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| I am 21, a college bride, and I have already been engaged for nearly two years! I get doubly weird reactions because of my age and because my fiance is also a bride, although she is almost 30 and finished college years ago. I don't really care what people think though. We're getting married in June of 08 and I'll be going to law school in the Fall of 09 after I graduate and I can't wait for any of it!
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Oh how wonderful to read other people in the same boat!
I really don't mind the looks/questions too much, I can also usually convince them that I will be 25 when i get married and together with my man for 7 years by then!
The funny thing is, in my country anyway, it is deemed less of a commitment/big step in one's life if you buy a house with your b/f or g/f, than if you get married! That just makes me laugh really...I mean, come on: getting a mortgage and having the responsibility of owning a home is so much more of a 'big step' to me than getting married: that just feels natural.
Anyway, we get to look young & glowing at our weddings, right?
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BRANDY1891
6/14/07 10:14 P
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| I'm graduating Dec. 15, 2007 and getting married Dec. 22. I'm more excited to get married, but it will be a huge relief to be done w/my degree! So far, I'm just doing the planning stuff any spare moment I get!
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PAINTED.BLUE
6/3/07 3:45 P
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| I'm 27 and a senior in college. I'll be graduating May 6 2008 and getting married May 17, 2008. Then I'll be moving at the end of July 2008....what a crazy few months that will be!
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| this yera supposed to be my senior year but i managed to fail one too many classes so i will have another semestre to clean them all up and afterwards i will make my way to get my masters. And i am about to get engaged. we are together for three years now. people often tell me how i will manage marriage and school together and they are afraid i will not get my degree but this is just too pesimistic.
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NANCYKHERRERA
6/2/07 2:49 P
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| yes. i am 24 and starting az state this fall and getting married this January.
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I am just going to finish my undergrad 6-16-2007  and then I want to go right into getting my Masters after the wedding!!! 
Congrats to all and good luck!!! 
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AMBERLEY2003
6/2/07 8:29 A
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| I am also a college bride. I will be working on my doctorate when we get married. I think that there is a right time for people to get married, if you can afford it and you will be happy with the situation go for it!
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FHOTMAMA2384
5/31/07 11:06 P
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Hi to all, I am also a college bride. I go to North Georgia College & State University. I am 22 years old and I will not graduate until 1 year after our wedding (June 2008). It's hard and stressful planning a wedding, studing for your future and trying to lose weight to look your best, but it will be well worth it once we walk down that aisle.
Keep up the good work everybody!!!
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SAMURAIBRIDE516
5/30/07 11:59 P
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I am a college bride and a young one at that. I just turned 19 and I know what it feels like to have people look at me like I am nuts when I say I am on a diet for my wedding, even if it is two years away. I'd love to have some support or just someone else in the same boat as me. It'd be great to have someone to relate to. Email me if you'd like to chat (heathersherman516"at"yahoo"dot"com)
Heather
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GINGER01604
5/30/07 10:44 A
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Both My FI and I are in school. He will be finishing up school in December and I won't until next June. His family is not too happy about us getting married before we both are out of school, but we want to do it during the summer and we don't want to wait a full year before we get married.
I have gotten more problems for us being young than I have for us being in College. I don't listen to it. I know that My FI and I are perfect for each other and that we will last.
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| I will officially graduate 12 days after my wedding..so I guess I am still a college bride. I'm 23 now and my Fiance is 30, we've been together since April 2005 and less than 2 months until the wedding! Everyone gave me a hard time b/c I didn't want to go out and get drunk anymore..but now they're all ready to settle down and I'm already settled!
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| Hi! I am engaged and in college! My fiance proposed my first semester in college. I am going to be a Jr. in the fall and we have finally set a date! 10-31-09... Halloween! The long engagement has been nice, lately I've been in full research mode. Two and a half years isn't that far away, considering that the past two have flew by!
