If you are all on email, how about coming up with a list of things you'd like to be able to do - send it out to the other girls, saying "here's what I'd like to do to help, and these are the ones I CAN do. Would any of you be able to help out with some of these? I'm sure (the bride) would really appreciate it if we do all we can to help her."
Or something along those lines. Maybe they just need a leader, or someone to give them ideas?
Good luck!
UOFIGIRL 3/20/06 3:04 P
Wow, that is strange!
I was just asked to be a bridesmaid on Saturday, and I've already volunteered help with the centerpieces, and I want to start planning a shower or a bachelorette party (I'm thinking a wine tasting would be fun... and I know a place that would set that up... then we can go out to the bars). All this, and I live 5 hours away.
I'm really excited since she was a WONDERFUL bridesmaid for me, and I really want to return the favor. It seems like a pity that the other maids are not as excited as you are.
PSUWIEST 3/20/06 8:46 A
I agree that it's too bad they're not more motivated to help with the wedding.
Possibly you could e-mail them once a week with an update of how your planning is going. And maybe just say that, by the way, these are the things I'm going to work on this week for the bachelorette party(decorations, making reservations, etc). They might get the hint that they could pitch in and do a couple things.
I think it's great you're so motivated to help out. My mom is not in the same state as I am and I know she feels like you do, that she wishes she could help more. As a bride, it's great to know that people want to be involved.
ASHLEYUVA 3/18/06 6:35 P
That's sad they aren't being more helpful, but how wonderful are you to be so concerned! If you all have been friends for so long, hopefully you can share your concerns with them. I would love to have my bridesmaids do more, but I know they do what they can and would do anything I asked of them! We brides do realize that you all have lives, and hopefully everyone just pitches in the best they can!
ARMONIA 3/18/06 12:23 P
Hi, I was just asked by a friend of mine to be her bridesmaid. I am leaving my job in GERMANY early in order to come to her wedding. I feel like becasue I'm so far away and I won'T be there to stuff invitations or help with the shower that I'm missing out. So, I voluntereed to do the bacholorette party (I'll be back in time) and I've been trying to motivate the other brides maids (best friends since ..forever) to do more. They aren'T doing a thing. I have the idea that bridesmaids should be at the brides beck and call and my friend has 6 maids, so it shouldn'T be too demanding. I just wish I was there. Anyone have any suggestions on how to motivate the other maids, or what I can do to help overseas?
