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GOTHICFATTY
5/31/08 8:54 P
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| yep i agree, they say theirs and i say mine thats why im still here , goes both ways
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MANDIETERRIER
5/30/08 3:08 P
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A goal is a good thing to have, whatever it is. You can adjust in the future if you need too.
That being said.
I really don't see the other people who posted in this thread as trying to ruin your goal. Just trying to be helpful.
If you are going to post a new topic, then expect replies good, bad or indifferent. That is the beauty of the message board. People with different views than ours. If you don't want to hear it then don't post.
PS. If you think that I or anyone that has posted in this thread is judgmental, then don't go and visit any other MB's we are kittens compared to the sharks at the other boards.
You don't have to answer because I will not be back here. Good luck to you in your goal.
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GOTHICFATTY
5/30/08 1:37 P
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oh i just wanted to tell everyone, when you set a goal that your happy with stick to it! no matter who thinks its wrong or right, because in the end its your life you know what works for yourself.
letting people ruin my goals is what got me here at this weight and stoped me from alot of things. so no matter how rediculas it seems to others stick to it. if you want to say i want to loose 50 pounds so i can have a hamburger in 20010 well go for it ha ha if it helps you to get to where you will be happy. you will find out for yourself in the end.
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GOTHICFATTY
5/30/08 1:30 P
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| i started weight watchers myself cause im waiting to come up with the money for the etools and meetings but i found how many points i should have and a counculater online, this was 3 days ago, ive lost 2 pounds allready. . cant wait to start the meetings, i need the support more than anything
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GOTHICFATTY
5/28/08 3:21 P
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| thank you, you said what i feel, i guess its hard to get the right words out, you know what you want to do and how to get there but sometimes you dont know how to say it ha ha.
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ROBBIE3982
5/28/08 8:56 A
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Ok, glad to hear that you have good reasoning for picking 145. I think some people get really stuck on the number on the scale even though they didn't have any real logic as to why they picked it in the first place. If you've been there before though, then you know how you feel at that weight and that's a good jumping off point for your goal.
I think as long as you and your fiance agree on what needs to be accomplished before you get married then there's no problem. I think this is just like anything else in life, everyone is going to have their own opinions. You guys just have to do what's right for you and what makes you happy :). Good luck!
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GOTHICFATTY
5/28/08 3:39 A
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| if it takes 2 years so be it. we allready have our bond, the wedding is just an event to us that we want to be tottaly happy at. of course we are both restless but its mainly cause losing weight and getting healthy is not an over night process.
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GOTHICFATTY
5/28/08 3:36 A
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its not about the scale, its about how you feel or at least how i feel, i wish i was fat and healthy but im not, im fat and have health issues, i wish i could say everything is just happy beautiful but its not. you cant be too happy when your in pain.
as for the 145 i was there a few years ago and thats the weight im comfertable at, if i cant get there so be it as long as i can get better, but thats just a target and goal to go towards
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| I think that it is great that you want to lose the weight, but like everyone is telling you, be careful and have fun while you are doing this. My sister is getting married next month, I would hate it if she was stress out because she was just watching the scale the whole time.
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WICKED-WITCH
5/28/08 12:59 A
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I really think you weren't listening to AMK. She wasn't trying to insult or judge you. I think she gave good advice.
What happens if it takes you 2 years until you lose the weight? I'm not waiting to get to my goal weight to get married or, for that matter, be happy.
Just something to think about.
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ROBBIE3982
5/27/08 9:30 P
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I think you should be really careful about setting your goal around a size. I think being happy with yourself is a great goal, but sizes are so subjective! One brand's 12 is another's 6, especially when it comes to formal wear. wedding dresses usually run at least a size or 2 smaller than normal clothes.
I think even setting a weight can be a bit tricky. Don't forget that muscle weighs more than fat, so even if you loved the way you looked at 145 at one time you may get the same look at 160 with more muscle. Obviously goal setting is a good thing, I'm just trying to suggest you keep an open mind about possibly re-evaluating on the way. Good luck with your weight loss!
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ASHLEYCHRIS3
5/27/08 3:45 P
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| i feel the same way. i went to davids bridal a while ago and fell in love with a dress and when i looked at the size i got really upset. i dont want to be a size 18...my senior prom...which was 2 years ago i was a size 4...i at least want to be down to a size 8 or 6 before i think about buying a dress.
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| I wasn't trying to insult you at all... I was trying to make you realize that you don't have to drop a certain number of pounds to be happy! I think that if your motivation is to feel good and be healthy then that is great...just the impression that I got was that you only wanted to lose weight to look good on your wedding day, and I didn't want you to be miserable waiting to get married. I'm sorry, I was just trying to help...really not to insult, but I'm sorry you took it that way.
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GOTHICFATTY
5/26/08 4:52 P
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| thank you, its good that you have support and a buddy system its hard to do it on your own, i realize this now. i want to be tottaly happy on my wedding day.
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I understand your desire to feel good on your wedding day. I'm engaged, too, and I'd like to lose about 40 pounds before we get married. Luckily for me, there is no pressure for time, because we won't get married until I'm done with law school. It sounds like your fiance is being supportive of your weight loss goals, and that's great. Just be consistent with what you do, eat properly and work out regularly, and you'll see results. For me, consistency is the hardest thing, so I'm buddying up with my sister so we're accountable to someone other than ourselves. I'm almost two weeks in, and I've lost 5 pounds. You can reach your goals, just keep working toward them.
Good luck!
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GOTHICFATTY
5/25/08 1:27 P
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Serious? hahaha! well we have a child together , a home, if that’s not serious than children don't mean anything.
he wants me to be totally happy on our wedding day not miserable and acting like im happy, he knows me pretty well and he knows my love for him.
but my wedding is not my motivation, its my daughter, my health, the new start will be my fiancé, daughter and I legalizing our bond when we are all healthy, happy and have the ENERGY to get threw our wedding day.
I came to this sight for support and encouragement not insults or judgments, especially from people that do not know the situation to begin with.
If I listened to everyone about how to run my life I would not have what I have now.
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| I understand your reasoning for wanting to lose weight, and I know that a wedding is MAJOR motivation, but don't you think you're being a little selfish? Your fiance wants to marry YOU, not you minus 5 dress sizes. I think it's great that you want to be around for your daughter, but I think you should at least set a wedding date. Then your fiance will know you're serious about your relationship, and it will give you a date to work for! Good Luck!
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GOTHICFATTY
5/23/08 11:23 P
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| i know my fiancee is getting restless but i would not be happy at my own wedding if im not happy with myself. ive got a beautifull dress alleady, but a size 20 , i cant fit into it, but that is still to big i want to be in a size 12, but the dress can be takin in. but this is not why im doing the weight loss. im so afraide ill die before my daughter is 18, im not a young mother now. i feel like my life is over right now, i want to get it back and have energy again. my diet starts money at weight watchers, hopefully it will be open cause its a holiday
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