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SIOBHANCOREY
5/13/07 4:26 A
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| My guy and I have been dating since sophmore year of high school (now college senior), so my family was totally in the "its about time" boat. His parents seemed a little worried since they didn't meet and marry until way later in life, and thought he should date around a lot more, but they like me and all and his mom is totally jealous of my friggen GORGEOUS ring. People who I meet for the first time do tend to look at me like I'm a little nuts for getting married, but how many people date for 6 years before getting engaged, not to mention its a 2 year engagement (thank goodness I'll have time to drop all this weight!) so I'll be 22 and we'll have been together 8 years before getting married! I think that is more than enough! My parents were only together a few months before getting married for goodness sake, and they are still happily married. I can really relate with LIPGLOSSQUEEN, I go to UCSC and I have 2 roomates who never want to marry or have children, and they aren't much of a minority around here.
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LIPGLOSSQUEEN
5/11/07 7:59 P
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Yeah, I joined so I could look better in my dress. I go to Northwestern University and most people look at me like I am crazy. Most people I talk to are not dating and do not want to get married. I don't care. I am in love and am getting married. My parents are furious. They think I am too young. Oh, well. The wedding is in July of '08. :)
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Hi! I just joined today and found this board. I'm an Ohio State University bride to be! I should be graduating next year and my wedding is in January. I'm' so excited--I already have THE dress, I just want it to be smaller by the time I actually get to wear it! Yea, sometimes I get strange looks when people notice my ring...but I did take more than two years off to travel and whatnot before going back to finish my undergrad and I'm 26 years old which I think is a perfectly respectable marrying age! ;)
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KATIEJOYNER
5/8/07 8:59 A
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| Yeah, I'm a 20 year old college bride set to get married in the middle of my senior year's fall semester... which means this October! I'm incredibly excited about it, but I do get a LOT of looks! Most of them are pretty justified because we're not taking a honeymoon until December, and the wedding will be right in the middle of a ton of exams and external rotations. However, it's nothing we can't handle, and our friends and family know that. We definitely have their support, it's the people who don't really know us who are worried! Oh, well!
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I am currently completing the last class in my BBA program (5 more weeks!!) I still have a final project to turn in before July 15th and then I really will be finished!! We are planning our wedding for September 22, and I am planning on entering the Masters program in October!
Planning a wedding and working on finishing up school and working full time makes for a very busy life, but I have waited a long time for the man who is perfect for me, so I am going to enjoy every second of it!
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I know the look as well! Some people go as far as to say stuff too. I don't want to hear about how being married is not worth it from people who aren't happy with their own marriages, I wish people would at least try to be positive! Not everyone hates their spouses, people need to remember why they got married in the first place. As for being too young... maturity is of importance.
I will graduate in June and be married next Feb. And Todd has been out of college for a couple years.
I'd rahter be young and married then in my mid 30's waiting for someone, and wondering "will anyone want to be with me?"
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ALYCEWALKER
5/7/07 6:00 P
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| hello everyone. i can definately relate to all of you girls in the board. i was 18 and had just graduated high school a couple of months earlier when my fiance proposed. i was very suprised since i was so young and thought that maybe be would wait a while and knew that i was going to catch a lot of grief from everyone but i couldn't say no. i know what we have togethor and i wouldn't break his heart just because of fear that people would look down upon me. i'm 19 now and he is 25 and we are busy planning our wedding that will be on August 11th and i wouldn't have it any other way!!! i've learned to let it go in one ear and out the other...although believe me this one guy i went to school with made me sooo mad i could have killed him. he was a complete ...well ass. i am happy, he is happy, and both of our families are happy and i couldnt care less anymore about the funny looks i get when i tell people im getting married.
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TWINKLE_TWINKLE
4/19/07 8:07 P
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| I'm at the end of my sophomore year, and I just got engaged around Valentine's Day. We set the date for the fall after I plan on graduating, so it's still a couple years off...I don't really get the look that much from people. But I do go to a small private school, and my FI is 7 years older than me. And I think most of my sisters were expecting it more than I was. The proposal kinda came out of the blue for me! But I love him anyways!
