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TEACHERINPINK
2/24/06 4:09 P
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| My fiance has the best advice for brides-to-be on their guys....he says something like thi," Sometimes we might say we don't care, but we like to be asked. Don't think we don't care about the wedding or take it personaly--there are just some things that we're happy for you to make the decision for. But, if we have an opinion, please take it into consideration." I think this is a great way to put it, because some things he really did have an opinion on and other things he didn't, so we've had a pretty peaceful planning experience
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AURORAVLAD
2/24/06 1:11 P
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| I don' want a wedding, he does. So we're working on the plans together...mostly, he says "lets have a swing themed wedding" and I say "Brian Setzer or Squirell Nut Zipper's style swing" and we sigh and say, whatever.
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JESSANDDAN
2/24/06 8:46 A
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hi Hoochifyd
i am also having red bridesmade dresses and wanting red and white tulips for my wedding! I am in australia and getting married in May so i am going to be paying a bit for them but its something i really want. As for my fiancee's input, i wish he would! Everything i suggest he is like "it is up to you it is your day", but i agree that it is just as much his day as it is mine!
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| April... tulips should be relatively inexpensive in April :)
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| One way to cut costs is with flowers. Depending on when your wedding is depends on the $$. For example tulips are more expensive in the fall than in the spring.
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2BMRSFOWLER
2/23/06 10:49 A
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Either the red or black dresses will look great with gray tuxes. Man-- I just love the sound of gray tuxes... I wonder if I can talk my fiance into that one!
As for making decisions... my fiance was interested in the details at first, but we're 8 months into it now, and he asks me to please keep the wedding talk to a minimum (probably because that's all I'd talk about if he let me!).
It's great that your fiance is interested-- so many people forget that the groom is just as important as the bride!
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HOOCHIFYD
2/23/06 10:48 A
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| Ooo! Great! I don't know why I didn't think of that!! My mom's favorite flower is a tulip... she's gonna love that idea :) Thanks!!
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HITCHEDIN06
2/23/06 10:44 A
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Well, so far, he's been great. I thought it would be really hard to get him to make a decision on stuff, but I discovered he really actually listens to me, and takes my thoughts into consideration. I knew there was a reason I said "yes!" ;)
Anyway, thanks for all the feedback. I'm thinking of doing apple red for my bridesmaid dresses now... that will go with gray or black, and I have always really loved red at weddings. I'm trying now to decide about the flowers... I think once we pick a date, I'll look at which flowers are in season. Anyone have ideas for April flowers (that are either red or white)? :)
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| My finacee has been completely great about the wedding plans but also lets the little things up to me (like colors, centerpieces). With my mom and sister both being out of state and my other BM just giving birth in the beginning of my planning process, I was extremely grateful he was there.
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My fiancee is completely into the planning. And seriously I truthfully couldn't have done most of the planning without him. I would have gone crazy.
As for the black dresses and the grey tuxes, that would be an awesome color combination. The only thing you would have to do now is find flowers that would work with that combination. Pastel colors would get washed out so you would need something bright that would 'pop' out.
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DANCER1007
2/21/06 8:33 P
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| ha although my fiance is very helpful with the wedding planning when I ask him to be, pretty much I pick a color and he says oh thats girly but thats fine. He thinks its our day but you've been dreaming about this your whole life so ill leave it up to you. So it works out well
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| My fiance is one who is involved a lot too, his choice... He got upset thinking my mom and I were doing things without him. Then he gets stressed and says he wants nothing to do with it.
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WENDIASHTON
2/21/06 11:40 A
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| I think it was old tradition that brides planned everything. My fiance has helped me plan EVERY LITTLE DETAIL, including agreeing on flowers, cake, colors, invitations, decorations, dress, & tuxes. nd the few weddings I remember, the grooms helped plan, like my sister's husband.
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HOOCHIFYD
2/21/06 11:36 A
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Hey ladies... only a week engaged, and wouldn't you know, we already started making plans :) Well, not formal plans... we don't have a date set or location, but started getting ideas on what we would like to do.
I announced to my fiance that I'd like black bridesmaid dresses, and let each girl find the best dress for themselves (so they could find something flattering). He got really upset that he wasn't included in the discussion of colors, because black dresses meant he couldn't wear gray tuxes. Not that he was set on that, but he was upset that he didn't get any say in the matter before I made up my mind.
So honestly, was I being overzealous? Has anyone else's fiance expressed interest or had any say in their colors, or other wedding details? He is the first guy I've ever heard of that actually had opinions on how to do stuff for the wedding... but now that I know he cares, I have to consult him on everything. It will be good to have someone else to plan with... but hard having to debate everything.
Any advice on this one??
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