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MRS.JURECZKI
4/2/07 10:19 A
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| We have that problem too....he does it all the time and doesnt mean anything by it...but to me he is makin fun of me and stuff...but he says hes just ticklin me or just playin around and that i am the most beautiful woman ever...that makes me feel better but i still feel fat and i still feel like hes doin it to make fun of me...my son does it too...but he only does it cause i do it to him...like ticklin and playin around...i can see if he says mean stuff to hurt you...my ex did that...and thats why he is my ex!!!!
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JOYFULSERENITY
4/1/07 10:26 A
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I have had it out numerous times in the past with my fiance for doing similar things to me...it's not been pretty, and we have almost called it quits several times. I had to let him know, straight up, how much his comments and his actions hurt my feelings and damage our relationship. It doesn't make me feel attractive, which in turn doesn't make me want to be close to him... you see the spiral I am going down? I let him know I was fully aware of how much I needed to lose to feel good and that HE had nothing to do with it. I think my shift of focus from HIM to ME was the problem... the more time I spent with myself, to get myself healthy and happy, the more time I wasn't spending on him... and I think that scared him. I also know that I am a good catch, when I feel good about myself... and with him being a jealous person, he was probably feeling a little uncomfortable that I was starting to get attention again.
Lay down the law... not only because it has the possibility of ruining your relationship, but you owe it to yourself not to put up with that kind of bologna. You were someone BEFORE you were with him... you both need to remember that.
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| Does he think that's helpful?! I hate guys like that. You should tell him how hurtful that is and if he still does it, I would seriously consider if you want to spend the rest of you life with him. There are going to be times in you life together that you will probably gain weight (like having kids) and you will not want to deal with his bull on top of everything.
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| I totally agree... is this REALLY the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with????
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CHEWIEKIKI
3/25/07 9:43 A
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| I would never put up with that. Not for one minute.
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SMILEYSMO
3/24/07 11:46 P
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| i am very upset!!! my fiance (just lately) has really been getting on me about my weight, and not in a supportive way. he makes rude comments and grabs my fat all the time. =(
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