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I'm a first year senior in college,I changed my major so I'll be a super super senior when I graduate. I've been engaged for about a year and a half and were set to get married this coming December. But because I changed my major and have 3 semesters left now we are going to move it back.
I ALWAYS get looks from people. They either think I'm too young, or that I don't really know what I want. The worst part is that he is a pre-med major...but he wasn't one when we met, dated or got engaged, yet people assume I'm just a gold-digger trying to tie him down...
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Yep, college bride here. Our wedding was originally planned for two weeks after I graduate in December, but we bumped it up to May (we're getting married next month!). I get mixed reactions: either a congratulations or are you serious? I guess some people see it as "throwing away" your life, but if that's the case, I found who I want to throw my life away with, haha. :)
And I don't know, maybe it is a disease, but I found out who my friends were really quickly when they found out we were engaged. It didn't change anything since we have always been inseperable. Eh...
Congrats ladies!
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BESKINNYNOW
4/2/07 5:22 P
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| I got engaged this last Christmas, I'm graduating in 26 days and getting married on June 16th. We didn't really get weird looks at all, or if we have, we haven't noticed them. We've been dating for two years and were best friends before that, so maybe that had something to do with it.
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SECRETSUPERHERO
4/1/07 11:14 P
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| Jessyann, I totally understand the having a hard time doing it all thing. You're definetly not alone in that! My program is very intensive, as well as working and I have a volunteer job and planning the wedding...so I feel your pain! Remember, though, it'll all get better. I just have to keep telling myself what is going to come of my getting a good education and having a hard time now. Not that my profession (Early Childhood Education) is particularly well paid...but ya know. It's the thought that counts, right?
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| I am a college bride but in my town in Texas it is pretty normal, my fiancee and I are about the right age. My problem is people dont think I am as old as I am so at first I get "the look" but then when they find out I am 23 they think it is ok. I am not sure which way is more insulting. I am set to graduate in August (getting married in October) and my biggest problem is being able to do it all. For me right now priority one is school. Then I work full time and we are trying to purchase a house and planning for the wedding is too exhausting and too much pressure. I have all the big things done it is all the little details and getting everything together. If i can survive to August I can do anything. If it werent for spark I would be gaining weight instead of losing. Is anyone else having trouble "doing it all?" My relationship is definately suffering but fortunately he understands and knows it will get better. I just hope it does. Thanks for letting me vent.
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SECRETSUPERHERO
4/1/07 6:18 P
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Yep, I'm another college bride...I get the looks all the time. I'm getting married this summer. At that point (actually, at the end of this month) I will be half way through my program. I graduate in April 2008, but then I will likely return for an extra two years to complete my full Bachelor's degree.
But oh man, am I used to the looks. Especially since I'm in a limited entry program of all girls, most of whom think I'm completely insane, and have no problems telling me so. Sigh.
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| I just recently got engaged and no one has really made any comments about the fact that I'm young or anything. My FI will graduate in May but I still have 2 years left. Going to school, working, and trying to plan for a wedding is A LOT! but thankfully we have a long engagement, 15 more months, so that should give me plenty of time to get everything done!
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GLASGIRL05
3/28/07 11:28 A
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| I'm actually not engaged yet. My boyfriend and I decided to wait till I graduate in a year and a half, but I can relate to the looks. I get a lot of grief by my family and friends for just knowing that I found the man I want to marry. But you just can't let it bother you. A lot of people who cast judgement either don't know how it feels to be in that situation or are pestimistic about finding love. It's their baggage not yours so don't let them make you feel bad.
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KATIE1317
3/27/07 10:50 P
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| I have a girl competing with me about everything, and she has been dating her guy for 5 months. I am taking it slow (we'll have a year and a half engagement). She comes to work and rubs it in that she found her dress etc. All I have is a date, a location, and a lot of ideas!
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AMANDA_K28
3/26/07 6:29 P
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| So far I haven't gotten any looks or comments other than congradulations. My mom just told me to take it slow...which we are (2 year engagement). But I do like to remind her that when she was my age she was already married with two kids! :P I think that being married at 23 will be a good age and I'm not too concerned about what anyone else has to say about it.
