I think that it would be great to chat with you. I will PM you with my contact info ... that way we don't always have to go through the site ... unless that is what you prefer.
PRINCESSMELOKIA 7/5/06 1:39 P
I don't think it's ever too early to start planning. My wedding isn't until July7, 2007 and I'm already planning and feel like I'm rushing for time. My son is 5. I would love to chat further with you and maybe we can be each other's shoulder to lean on. . . feel free to privately message me if you would like.
JOTRKMOMMY 7/5/06 1:13 P
Well, maybe we will give each other someone to talk to. How old is your son? My daughter is two, and Ryan is helpful like you say that Stan is. We have sat and talked about lots of different ideas and plans. He is actually the one who found what we are going to do for our reception. But I can't talk to any of my family ... They don't even want to hear it. And the ones that aren't telling me that I'm messing up are telling me that I'm planning too soon. What do you think?
PRINCESSMELOKIA 7/5/06 12:42 P
I have the exact same problem. . . I was married once before. I have a wonderful son from that marriage and my ex wants nothing to do with my son. I don't even know where he lives or anything. I am now engaged to a wonderful man. . . On our second date, my kid put his arms around him and said, "this is my dad." He was so proud to call Stan daddy. My mom and dad aren't that thrilled about the marriage and everytime I've brought ideas to them, they shoot them down and make me feel really angry and sad. I don't even know if they will come to the wedding. Thankfully, my fiance is excited and welcomes all ideas I've brought to him.
JOTRKMOMMY 6/30/06 10:02 A
I have been married before, and it was a huge mistake. The only thing that came out of it was my daughter, and my ex never sees her or comes/calls to check on her. I am glad for this, because he was a cheater, a liar, and a drug addict/dealer, and I didn't know how deep he was in until it was too late. She doesn't need him around anyway, and she saw him so infrequently before, that if she were to see him today, she wouldn't know him and woud probably fear him, since she is somewhat shy.
Now? I have found a wonderful man who I love with all my heart. He loves me also, and we are planning our wedding for Dec 2009. He is also planning to adopt my daughter (if I can get her father to stop holding onto her to use her), and she calls him Daddy. But sice I had the bad marriage the first time around, no one is excited for me ... other than me.
I can't talk to my mother about our plans because she thinks I am stupid to "be getting into that mess again", and I can't talk to my father, because he already thinks Ryan and I have been moving too fast in our relationship. So does the rest of my family. I don't have a lot of local friends, and the ones that I have think I am planning too early, so whenever I try to talk to them about things, they seem very unenthused.
It certainly makes for a lonely bride-to-be. But to his credit, Ryan is there for me, and excited with me. He is more than willing to talk to me about our plans, and he keeps himself involved. But I can't really talk to him the way I would talk to a "girlfriend", you know.
