I had the same situation. I picked out my colors and thought I was all set, BUT when I took my girls to try on dresses I fell in love with a dress that didn;t come in anything close to any of my colors, but I fell in love with the dress in black. Needless to say my colors changed from pale mauve, ivory, and teal blue to black, red and ivory. It worked out better because the colors are more formal and elegant and we're having a formal wedding. Plus black and red are typically traditional Spanish colors so it fits my theme. Red and black also happens to be the same colors as the color of our high school where we met so it made it more special. I say do whatever you want, its your day. And the more personalization you can put into it the better ;)
PIRISH 5/28/08 9:51 A
The only thing bridesmaids have to do is show up at the wedding. Everything else is just icing. That said, most bridesmaids will go with you to try on dresses (for you and them), arrange a wedding shower if your family doesn't, and arrange a bachelorette party. If you want your BM to be more actively involved, I would suggest asking them to do stuff with you that doesn't include wedding stuff (so they don't feel like all they're around for is to help with the wedding). After that, maybe hint at having them throw you a shower? Also, distance plays a role as well. I don't know how far away your bridesmaids live from you, but, if it's halfway across the country, you shouldn't expect them to do anything at all. However, if they're just across the city or down the street, I think they should probably do more or at least as much as they can.
With the MOH/BM issue, is there any way to just have BM and not label anyone as MOH? For us, if we can't do three of each, we're not going to be using the labels of MOH and Best Man because we don't think it's fair to the person who isn't the MOH or Best Man and they may feel like the odd one out. In your situation, where you've revoked the MOH title, I could see this being a way to avoid further issues even more. I would suggest completely getting rid of the MOH title or asking another woman to be a bridesmaid.
As for colors...good luck. I've flip-flopped on this issue so many times (and I've still got a year until our wedding!). I think the biggest thing here is, if you want the Steeler theme, ask yourself how easy it would be to switch to that color scheme. If the answer is "very easy" and you really want it, then change it. If the answer is "not easy at all," then don't do it or maybe only have the Steeler colors pop up in random places (undergarments, groom's cake, napkins, etc.) so you still have that element there, but it's not the primary theme.
I hope I helped a little.
STEELER74386 5/28/08 7:57 A
update i emaild her first and i told her that my fiances cousin he is going to ask him to be best man and we all dec. that it would be wierd if they wrent paired up together. and i told her since she is going to florida you wouldnt have to worry about paying for the bach. party. and i told her that she could be paired up with my brother since she knows him. (her mom is like really controling over her and like she has a fit about guys shes over prot. of her she s like forty years old) but anway she emailed me back and said great i dont have to worry about paying for anything just the dress and the boots and shoes.. she wasnt mad, but when i talked to her she only gave me like one word answers and i could tell in her voice that she was upset and like idk peeved. i havent heard from her since sunday. and like as for the dress thign her mom has to be there and stuff its like hello i dont want to pick out augly dress...but i did go on davids bridal and i was just playing around and i seen a dress that woudl be suitable for her and i liked the cover the jacket i liked. i swear if this was all gonna be a big deal to her then i would of asked someone else.......oh well....i thought all bm and the moh had to help with the bridal shower?????.......my fiances cousins wife was fine whenever i asked her she was cool about it.
MRSFOOTE2B 5/28/08 7:29 A
It's your wedding. Do what YOU want to do. So what if everyone is annoyed that you've changed your mind a million times? It's your parrogative. As far as the changing of the moh, that's a tricky one. I don't know how you would tell her without hurting her feelings. Why don't you ask her if she's up to the challenge first before replacing her? I don't know the whole situation, so I'm just throwing ideas out there. Good luck!
STEELER74386 5/23/08 6:43 A
i prob. spelled that wrong, but i am a blonde lol. anyway ok i thought that i had my colors picked out. victorian lilac and peach.....when i was online yesterday looking fot steeler garters i seen alot of steeler black and gold wedding stuff. football is in my blood i bleed black and gold. and i came up with alot of more ideas for that than the country wedding. i know people will kill me but nothing is set in stone yet. i cant make up my mind. there still will be country music playing along with other stuff. idk what to do. plus i fig. out to change the moh to the bm and the one bm to the moh since my fiance is goign to ask his cousin to be best man that way they are paired up together and she can handle the bach. party, bridal party etc. since she has been threw this stuff before. what or how do i tell mymoh without hurting her feelings? also should i just keep it vic. lilac and peach even though about honestly 97$ of my clothes are steelers sttire plus got alot of autographs from steeler players past and present. i know people prob. think that i am wacky on here complaing stresed obsessed bridezilla if u can call it that.