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SHEGLITTERS
3/26/07 10:58 A
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Krogell,
I have too gotten the look. I'm graduating this May and getting married in June, so of course it's stressful. I got engaged as a sophomore, at 19 (My FI is 6 yeas older) More than anything though, I've noticed my engagement has sparked some shall I say, "copycats?" girls pushing their boyfriends... after 6 months of dating... yikes.
anyway, my professors all look at me as if I'm ruining my life (most are divorced!), but the students just think I'm silly.
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KATIE1317
3/24/07 11:06 A
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I haven't gotten strange looks (I'm actually one of the last to get engaged in my class, strangly!) I graduate in May and am in the middle of my student teaching. It's stressing me out because I seem to have no time to do anything wedding related! I'm relying on my mom A LOT! I also work full time on top of that!
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PEACHES0199
3/23/07 7:45 P
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| I am a college bride also and I really haven't gotten a lot of strange looks.
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AUDREYOFACDC
3/23/07 7:06 P
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Howdy fellow college brides. My fiance and I will both be going back (after a year off) this coming fall. Our wedding is the first of Dec so that will be right before our finals (yippy)! At least we will have time for our honeymoon on break and we will need it.
I havent had any strange looks yet, at least not from people we know. We are actually getting comments from my in laws about not having kids soon enough and continueing school. I am 20 and FI is 23. I dont plan to have kids till well after grad school. That was about the oddest thing so far.
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| Joe and I are both graduating in May and it's actually been quite the opposite for us. Our families and friends are kinda of like "It's about time!" I did get a little bit of that attitude from sorority sisters and my old roomate, though. But I think a lot of that comes from people having just a little teeny smidgen of jealousy. Maybe it's because I'm from the south and have been best friends with him since I was 7, but no one seems too negative or condesending (sp?).
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i'm not actually engaged yet, but most of my friends consider me to be as well as engaged already and many people mistake my boyfriend and i for being married already, it gets a little ridiculous, but i don't anticipate anyone being surprised when we do decide to get married
on the other hand though, i know another couple who are both freshman and have only known each other a matter of months and are engaged...that even i think is ridiculous, not htat i have anything against people getting married young if they're ready, but you ought to give it more than two months...
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I'm a college bride. I definitely relate to the "look". I go to a very large school and I am currently in a couple relationships class with about 150 students. There is only one other person who is engaged. My professor is always talking about what we are looking for in our life partner, if we believe in love at first site, and other questions. Every one is like what about you Leslie, was it love at first site for you? Are you sure you want to get married young etc... It gets old.
He is 6 years older than me and that throws some people off also. C'est la vie!
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MEL_TENNIS
3/11/07 2:39 P
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i know what its like to have people tell you "you're too young"
I'm a senior, and will graduate May 2008. We are getting married May 2007. I know it'll be tuff, but I wouldn't be doing it if I didn't think I could
Just ignore people's comments like that - only you know you are ready...no body else!
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BURGUNDY_LILY
3/11/07 1:23 P
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I just graduated in December (I got engaged during my junior year), and I am SO familiar with the crazy look from other people! No one ever said anything directly to me, but you know they're thinking "she's too young."
It helps knowing that maturity counts for a lot more than age. There are 30-year-olds, 40-year-olds, and beyond who may not be mature enough to get married! And people who know me well know I'm not the type of person to get married on a whim -- I'm a pretty grounded person!
Classmates weren't the biggest problem for me -- it's actually been people I work with. At internships and at my current full-time job, my middle-aged co-workers have been less-than-discreet about expressing their shock that I'm engaged. I just tell myself "They found me mature enough to hire for this job, so they shouldn't be shocked that I'm mature enough to get married."
Hang in there! As long as you know you're getting married for the right reasons and at the right time for YOU, who cares what other people think (easier said than done, I know).
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| Are there any other girls in college who are engaged? It would be nice to get some support! I know when I tell some of my classmates I am engaged, they look at me like I am crazy! I get treated like I had a disease. But it doesn't matter! I love my man!
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