seriously stick out then.
I know my BMI is about 33, but I don't go entirely by BMI. My body composition (through underwater weighing) said that my lean body mass weighs 135 pounds, so a healthy weight for me would be 165-173.
How do I get my fiance to agree to me losing more than 10 pounds? He thinks I obsess about my weight too much. He's recently gone down from 290 to 170 and I hate that I do everything correct to lose weight but I can't do it.
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